Kathy B’s answer: I lied to my partner!
www.lifeline.org.au for more information. You could also contact The Australian Psychological Society to get a reference for a good psychologist in your area www.psychology.org.au. I would urge you to do this soon as it seems like your relationship has a good chance to get onto a healthy track, if you act now. Okay, so both of you have made mistakes but if you love each other enough to truly wipe the slate clean you could have a wonderful future together. Name calling and jealousy is never good and there’s no need for it. It is also common for people to have ‘triggers’ which sets off an argument or a filthy mood. That’s why I strongly suggest you set out to do some hard work, looking at yourself and your past issues. I’m sure a good counsellor and a few honest conversations with your partner will really help you both. Remember you must be ready to let go of your resentment as well so perhaps take some time to work out what it is that you want before you have ‘the chat’ with your partner and ask for his forgiveness for your past mistakes. Best of luck! If you want Kathy B to answer your relationship dilemmas, email feedback@shesaid.com with your question. Kathy Buchanan is the author of Charm School: The Modern Girl’s Complete Handbook of Etiquette, Happy Endings: The Ultimate Movie and Book Guide for Women and Quit for Chicks. Charm School offers fun but helpful advice on why manners are sexy and how to use them to create the life you’ve always dreamed of. It deals with difficult love, social and work situations like how to ace an interview, help a friend through a difficult break-up, keep your hairdresser faithful and how to not fall in love with gorgeous gay men. For more info, see www.kathyb.net