Why Christmas Is A Testing Time For A Marriage
The combination of alcohol, difficult relatives, excited children and strains on the family finances can lead to problems in the most stable of marriages. If you combine these factors with the high expectations of Christmas; many couples find that the stress becomes too much and decide to split up.
Christmas can be difficult
A lot of work goes into the preparation of a successful celebration. If you’re a working parent by Christmas Eve, you’re probably ready to collapse into a chair and settle down with a good glass of port. Unfortunately contemporary Christmas celebrations appear to demand that you spend money you can’t afford on providing huge meals, copious amounts of alcohol and extravagant presents to all and sundry.
An article in The Daily Mail states that more couples seek marriage guidance after Christmas than at any other time of the year. If Christmas has served to highlight severe breaks in an already fractured marriage, then perhaps you should seek appropriate advice and at least consider relationship counselling before contemplating the end game of divorce.
January 3 is known as ‘Divorce day.’
Lawyers see the results of a stressful Christmas in the early New Year, as couples seek advice following a particularly difficult celebration. Sometimes this is due to the fact that many families try to put their differences aside for the sake of their children’s Christmas, or couples that don’t normally spend so much time together find that the excesses of the festival have exacerbated their marital problems. Figures released by the Office of National Statistics (ONS) and published in The Daily Telegraph show that ‘twice as many couples begin divorce proceedings (in January) than at any other time during the year.’
Divorce is rarely a smooth and amicable experience and the process usually takes a heavy emotional and financial toll on both parties. Legal representation is required and the way forward may be complicated. If the divorce is overseas or documents need translating – if one half of the couple converses in a language other than English – then a specialist company capable of notarising these documents need to be engaged; vpnotaries.co.uk is an example of such a business.
The pressures of advertising
TV adverts portray the perfect family sitting down with relatives and friends to enjoy an ideal Christmas lunch. The adverts don’t reveal the months of saving and preparation that most families will endure in advance of the annual festivities. If you have children, the problems associated with buying the right presents before they sell out can prove insurmountable.
If your partner has asked for something specific as a present and you have failed to source that gift, you’ll be dealing with feelings of guilt and your partner might think that you simply don’t care. By Christmas Day itself, the scene is already set for a difficult time, with fractious children, tired parents and the prospect of cooking and entertaining looming large on a difficult horizon.
Pressures on the family budget don’t help
Christmas is expensive. Many families overspend at this time, and don’t take into account that their salaries have to cover ordinary household expenditure. Arguments about money are always difficult because there’s little you can do to recoup the cash you spent on the turkey, the decorations, the sweets, the gifts and the booze. Sadly, many couples spend Christmas resenting each other, blaming the other for the family’s woes. If you stick to a budget for your festive fun, don’t crowd the house with too many people and drink alcohol in moderation, you may end up with your marriage intact for the New Year.