It’s over… Woohoo!
The other day, while my sister and I were driving to lunch, I revealed to her that I was starting to feel things for my husband I’d never felt before. To be honest, I think she was ready for the divorce conversation, as she watched me date like a man, blocking all feelings so I wouldn’t get hurt, for a long time before I wed.
She looked across at me with judgemental eyes – she has always made it known that my husband was the catch of the century.
I went on to reveal that ever since he’d been sent away to train as a police officer, I’ve missed him more than ever, and that now that I’ve been living life without him, it’s not something I’d want to do in the long-term.
“Oh God, sis, I thought you were talking about divorcing him! God, then I’d have to plan one of those dumb divorce parties people are having because of course you’d be the sort of person who’d be into them!”
Well, she was right about one thing: I WOULD have a divorce party if I were to get divorced. And I’d expect gifts, too!
Later, while alone in my apartment, I checked Pinterest for divorce party ideas and an absolute shitload came up. It really is something that’s taken the world by storm, which shouldn’t be that surprising considering it’s estimated one in three marriages now end in divorce.
It was comforting to learn I’m not the only one who believes divorces don’t mean the end, that they’re actually a chance for a new beginning.
Kim Tran-Flores, founder of party planning agency Bonbons & Confetti, is all for divorce parties, and knows exactly where your priorities should be if you’re about to end your marriage.
“Use this occasion to celebrate YOU. Celebrate the new journey you are on. Celebrate the lessons you have learnt, the good and bad times of your past. But most of all, celebrate your newfound future, because you never know what or who is around the next corner.”
Sold? Here are some divorce party themes that’ll have you signing those papers without even reaching for the Kleenex…
1. When life gives you a cheater, make a margarita
Invite: Your closest friends.
Plans: A cocktail party at your place. Use this time to get everything off your chest, no holds barred. In order to move forward, you need to let go of the things that were holding you back – and what better way to do that with an intimate group of people you love and trust?
2. No hubby, no bubby – but I’m having a shower anyway!
Invite: All the girls you’ve ever known.
Plans: Everything you’ve cooked with, eaten from, slept on – EVERYTHING will need to be replaced, and now is the perfect time to start fresh. Don’t waste time thinking about the china you received as a wedding gift that never made its way out of the closet because no occasion was good enough – register for a new one and hold events that’ll make you want to show it off.
3. Better to have loved and lost than to be married to an arsehole
Invite: Come one, come all.
Plans: This is the time to embrace life. So your marriage ended, so what? There’s still so much of life left to be lived, and you know it! Book out a bar or restaurant and seize the moment. Or, to stick with the poetic theme, carpe diem.
Once you’ve got the venue and guest list sorted and sent out the invitations, you’ll need to choose a cake – because what party would be complete without edible #instaworthy goodness? Here are a few of our faves…
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Comment: Would you ever consider having a divorce party, or do you think it’s tacky?