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All pick up lines are lame, right? They’re sleazy, degrading and we assume that only the incredibly desperate respond. So why do some pick up lines actually work? Is it the line being used; is it the person using them, or is it something else?

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Well ladies, it’s not necessarily the person delivering them – although that could make a difference. I’m sure if a famous eligible bachelor or bachelorette used a pick up line it really wouldn’t matter what they said, they’d probably still have some takers.

Still, it’s not all about the person. Ordinary people use pick up lines every day with some success and surprisingly it’s not just the desperate and dateless who respond. Many a fair maiden or handsome gent has been plucked from single obscurity by the use of a humble pick up line.

The mystery is though, how on earth does this happen? Well, in most cases it’s not the actual words people use as a way to start a conversation with a stranger. It’s far more than that. Much of it has to do with the delivery of the words being said. If it comes across alright, even if it’s stuttered or stammered from chronic nervousness, then you’re more than half way there.

So let’s talk about confidence – after all, it can be really tricky approaching a good looking stranger. Ironically, a touch of nervousness will win every time when compared with over-confidence. There’s nothing more sleazy than if the user of the pick up line believes they are God’s gift to the opposite sex.

Instead, the type of confidence needed to land a pick up line is quite different. To use them successfully people need to project a sense of who they are, what they want and most importantly they need to have conviction about what they say.

For example, if a man approaches a woman he won’t get very far if he states that she’s the most beautiful woman in the room if he doesn’t really mean it. It will come across in his body language that what he’s said is simply utter bullshit.

However, if a man approaches a woman and uses the same line but truly believes what he’s saying, it will be received much better. No matter how badly his pick up line sounds or if he’s fluffed his way through it, he will be far more likely to win the girl over.

Why is that? Well he’ll sound and behave in a far more sincere way. Additionally, his focus will be on her. He’ll want to listen to what she has to say, unlike the man who isn’t sincere. To this guy, it’s just a game of cat and mouse.

Instinctively the majority of us can recognise the difference, most of the time. However, as we all know sometimes our compass can be a bit off. So if someone uses a pick up line and it comes off sincere or even a bit funny, you might want to give the poor soul a chance. You never know how or where you will meet that special someone. It would be a shame if you turned them away because they used a pick up line as their initial contact. Maybe they’re super shy and not quite sure what to say.

Trust me when you hear it, you’ll know the difference!

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