October 1, 2000
If you’ve started to stray off your true path and you don’t know how to get back on to the happy road then you may need to read on. Many unhappy people want to blame their boss, boyfriend, girlfriends, parents or even the government for their unhappy existence. Boring isn’t it? There are many people out there who live in a state of self- pity because they think they aren’t lucky. These sort of people say things like, “Oh! I’m just not lucky” or “They wouldn’t employ me, I’m not good enough”. Christina from the Big Brother house is a perfect example of this type of person. One thing you have to remember is that only you can figure out exactly what would make you happy. It is your job to do this, no one else’s. Have you heard yourself saying something like this?, “I just want my boyfriend to say he loves me a little more”. What you should have really said is, “I would love to be in a loving, romantic relationship with someone.” Another case scenario, “I want my friends to stop making me guilty if I can’t see them.” You should really say, “I want to stop feeling guilty.”Now what you should do rather than harbouring all this unhappiness is answer these three questions. Sit on your own and think about them seriously and once you have finished them, you can either keep them in a special spot, read them to someone you trust or throw them away.
- Think about a situation that makes you happy. What elements of this situation do you want to keep? What do you want most right now?
- Now think about a situation that makes you feel angry or sad. What is it about that situation that you wish were different.
- What do you really want from your life right now?