How to Ask for Help?

October 1, 2001

There’s never enough time in the day to get everything done? How can I make time to do everything I want to do daily?

Kate, 28, Richmond, VicThe first step to tackling “too much” is to work out what is most important to you.

What do you really want and need to do. Prioritise these tasks and areas and work through them, one at a time. A great way to do this is split your daily tasks into A and B tasks. The A are to be done in next 24 hours, the B can be done in 72 hours. Create a process for yourself and structure a time frame in which you need to get things done.

Work out what areas you may need help or assistance with. Don’t be shy to ask for help – you’ll most likely find someone willing to help you get the task

done. Learning to ask for and to accept help eases so much pressure – delegation is such a skill. Practice asking 3 people in your life for something this week.How do I manage working 40 hours a week and looking after my kids?

Louisa, 35, Beecfroft, NSW

Being a parent and working full-time is a challenge. In fact a lot of people believe it’s an impossible juggling act. You need to work out what you can realistically expect of yourself and honour your personal limits. We are not all Superwoman (well some of us are in disguise).

What you need to do is sit down for half an hour and ponder these thoughts – Are my commitments realistic?

What are my priorities? Once you are aware of what comes first and the areas you are willing to be flexible in, then your decisions about what to do first and what can be handled tomorrow become less stressful.

A lot of working parents focus on having practical support structures in place for childcare etc. Obviously these are crucial to handling a career and caring for children. Another vital area is understanding and fulfilling your emotional needs. Ask yourself whether you have supportive people in your life, who are willing to listen to your concerns?

If not, then take a look at some of the chat groups on the internet or think about starting a group for women in the same position – make a flyer and drop it off in your local neighbourhood asking if there are other mothers who seek support.

The message here is look after yourself – work out what comes first, and what can wait, and make sure you honour your own well being.

I need an outlet in my life that’s just for me, where do I start?

Time for yourself is a gift, we all deserve this and we believe everyone needs to make a priority in their life to make time to just be.

Well, the first question is “what makes my heart sing?” Really it’s time to check in and find out what you want to do, or at least what you are interested in exploring.

If you are stuck on ‘I don’t know what I want to do,’ start with ‘how do I want to feel?’ Maybe you want to feel carefree or energetic. Then think about the last time you felt this way? List what activities interest you.

The next step is create a vision – write a 2 paragraph summary of you in your new activity – how do you feel, who have you met etc…

Then investigate your options, ask friends for suggestions, look on the net, read magazines and scan the local papers for ideas.

By simply making a commitment to start something new you will create the opportunity in your life.

What’s your dilemma?

Just email your question to feedback@shesaid.com. Sarah and Kyrstie will answer questions in each edition. Unfortunately all questions can not be responded to.

More About Sarah and Kyrstie

Sarah Jane McIntyre

Prior to her career as a coach Sarah worked in Sydney and London as an Executive Recruiter and holds a Law/Commerce double degree. Sarah currently mentors a variety of managers in the recruitment market and has successfully redirected her career from the corporate arena to build a coaching/consulting business. Sarah is an Accredited Life Coach with Results Life Coaching.

Kyrstie Jane Dunn

Kyrstie works as a Coach and Careers Advisor. Kyrstie has a Bachelor of Commerce and is a Chartered Accountant. She has previously worked in Executive Recruitment, Management Consulting and Accountancy. Kyrstie currently coaches and facilitates corporate training workshops and provides one to one career outplacement guidance. Kyrstie is a certified NLP Practitioner.

What people say about them

“When I came to you, there was so much going on in my life, and while I wasn’t unhappy I was stressed and knew I needed better balance to really live life each day.”

Corporate financier.

“Sarah taught me invaluable techniques on structuring my time and goals. She has helped me develop a pattern of achievement.”

Business owner.

“Life coaching is an achievable and measurable process that brings to surface all you need to change in order to achieve your goals. A wonderful process that impacted in positive change in my life.”

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