Why Courtney Cox Left David Arquette

Courtney Cox has spoken for the first time about why she separated from her husband of 11 years, David Arquette.

“I just had a moment of looking at our relationship, and there wasn’t anything in particular, but it brought up a lot of stuff,” she tells the latest issue of US Harper’s Bazaar.

“I think every relationship has a point where you stop and reevaluate. Are you happy? Have you grown together or apart? What do you share interests in? I think that’s a normal thing to do, but it’s so much harder when it’s done publicly.” But then she jokes: “Maybe on second thought, don’t reevaluate. Just keep going. Don’t rock the boat. Repression is fantastic.”

It sounds like the Friends and Cougartown actress did a lot of soul-searching. “The thing is, when you get older, it’s more about compatibility than it is about love,” she admits. “I think it’s more about needing just a kind of peace and stillness. I’m kind of all over the place, and I need grounding. I want to be calm. I want to change a lot. I want to live not outside but inside. It’s nothing with David; it’s just what I’m searching for.”

Admitting she’s happy to be a cougar, the 46 year-old says their seven year age gap wasn’t an issue. “Most guys aren’t that mature, are they? They just don’t think the way we think.”

She continues to gush about David, who she met on the set of Scream, even excusing his fling with a cocktail waitress which took place after they separated: “He absolutely did nothing that wasn’t in the boundaries of what we set for our separation, so there’s nothing to judge,” she says. “I may not have known about it, but that’s the only difference.”

It sounds like she still deeply loves David, even after he appeared on several TV shows – including Oprah, spilling the beans on their sex life, his drug and alcohol abuse and his love of partying.

“You can’t really get mad at David because he’s not a malicious person,” she said. “He was dealing with things the best way he could….David is smart, and David is also a showman. He knew what he was doing…He’s not out to harm. But I’m his biggest protector. I can’t help it.”

“I’m not saying there wasn’t some crazy behavior, but if you know who David is, you know what his intentions are, how honest he is, and how big his heart is.”

So what will happen to their marriage (they have a six year-old daughter Coco)? “We loved each other so much, and if anything I feel like we’ve been extremely successful at marriage. If it doesn’t work out, I will have huge waves of pain about failing in that department. But right now I don’t have that because I don’t know what the future holds and I guess because I have strong feelings for him.”

Do you think Courtney and David will get back together, or is their marriage doomed?

Image: Harper’s Bazaar