There is no denying that making new friends in your 20s and 30s isn’t as easy as it once was in the schoolyard.
Nowadays, finding a solid friend who isn’t just an acquaintance seems more difficult since everyone has their own work and family commitments. If you want to change-up your group of friends, or simply looking to reconnect with some old ones, this is the guide for you.
Have a hobby
A very important quote which still sticks to this day is ‘Old habits don’t open new doors.’
Sticking to the same-old routine won’t help you find new friends, or build a connection with anyone new. If your hobby lies in sport, exercise, or even in a number of creative fields, it’s important to take a risk, and join a class.
Even if you’re feeling shy or too embarrassed to go alone, it’s always worth it in the end! Making friends with people who share the same hobbies as you, makes it so much easier to connect.
Reaching out to an old friend is always a good idea, especially if it’s been a number of years since your last meeting. The connection with old high-school friends will always be something you have in common (especially if you were the best of friends), and you can always arrange an impromptu mini-reunion with those who want to reconnect. It’s a great way to see where everyone is at, and could possibly lead to a life-long friendship.
Don’t be the type of friend who sits around at home waiting for people to make plans with you. More often than not, this won’t get you out of the house anytime soon. Text, call, and keep in touch with friends, and better yet, show them that you’re interested in meeting up again.
Put yourself out there
Whether it’s hanging out with the family, or meeting a friend-of-a-friend for a cup of coffee, be prepared to put yourself out there and do something new. Be willing to compromise on plans and try something new with an extended group of people. Grab their mobile number, and be sure to engage in texts which will keep you out of the house, and into new and exciting company.
Many forums, blogs, and message boards are filled with people who already have common interests as you. Just because you’re chatting through the internet, doesn’t mean that the friendship isn’t as genuine.
However if you do want to meet up, remember to stay safe and never send through any money to someone you don’t personally know. Anyone who truly values your friendship won’t expect anything in return.
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