Why You Need a Vibrator, Even if You’re Coupled Up

It’s time to get your buzz on.

Vibrators are freaking wonderful. Whether you’re enjoying some quality solo time, or doing the deed with your partner, vibrators make an excellent addition to the bedroom.

In fact, I actually find myself masturbating more when I’m dating someone. The more sex my partner and I have, the friskier I tend to be throughout the day.

Here’s a few reasons why you should seriously consider adding one to your repertoire, even if you already have a bae…

Use it to get back in touch with your sexuality

Exploring your body is often empowering and can even be educational. Giving yourself time to use a vibrator on your own can help you learn what you like and what you don’t like. It’s a beautiful way to please yourself and not have to worry about pleasing anyone else in the process.

Use it to show your partner what you like in bed

Masturbation is wonderful for what it is, but it’s also great to incorporate some of your fave solo moves in to making sex even better. During sex, remember a position you were in, or a part of yourself that you touched, the last time you masturbated. Then recreate that moment in bed with your partner, either doing it yourself or having them lend a helpful hand. Knowing what you like in bed shows confidence and you’ll look sexy as hell.

Use it to indulge in a little MM

Mutual masturbation, or MM, is one of the sexiest and most underrated ways to connect with your partner in bed. Play with yourself while they play with themselves so you can each see exactly what the other person likes, then place your partner’s hand on the vibrator while you’re focusing on yourself, letting them take over. This is excellent foreplay before the final act.

Use it on your SO

The vibrating sensations aren’t just good for you; they feel good for both people involved. Try turning your toy on to a low setting and placing it on the outside of your cheek or on your tongue while going down on your SO. You can also use it to stimulate your partner as foreplay or during sex. Ask your them what they want to try, and get creative together.

Use it to have fun

Sex IRL is generally nothing like it’s portrayed in movies, TV, or porn. It can be weird. It can be terrible. Noises happen. Limbs get slippery. Sweat drips. Adding a battery-operated device to the equation only raises the chances for an awkward moment to happen.

So if you feel like shaking things up in the bedroom, talk about it with your partner first, and see what you’re both comfortable with. It could open the door to a newfound sexual playground for you two. It could also make for a few awkward moments that you both laugh at over brunch the next day. Either way, you’re having a good time and learning about yourself and each other.

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