Top 5 Aphrodisiac foods

Unsurprisingly, your diet can have a serious impact on your sex life. Not only is a healthy sex life dependent on a healthy body and mind, sometimes, the key to unlocking your libido, is in your stomach! While some claim foods like figs and bananas are aphrodisiacs because of their genital-like appearance, many are quick to dismiss this as a myth. The real libido-enhancing properties lie in the ingredients, vitamins and minerals of these foods. If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, add these to the menu of your next date night.

1. Peppers

Chili peppers have an ingredient called “capsaicin”, which increases blood flow and endorphins that will get you give you a natural high – and get you in the mood.


2. Avocado

The Aztecs recognised the libido enhancing capacity of avocado long ago, calling it “ahuacatl” – or testicle! They are high in potassium and vitamin E – both good for releasing hormones, and just enhancing your general health.


3. Oysters

Oysters may be a cliché now but for a good reason! They heighten testosterone which enhances your libido. They are also high in zinc which is vital for the healthy function of male sex organs.


4. Red wine

Red wine is a relaxant and also aids circulation. Blood flow and healthy circulation is key for good sex, as is a clear mind and low stress levels. Mind you, this doesn’t mean you should be drinking the whole bottle. Keep your consumption to a glass or two to give you that little kick.


5. Chocolate

People debate the ability of chocolate to enhance your sex drive. Of course, the first rule is that it needs to be rich in cocoa – which means, the darker the chocolate – the better! Cocoa contains a chemical called phenylethylamine, which stimulate endorphins and feelings of happiness, and happiness is the best medicine for your sex drive.


September 7, 2014

Men Who Help Out With Housework Get More Sex

Few things are sexier than a man who regularly helps out with the housework, or the child-raising, without even being asked. Forget a dozen roses, chocolates, oysters, truffles or wine (although these have their place) – the most libido-enhancing aphrodisiac is, for many women, a man who happily shares the domestic load.

I fondly remember female lecturers’ ferocious rantings about the “gender segregation of housework” in gender studies at university and with good cause: a new study suggests that men and women could be doing an equal share of the housework by 2050. That’s a hell of a wait ladies!?

And, coupled with the fact that women are still earning markedly less than men – the gender pay gap is 17.5 per cent – that is a bitter pill to swallow.

Interestingly, new research by Cornell University in the US backs my theory: men who help more with the housework get laid more often. However, this greater sexual satisfaction did not extend to men who just stuck to doing stereotypical “manly” chores, such as mowing the lawn.

In addition, the study showed only three in ten couples did equal amounts of housework and in 63 per cent of couples, women did approximately two-thirds of the housework. Gah! So, blokes, how about picking up a mop, putting on a load of washing or emptying the dishwasher without being asked? Would it kill you?Why do so many blokes seem to think housework is “women’s work”?

On the weekend just gone, I watched my husband – who, for the record is usually a fantastic help around the house – have an absolute shocker in terms of the dreaded Husband Housework Blind Spot. I was busy writing inside, while he helpfully played with our two toddlers in the garden, walking with them in laps around the house, in order for them to burn off steam, so I could work in peace and quiet.

However, he walked past rows and rows of dry laundry on the line, as though it was invisible to him. Why are so many men seemingly untroubled by such a sight? If our roles were reversed, with him working inside, I’d have multi-tasked my arse off, with a toddler on each hip and a washing basket full of neatly folded laundry off the line.

And it got me thinking too – is this a good thing? Are we women are own worst enemies because we try to do so much at once? Should we instead make like a man and stick to one important task at a time?

What are your thoughts? Is your partner a household sloth or saviour? Should men and women share equal division of labour in the home?
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Main image via www.alternet.org and Someecards cartoon from www.pinterest.com

August 7, 2014

Sexy Foods

What’s an aphrodisiac, I hear you ask? Broadly, an aphrodisiac is a substance that can stimulate your sexual desire, whether through taste, texture, smell or even shape. Aphrodisiac foods have been used around the world for hundreds of years is to incite passion and lust. Ingredients that have been used for their reputed aphrodisiacal qualities in the past range from the bizarre – shark fins and baboon testicles to the ridiculous – canary tongue. Thankfully there are a few more palatable, humane, and easily obtainable erotic ingredients available for those of you who in the mood for love…

We?ve selected a some quick sexy foods for you to get your teeth into, because the more time you spend in the kitchen, the less time you spend on other things? They?re all in season so not only will they taste spectacular, and they won?t cost you the earth either!

Artichoke – these round green bulbs open up like a flower bud and taste exquisite. To prepare trim the stalk and remove the first few leaves before cutting the top 1/4 off the artichoke. Cook in boiling water for 15 minutes then drain. To eat an artichoke is quite like undressing it – tear the leaves off and dip each in tangy vinaigrette then feast on this most delicate vegetable by scraping the leaves between your teeth to remove the flesh.

Asparagus – perfect to tantalise romantic passions, these verdant, phallic looking veggies are easy to prepare and delicious to eat. Simply blanch in boiling water until they are bright green and serve with a drizzle of good quality olive oil, a squeeze of lemon, a grind of salt and pepper and a pinch of salty capers. Eat with your fingers. See, sexy isn’t it?

Avocado – is it a fruit? Is it a vegetable? Well, the Aztecs thought it was something else entirely, calling it ahuacatl, meaning ‘testicle.’ (Ah! Thought it looked familiar!)Its creamy texture lends it to all sorts of culinary fun and games… The smooth skinned fuerte and the dark textured skinned hass avocados are both in season now. They are ripe when they are ever so slightly soft to the squeeze…Eat on its own with a crack of fresh black pepper and a squeeze of lemon juice.

Good sex needs plenty of energy. Raw food processes far more minerals and vitamins than cooked food. For a better sex life, eat plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables, and drink ginseng tea. Eat for the seasons – chilled watermelon on a boiling hot day or piping hot nourishing soup in darkest winter.

For the ultimate in sexy eating, try a blindfolded picnic. First you and your loved one should spend some time picking delicious foodie morsels to tempt each other with. Vary the textures, temperatures and flavours ? some suggestions in addition to the love foods above include dark bitter chocolate, tart raspberries, succulent pear, juicy mango, decadent runny brie cheese, salty capers, fruity olives, slippery oysters, chilled champagne? your only limited by your imagination?

A word of caution. Choose your picnic location wisely, with all this sexy food, things could get a little out of control so unless you are an exhibitionist, you might feel more comfortable closer to home.

Blindfold your partner then choose a morsel of exotic food to have them sample. Tease them with the food while you feed it to them – will it be salty, spicy, sweet? Use your fingers. Watch their reactions as they devour each tidbit with pleasure. Now it?s your turn?

October 2, 2002