How to Overcome Shyness?

February 1, 2000

Everyone has felt shy at some stage in their lives and the best way to work out when you get shy is remembering situations where you have clamped up. Was it when someone said something about your physical appearance? Was it when you were asked to stand up and state your opinion?Whatever it was, one has to remember that there’s an underlying reason for how you react in situations. A psychologist once said to me that you have to act as if you’re not shy. Even when you are on your own you have to behave as if you’re oozing confidence. You do this by holding your chin up, sticking your chest out, even add a swagger to your walk not too much though.

Speak firmly and clearly. This will give the appearance of being really confident. All right, it might seem ridiculous but I can assure you, this will definitely see results when you’re out in public. Another friend of mine, who always gets jobs and boyfriends, says you should practice making eye contact and smiling in your interaction with others.

Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events. I suggest you always look your best and one way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit the way you are self-critical. Don’t stand in front of the mirror and tug at your stomach and thighs.

Another important point to remember is to lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone and they are rude or ignore you, just walk away. Absolutely everyone has been rejected at some point but no one has to dwell on it for very long. Look and learn. Watch friends or strangers who aren’t shy and learn their tips first hand. Finally learn to feel positive about yourself. Don’t’ get frustrated and remember the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

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