Think all the good ones are taken? Camille Thurnherr is one of Australia’s leading dating experts and shares her top tips to finding Mr Right – yep, he’s out there!
1. Be Mrs Right
I know it’s a bit of a cliché, but it is true; finding a suitable partner always starts with YOU.
If you have a big ‘wish list’ with all the traits and qualities you’d like in a partner, ask yourself: “Who do I need to be, in order to attract that guy?” and maybe consider: “What would that kind of guy look for in a woman?”
Being truly comfortable in your own skin is the best way to demonstrate that you’re a quality woman in demand.
2. Say no to Mr Wrong
Tend to fall for Mr Unavailable? Life’s too short to spend time and energy courting someone who simply isn’t right for you. If you have a ‘friend with benefits’ and you know that it will never amount to anything, now might be the time to let it go and create the space for someone new to come into your life.
3. Ask yourself who is your Mr Right
Sure, long legs, an easy smile and girlish charm will always grab attention. But for a quality man, these alone are never enough.
Likewise, he may admire your intellect and respect your accomplishments, but ultimately he can readily seek out these qualities in friends, male or female. When it comes to serious relationships, he needs to be drawn to your uniqueness, your inner beauty.
4. Stop expecting Mr Right to come knocking at your door
You might end up dating your emergency plumber, but it’s highly unlikely. Being open to new ways to meet quality men is key. Why not consider a speed dating event or a cooking class for singles. I believe that there are great men everywhere, so be open to meeting him, whether it’s online, at an event or at your local cafe.
5. Enjoy the dance
The initial stages of dating should be enjoyed. I don’t look at it in terms of “playing games”, but I see it more of a dance. I often call it the “Tango of Love” and there is an art to it.
A quality man might not move as fast as some of the guys you’ve dated in the past. He’s not in a rush and men actually take more time to fall in love. So by not being intimate too soon will help you in slowing things down, and can build a solid foundation.