Sure, children are a joy, but don’t sacrifice the relationship you had with your partner before your lives were filled with soccer training, school lunchboxes and sleepless nights. It’s so important to have time together where you can switch off from being Mum and Dad and revert to your pre-kids selves. Even if you can’t afford a babysitter every weekend, here are some great little date ideas to keep the romance alive in your marriage:
Take a bath together
Not only is a bath free, it is incredibly intimate and one of the best ways to relax after a hard day of work and children shenanigans. Use bubbles, salts, candles, or whatever takes it from bath time to romance. Crack open a bottle of red wine to enter ultimate relaxation mode.
Make a meal together
Nightly dinners with kids often resemble feeding time at the zoo, so you try to find quick and easy recipes that will free your evening up for other things. Every once in a while, don’t think of making dinner as a chore, but rather as an opportunity to spend some time unwinding with your partner by cooking the family meal together. Maybe try something a little more sophisticated than spaghetti Bolognese! Be alone in the kitchen, take your time, and enjoy the process.
This is the perfect activity to do after the children have gone to sleep. Instead of just falling into an exhausted heap on your bed like you normally would, grab massage oils (or simply moisturiser) and take turns massaging each other. Not only does it show your love and appreciation for your partner, it’s a free massage! Why go to a day spa when you have a husband?
Find a new hobby
Just when you think you know all the ins and outs of your partner, find something new that you can mutually enjoy. Take a cooking class, an art class, get surfing lessons, or find a new author you both can pore over and discuss.
If you consider yourselves foodies, take a night off each week to explore your local restaurants. If you are an active couple, go for a walk every evening or on a hike every weekend—even joining a gym together means time away from the kids (plus added health benefits!)
Keep the spark in your marriage by escaping a mundane routine.
This one requires a babysitter of some sort. Drop the kids off at their grandparents’ place or with a close friend and skip town for the weekend. Escape to a bed and breakfast in the country for a few days of (rare) tranquillity, or drive to the nearest buzzing metropolis and get lost in urban paradise together. Sometimes you need a reminder of what it’s like to be a couple, rather than a family.
What little things do you do to keep the romance alive in your marriage?