When some friends recently announced they were expecting another child, the age old debate reared its head once again – are you going to find out the sex of your baby? They were quick to say no, deciding to wait until the baby is born before finding out if they have been blessed with a boy or a girl. My husband and I on the other hand, looked at each other and wondered how some couples can wait so long to find out. How do they know what colour to paint the nursery? How will they know what clothes to buy?
So I decided to compile a list of pros and cons to help new parents make the decision about whether or not to find out the sex of their unborn baby:
- Most parents choose to find out the sex of their child because they want to be organised. It means that you can choose the colour for the nursery accordingly and you can buy baby clothes and accessories in the ‘right’ colour. Although that’s not to say that a boy can’t wear yellow and a girl can’t wear blue, some people just want to have specific colours – they don’t like to be restricted to buying neutral whites and greys.
- The baby name list can be slashed in half. As if choosing a name for your baby isn’t hard enough, but having two lists – one for the girls and one for the boys just seems so difficult! Having only one set of names to ponder over can be far easier.
- At twenty weeks pregnant some women feel extremely despondent that there is still another twenty weeks or so until their bundle of treasure arrives. Finding out the sex of the baby gives them a boost – it’s a welcome surprise amongst what can be some extremely hard months for women. Some find that it helps them to form a stronger bond with their unborn child, making the rest of their pregnancy easier.
- There is no surprise when your baby is finally born. You already know if it’s going to be a boy or a girl, so the only surprise you get is seeing if your little one has daddy’s nose or mummy’s eyes.
- There is a chance that the ultrasound was interpreted incorrectly. Occasionally, certain body parts can be mistaken for the baby’s genitals which unfortunately means that the sex of the baby is the opposite of what you’ve been told. All those months of planning for a baby boy or girl could have been a complete waste of time when you discover the true sex of your baby.
- You miss out on all of the fun while everyone around you tries to guess the sex of your baby. There are endless lists of old wives tales which claim to predict the sex of your baby. Part of the fun of not knowing is testing these theories out. Am I having a boy because I’m carrying so low? Or is the ring swinging back and forth rather than in a circle because I’m having a girl?
Whether you choose to find out the sex of your baby or not should be you and your partner’s decision alone. Don’t try to be swayed by family and friends who are eager to find out the sex so they can buy appropriate gifts. Finding out so early is a luxury these days – years ago women didn’t have that option, so if they had to wait, why can’t we?
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By Karyn Miller