Which would be worse: if your partner had sex with – or fell in love with – someone else? A survey of 667 singles examined relationship faithfulness, finding some major differences in how men and women view cheating. While men think sexual infidelity is worse, women can’t bear the thought of their partner falling in love with someone else.
The survey by ELITESINGLES showed 65 per cent of the men polled said that sexual unfaithfulness is worse, compared to 55 per cent of women who think such emotional unfaithfulness would be harder to handle. But despite their opinions on what constitutes the worst in infidelity, men are more likely to cheat sexually (43 per cent had in the past compared with just 30 per cent of women) while women were more likely to engage in emotional infidelity (27 per cent said that they’d fallen in love with someone outside a partnership, compared with just 12 per cent men). Hypocritical?
Why are people unfaithful?
The poll also questioned participants’ motivation for past infidelity, finding men and women to differ here, too. While most men (55 per cent) struggled to identify exactly why they cheated, 28 per cent admitted to wanting sex with someone else, and a further 25 per cent said it was due to relationship boredom. A small minority (7 per cent) noted it was born out of revenge, while 12 per cent revealed it was another love which made them act. As for the women, a somewhat larger number admitted to taking revenge (11 per cent), while 35 per cent said they were bored in their relationship and 27 per cent in love with someone else. “I wanted to have sex with someone else” was agreed with by just 16 per cent of women.
Infidelity victims: some decide to forgive and forget, others turn to online dating.
While they disagree on what’s worse, 20 per cent of both men and women are prepared to forgive infidelity within a relationship – despite unanimously citing faithfulness, honesty and happiness as the most important characteristics to look for in a partner. Meanwhile, the survey into relationship loyalty touched on a sensitive issue for a large number of singles; 30 per cent of participants conceded that they had turned to online dating after refusing to forgive cheating in their previous relationship.