Maintaining a relationship is hard work. The early days are rightfully called the ‘honeymoon period’ of any relationship, with long conversations, sharing of interests and generally getting to know each other. But it takes effort to take the partnership to a deeper level.
Maintain eye contact
It sounds obvious but is an interesting way to deepen a conversation without words being spoken, as it increases intimacy. The eyes are the windows to our soul and the deeper one looks into them the deeper they can see into our very being. Our vulnerabilities are visible through our eyes, and maintaining eye contact is an established way of offering oneself up for intimacy.
Paying attention to what the other person is saying seems like such a simple tip, but this is something which we all fail to do at times. We are so caught up in our daily schedules, in our work and ourselves that we hardly have time to really sit down and listen to others. We give them a cursory hearing and feel better that our job is done. This only helps separate people and creates misunderstandings and tension. You will find that if you really listen to someone, you can gauge a lot about the person through the nuances of his voice than what he is actually saying.
This is the key to understanding. We often have to compromise on a lot of small things in order to realize the greater goals of togetherness. For example, it doesn’t really matter if your partner refuses to like the TV show that you are such a fan of. At the end of the day, will these things count or will issues like trust, dependence, love be counted? So accept the fact that your partner is an individual entity with individual likes and dislikes that may not be in accordance with your own. Acceptance holds the key to a successful relationship.
Have a laugh
Laughing together is another important activity because it helps us unwind and is also the perfect way to make a fight dissolve. Laughing is not just something we do at a joke but it is an established way of social interaction and resolving undefined tensions between people.
Finding common interests is very important. Let the seven year itch not get you or your relationship down. Find and pursue common interests together. There are only so much of sweet nothings which you can whisper in the course of a relationship. Finding common interests will help you both grow together.