Until you?ve practised a little magic. On a full moon, write a list in red ink ? what qualities make your ideal man (or woman)? What qualities wouldn?t you mind putting up with (reality: no one?s perfect!). Pop it inside a red envelope and light two candles for three hours in the southwest side of your bedroom. Sweet Dreams.
Expect the best
This one is easy. I?ve seen girls being chatted up on unmoving trams in peak hour when everyone is running late. The reason? They aren?t the ones grumbling and tetching and casting angry glares at the innocent man in the suit by the door. These people make the most of every second, looking for the positive, expecting the best, and having it come to them. Smile. Look for the good in everyone you meet. Act like you?re in love with life, even when you?re not. Mademoiselle Universe has a funny way of picking up our vibes and giving us what we focus on.
Dance like no one’s watching
In the words of my good friend Magda, after three vodkas “dancing is the best time to pick up a great guy because you look happy and free!” If you can?t dance, sway. Or better yet, enrol in a salsa class – that way you get to meet the instructors, too.
Walk a dog
My brother recently moved interstate and bought a dog ? he has had three dates from trips to the local park already. All girls have been nice. Nice people have dogs! You would be amazed at the flock of happy single people filling the park at 7am. Make sure you pat the dogs. If you pass the test they might introduce you to their owners?
For some strange reason, people love to be asked for directions. I once got lost with a friend in Brighton and when we asked for directions we were invited to a party. It ended up being a fantastic night! In Sydney I stopped a man in George Street to ask for the bus time and he invited me out to lunch. (If you aren?t anywhere you can get lost, just looking confused seems to work a treat too).
Get back to school!
Learn something you?ve always been curious about. What are your passions? What makes you feel excited? Some personal favourites; Karate, saxophone, wine appreciation, advanced French…My best friend married her driving instructor. My sister married a fellow student from her Sanskrit tutorial…
Tip: If you?ve mastered a subject and you just want to practise, just join a club. Magda joined a running club and now she has someone to go dancing with when I?m on a date!
By Louisa Deasey