Landed the date of your dreams but find it difficult to open up? Don’t let your shyness get in the way of a good relationship, especially when you’re about to go on your first date together!
Below are some important ways that shy girls can open up, without feeling out of their comfort zone on a first date.
Make eye contact
This one might seem a little obvious, but don’t avert your gaze whilst talking to your date. Eye contact is sometimes more important than words, and it’s a great way to show that you’re interested in what they have to say.
If you feel a little intimidated, don’t sit across from each other as this can only make you feel more anxious. Choose a scenario where you’re sitting next to each other, or even at a 90º angle instead – this will take the edge off.
Steer the conversation
If you’re emotionally shy, it’s best to steer the conversation yourself – especially if you’re avoiding talking about certain topics. This will make it easier to filter out things that you don’t want to bring up, and instead engage your date in some quality conversation.
Discuss common topics which will help you get to know each other – this isn’t a therapy session! Have fun and see where the conversation takes you.
Go on an active date
Choose a fun outdoor activity if want to kill those pre-date nerves. Not only will this relax the both of you, but it gives you something else to focus your energy on. Avoid dinner or drinks since this will only put the spot on you, and make it feel like an interview more than anything else.
Sometimes being thrust in a new or unfamiliar environment is enough to make a shy girl shut-down completely. Choose a place that you are comfortable with, since this is the best way you can actually be yourself.
An environment which puts you at ease is the best foundation to a first date, since you’re automatically programmed to feel better in a place that you know well.
Sometimes being shy can often be misconstrued as not being interested – this is far from the truth! Your quiet disposition doesn’t have to be a man repellant, but you do have to show a little more obvious interest in your date.
Make eye contact, and let your flirty side come out – this should be natural if you really like the person!
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