Ready to settle down with The One? Here’s how to find your McDreamy the fun, easy way.
While many single women truly enjoy living the single life, others are ready to find Mr. Right, and with Valentine’s Day around the corner, there’s no better time to look.
Dr. Gian Gonzaga, world-renowned expert in the field of relationships and
compatibility for eHarmony.com.au, has over 15 years experience in studying
relationships. As director of research at eHarmony Labs, he is part of the team responsible for on average 44,000 marriages a year, two per cent of all US weddings*.
Dr Gonzaga says: “When you are looking for Mr. Right the key is to find a quality, compatible match. Too often people think any relationship is better than none at all, but that isn’t true. A satisfying long-term relationship can make you happier, healthier and more successful. So don’t fall to the pressure of family, friends, and Valentine’s Day and end up with just anyone.”
From his research Dr Gonzaga has created six strategies that every single woman trying to meet Mr. Right should know. They are:
1. Don’t Wait for Him to Come to You: Although it would be nice, it’s highly unlikely
that a gorgeous, well-mannered, high-paid and sensitive man is going to knock on
your door in the next few seconds and introduce himself to you. If you want to find
that man, you’re going to have to get out there and look for him! Don’t expect too
much right away, but put yourself in a position to meet people and get to know them.
2. Expect to Fall Short a Few Times: When you’re out there meeting guys and
getting to know them, chances are you will meet a few that aren’t right for you. This
can often lead to disappointment. All single women should understand that this isn’t
failure – it’s one step closer to Mr. Right. Don’t expect to find your soul mate on the
first night – it will most likely take some time. Expect to fall short a few times and
don’t be too disappointed when you do.
3. Spend Some Time Thinking about What You Want: When you’re searching for
Mr. Right, it’s important to know what you’re looking for. And don’t just consider what
he looks like, think about the things that are most important to you. What interests
do you have (perhaps your Mr. Right is a fan of jazz)? What characteristics should
you share (maybe you are very open to trying new things and need that in a man)?
What values do you treasure the most (maybe he needs to value having a family)?
This will help you sort out your possibilities, give you a clue where to look, and help
insure that the relationship will be satisfying years from now.
4. Think Outside the Box: People can meet in all kinds of places: in the store, at a
bus stop, even online (on average 236 eHarmony members marry every day in the
United States as a result of being matched on eHarmony*). Don’t be afraid to try out
new ways of meeting people, you might just be surprised what you find.
5. Work on Your Confidence: If you are a single women with low self confidence,
you’re going to have a difficult time meeting anyone – let alone Mr. Right. Men find
women with confidence extremely attractive. Even if you don’t look like a
supermodel, be confident with who you are and appear comfortable in your skin. If
you accept and love yourself for who you are, so will Mr. Right when you find him!
6. Above All – Be Who You Are: You’re staring across the table at a man with the
most gorgeous and piercing eyes you’ve ever seen. It’s times like this when it can be
easy to compromise who you are in an effort to keep things going forward. While it
can be difficult to do, you should always be who you are. Don’t compromise your
beliefs, your goals, or yourself at all in an attempt to find Mr. Right because in the
long run the relationship will suffer and you will regret it. When it truly is Mr. Right, all
you will need to be is who you are.
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