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Book Reviews – November

Lasting Love
Pan Macmillan
Katherine and Gay Hendricks

If you want to know how to have a long and successful marriage then you should ask someone who knows, such as these two authors. Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks have been happily married for 23 years and are an actual living example lasting love. The advice in this book is therefore all the more believeable (particularly when many alternative books simply feature scientists telling us the psychology of happiness rather than demonstrating it). By studying people in successful long-term committed relationships Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have found five things in common among all of them. Lasting Love grew out of the Hendricks’ laboratory of their 23-year marriage as well as their 10-year study of more than 2,000 long-term, committed couples. These two authors don’t pull any punches either. They start right off with the fact that you must take responsibility for your actions as it is only after taking responsibility for your actions that you can change them and take responsibility for your relationship. So the first secret is to understand commitment and take responsibility for a new kind of commitment. The remaining secrets are emotional honesty, establishing a no-blame relationship, dealing with unequal amounts of creative energy being put into the relationship, and engaging in acts of appreciation on a daily basis. Each one of the secrets is examined in detail as the authors describe the problem, give examples of dialogue between couples that demonstrates the problem, and clearly define the path for moving forward. This is not a quick-fix book but one that you may want to read and re-read and reflect on how you can change your relationship for the better with a great deal of honesty, communication and a little hard work! Here are a few of the basics they recommend:
* Spend time expressing your own creativity rather than focusing on “fixing” your partner
* Eliminate the barrier to speaking and hearing the truth about everything
* Break the cycle of blame and criticism
* Make commitments you can really stand by
* Become a master of verbal and nonverbal appreciation
RRP $30 but only $27 if you buy from the SheSaid Bookshop


Career Advice you wish your mum had told you
Pennon Publishing
Heather and Karen Miles

Mums know everything, right? Ever heard that mantra? My mum has certainly told me that, but after reading this book, maybe that isn?t so? Career Advice you wish your mum had told you explains all in the title. Mother and daughter team Heather and Karen Miles explains simple step by step strategies for dealing everything generic problem to come up in your career ? from technophobe bosses to coaching your own team to succeed. They write in a simple, rational way, explaining each step along the way to ensure you understand (just like your mum would!) It?s probably best for women who are starting out in a career and not sure of the right way to handle things, although even Natalie Bloom from Bloom Cosmetics said she wished she?d read this book before she started her business! The fact is: mums know almost everything. And for the few things they don?t know, just read this book!
RRP $24.95 but only $22.46 if you buy from the
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Cool for Cats
Pan Macmillan
Jessica Adams

After a failed relationship, Linda gets an offer to work for a Punk and New Wave music magazine. Coming from a small town in England, she finds her self on a rollercoaster of discovery in cosmopolitan London. Her interaction with the other characters is at times cringe-worthy, others triumphant. This helps the story become honest and addictive. Well researched from the music angle and lots of attention to detail to plot, this book would appeal to lovers of music and lovers alike.
RRP $22.00 but only $19.80 if you buy from the
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Single White Email
Pan Macmillan
Jessica Adams

Victoria Shepworth has just had a disastrous breakup with the man she thought was ?the one?. After being informed by a psychic that she will meet her soul mate on the Internet she sets out to find this man, with a little help from ?Bill the Boffin? from upstairs. Will her hopes of ending her Saturdays nights alone come true? Or will she find herself out with her friends in a desperate female pack, or watching videos alone at her place. An entertaining glimpse into the technological future of dating and love…
RRP $22.00 but only $19.80 if you buy from the
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I’m a Believer
Pan Macmillan
Jessica Adams

After Mark?s girlfriend Catherine dies in a tragic car accident, he finds her communicating with him in ways he never thought possible. He finds himself in the position of having to sort his life out, as Catherine was the glue holding him together. This is a funny, yet tender look at loss and love, and how one man finds his way through both.
RRP $22.00 but only $19.80 if you buy from the
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The Reckoning
Orion Publishing Co
Patricia Tyrrell

Cate is a 15-year-old wild child, traversing the Western American countryside with a middle aged man. But this man isn?t her father, nor her lover. It?s the man who kidnapped her from her parents at the age of three and has been rearing her ever since. And now he has decided it?s time to return her to her true parents.
This is a fascinating concept for a story but unfortunately the book doesn?t do the idea justice. The characters aren?t entirely real ? although we see the story through the eyes of Cate, we never truly understand her (although maybe that?s because she doesn?t really understand herself). Her mother is equally confusing and the characters seem to resolve their issues without fully explaining to the reader why or how. It?s an interesting read but doesn’t quite get there.
RRP $26.95 but only $24.26 if you buy from the
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