8 Reasons To Start Watching Porn
You won’t believe the benefits it can have.
A few months ago, I met a stunning escort who spoke frankly about the industry she’s in. It was refreshingly eye-opening.
What stuck with me most was when she – known to her clients as Samantha X – spoke about the difference between the ‘girlfriend experience’ and the ‘porn star experience’, or PSE. It turns out men are sensitive souls (not all guys are just looking for a fuck, some actually want to chat about life issues, who’da thunk it?) who have no idea what a real ‘porn star experience’ is. In Samantha X’s words, if men were given a real PSE, it would traumatize them.
It’s fair to say porn can set unrealistic expectations, and that unless you have several free hours each week to dedicate to vaginal gymnastic training, you’re unlikely to ever bring that PSE to life in the sack. But acquainting yourself with the odd flesh flick every now and then can actually have it’s benefits, and there are several in particular worth knowing about…
1. It will teach you new things
When we first get into the sex game, it’s all about handjobs, blowjobs and missionary – but there’s so much to it! Pegging, leap frog, butterfly, kangaroo shuffle, tequila sunrise – all of which can be checked out (legally and in the comfort of your own home) in pornos.
2. It’s guaranteed to make you happy
Generally, when people watch porn, they masturbate. Masturbating and, in turn, reaching orgasm improves the quality of your mental health, as it releases an extra shot of ‘happiness hormone’ serotonin (the body’s natural antidepressant) to your brain.
3. It will fill you with the #chillfactor
Chemicals released by masturbation, include dopamine, which triggers the pleasure centers of the brain and reduces stress, and prolactin, which aids sleep. Winning!
4. It can strengthen a relationship
“Watching porn can stimulate ideas, themes, and scenarios that can elicit spontaneity and adventure for a couple,” says psychotherapist Dr Fran Walfish.
Also, couples who watch porn together have usually agreed on what acceptable sexual acts are, showing a certain level of honesty and communication.
Don’t be scared to include it in your sex life – the alternative (totally losing your libido and ability to orgasm) is way worse.
5. Porn will never judge you
If you’ve ever wanted to try something new with a stale lover and received a weird look, you’ll know where I’m coming from. It’s easy for us to judge porn – some of those storylines are just dodgy and soooo ’80s – but it will never return that judgment; it simply wants to leave you satisfied.
6. It actually boosts libido
According to a study published in the journal Sexual Medicine, at least 40 minutes of porn twice a week can boost your sex drive and your overall desire to have sex.
7. It is low-risk
If you’re experiencing a drought, it’s way safer to get a porno up and get yourself off than it is to go out, pick up some random at a bar and take them home. Also, it costs less and you never know if their tool will do the trick – but you do know how to successfully get yourself off.
8. It won’t kill you
There’s a lot of talk about pornography becoming an addiction. Well, as clinical psychologist and author of The Myth Of Sexual Addiction Dr David Ley says, if it does end up that way (which, BTW, many researchers have found is unlikely), at least it’s not a deadly one.
“Unlike those who’ve become dependent on alcohol or drugs, an individual who has been labeled a sex addict faces no serious physical consequences if he or she suddenly goes ‘cold turkey’,” explains Ley.
“Nobody in history has ever died from wanting sex and being unable to have it. Wanting something that you don’t have and being dissatisfied, even sexually, is a condition that people around the world deal with every day.”
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