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Sex before marriage?

27/08/2011 14780 Views 12 Posts Reply to Discussion Posted by miimz90

Posted by Editor

Sydney, Australia, 29/12/2010

A new study has found that couples that wait to have sex after they marry have a better marriage and sex life. The American study found that relationships tend to be much more stable and satisfying for those who do not have sex before marriage, with a higher level of happiness in their sex lives.

Experts say that this could be due to improved communication and understanding the importance of focusing on all aspects of a relationship.

What do you think? Do you know any couples who have abstained before marriage?

Posted by maxbliss

adelaide, 31/12/2010

No I dont..and I was married in the early 80s and family/siblings and friends of that time all lived with each other before marrying, thus having had sex
With the specifics of the survey being unstated, as to factors such as duration of time together before marrying, relative ages of couples, was religion the basis for abstinence, was everything other than penetration allowed or disallowed ...you wonder if the survey is entirely reliable?...Sounds like bible-belt areas/populations in USA were probably targeted as these would indeed reflect the results of this survey.
Clearly, the survey didn't include failed marriages ending in separation or divorce, but only those couples still married!

You take a car for a test drive, you inspect a house before you buy -sometimes many times over before the transaction=so why on earth would you not have sex with your partner... before even knowing whether marriage will be on the cards
Sex before marriage, is alive and well in today's society...and should not be looked down on or shunned

Its a personal choice, but over-generalisation such as what this survey suggests, makes everyone who did have sex before marriage question their lives.
ps...oh and how many marriages have resulted because of an unwanted pregnancy? ...

Posted by jay2abbey

CAREY PARK,WA, 09/01/2011

Sadly I don't know any couple who has abstained before marriage, I certainly didn't lol but I totally agree that alot more people would be happy if there was no sex before marriage. I sometime wish the pill was never invented, the world would certainly be alot different without it.

Posted by chasmic

vic, 09/01/2011

Ok, Sex before marriage. I may belong to a religion but that is not my reason for choosing to abstain. My boyfriend so happens to be similar viewed.

For me, sex is an invasion of modesty, but also something I want to save as a gift I cannot give to anybody but the man that I love for life. Any other gift I can give to anybody, so it is not so special, but sex, kids, they are just for him. Think about giving away your heart, that inevitably happens for more than one person in your life usually. Giving someone jewelry, such as an engagement ring, may not often happen more than once but it is something a lot easier to give away, it is a thing, sure it is a committment but think about the committments we break. 1st time sex is something you can only give to one person, well unless you count to three in the threesome and get penetrated by more than one person at the same time on your 1st time. Point being, 1st time sex, is a gift usually given to 1 person and once that has happened, it cannot be 1st time sex after that. For me, I'd like to think I gave that gift I can only give once, in terms of 1st time sex, to the person I love for life, marriage is a committment that is for life in terms of the promises made. I would rather have the promises made before going ahead and giving that to my most special person in the world, than not.

Another benefit, less risk of STI.

I know I am young, but my boyfriend and I love our relationship, we do not need

Posted by nicole22

, 12/04/2011

I think it should be everybody's own choice but people that do obtain until marriage shouldn't be judged because of that choice.
However I do agree with the fact that sex takes away the focus of getting to know each other and we get driven by physical attraction.
I'm in a relationship now where we were good friends for four years without any physical interaction and I feel that has given us such a strong base which is hard to achieve if sex comes in between all the time.
I now have a best friend and partner and lover, something I've never had due to the fact that it always started with a sexual relationship.

Posted by sandonato

Varsity Lakes,QLD, 21/07/2011

Damned if you do damned if you don't.I believe in love/lust/respect relationships....Just do what YOU BOTH feel is rright for you......People stay together or they don't..What does pre-marital anything have to do with anything????

Posted by susanluo

beijing, 25/07/2011

Sadly I don't know any couple who has abstained before marriage, I certainly didn't lol but I totally agree that alot more people would be happy if there was no sex before marriage.

Posted by topicyang

victoria, 26/07/2011

People stay together or they don't..What does pre-marital anything have to do with anything

Posted by qinniq27

Australia, 02/08/2011

I'm neither for or against sex before marriage. it's all about finding the right person you love, trust and cherish.. When you're ready, you're ready. You don't need a ring on your finger to determine when you're ready for sex or not...

Posted by Charlie050

Wauchope, 04/08/2011

What if you waited until marriage and then found that you weren't compatible sex partners?

Posted by sandonato

Varsity Lakes,QLD, 05/08/2011

It's a choice made between two consenting adults and I for one know in retrospect we could change anything.What works for you in the moment works for you.Love conquers just sex so you have to love that before,during or after.

Posted by miimz90

cringila,NSW, 27/08/2011

everyone to there own, the saying " try before you buy" is actually quite disgusting, when said like that, i have abstained and will until the wedding night, religion plays a massive part but the fact that i want to save something special till that night is emotionally and spiritually liftin. i dont want to be the toy that guys have played with and then moved on from. ive realised that couples who wait and appreciate and respect eachother completely until the night have a stronger bond after the relationship, theres alot of exploring alot of ?? over the persons head. this enthusiastically makes the man become more interested. these days there are guys who prefer a woman who is a virgin and never been touch, it gives them a sense of pride and enojyment knowing that theyre wife to be wil be touched by them and only them. doesnt make the girl fridget, it doesnt make her less repsectable or less social . thats my view!