Do you get pressure to be a perfect Mum?

September 14, 2009

Mums are freaking out according to a new survey, but do we put too much pressure on ourselves? Join the chat!

More than one in five Australian mothers feel pressure to ‘have it all’ – balancing career, baby, partner and social life, according to a recent survey by The Baby Show.

The survey has found Australian Mothers feel overwhelmed by social expectations; often leading to ‘Mother’s guilt’. Mums feel the most pressure to achieve developmental milestones in their baby’s life (31%), followed by getting their pre-baby body back (29%), having it all (21%), and establishing breast-feeding techniques (18%).

Bestselling author and baby-toddler guru Pinky McKay says women are facing too many pressures from society to be the perfect Mother.

“Australia’s recent baby boom has seen more than 572,900 babies born in the last two years,” says McKay. “Rather than trying to find the perfect ‘plan’ for the first year of their baby’s life, new Mums need to understand that there is no one ‘right’ way to approach motherhood. Mothers should trust their instincts and filter information to match what suits their family. “Motherhood is a learning experience. If things go pear-shaped, mums need to remember they are not necessarily doing it wrong. There are many sources of support available to Mums and Mums-to-be.”

In addition to social pressures the global economic crisis is also putting financial strain on Mums, with 42% saying they had to go back to work to “pay the bills”.

“Mothers need to allow themselves time to be a Mum. Connecting with baby is very important, particularly within the first 12 months of their life. This is when maternal instincts develop and evolve with your child,” adds McKay.

So do you feel pressure to be the perfect Mum? Share your stories now!

The Baby Show is Australia’s new essential pregnancy, baby and toddler event. Launching in Sydney on September 18-20 at The Royal Hall of Industries, the three-day event will feature over 14 seminars, 120 exhibitors, 9 fashion shows, a wellness centre and care for bubs. Visit The Baby Show at

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