Have a tissue handy…
We really can’t be bothered anymore.
They can scrape out your insides but can’t offer an Advil?
I safely co-slept with both my babies and it strengthened our bond.
No, I wasn’t ‘too posh to push’.
Because nothing feels as good in fast forward.
So you need to choose a baby name and the importance of this decision is weighing heavily on your mind – your child will be stuck with the name you choose for life! To make things more even more difficult, you and your partner may have different ideas about what makes a perfect name. Don’t know where to start? Some of these strategies will help.
Choose the surname first
Is it going to be your surname or your partner’s, or a combination of the two? Many of us will agree for the children to have the male partner’s name, even if we’ve kept our own surname after getting married. It’s how it’s been done traditionally and it’s an easy way to keep things simple. Besides, ladies, if you let your child have his surname, it gives you the upper hand when it comes to choosing the first name. Things have to be fair, right?
Discuss types of names
Do you prefer a popular name or an unusual one? How do you feel about a common name but with a different spelling? If the two of you come from different backgrounds, are there any names that are used or sound nice in both cultures? Will your child have a middle name? Agree on the general direction before getting down to the business of picking the actual name.
Make a list of names you like
Shortlist names you like. Use names of people you know or browse a book of baby names and don’t rush it. Every time you hear a name you like, add it to your list. Then once each of you has a few names in mind, examine each other’s lists and cross out any names that you absolutely hate. Hopefully, you will have a few options left. If not – it’s back to the drawing board, make another list.
Still finding it hard to choose a baby name? Leave the final decision until after you meet the baby. It can be much easier to decide once you have a face to put to the name.
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To some, being a stay-at-home-mum is the sole purpose of their life, their dream job and the reason they were put on this earth, but to others it’s their worst nightmare and a job they would happily trade in for an office, regular meal breaks and adult conversation.
Of course for some families, having a stay-at-home-mum isn’t an option. With rising food costs, electricity bills and taxes on everything these days, a lot of families simply can’t afford to live on a sole income. If you’re lucky enough to have the choice, here are some pros and cons of being a stay-at-home-mum.
- There is little chance of you missing out on those important milestones such as first words, first steps and that first time your child eats solids and covers the entire room and themselves with pureed pumpkin.
- You get to spend ample quality time with your children. Being a working mum is extremely tiring and the days fly by all too quickly. After preparing dinner, homework for older children, bath time, preparing lunch boxes, bedtime and a full day’s work, it doesn’t leave much spare time to do fun things with the children.
- You have total control over what you child does and eats each day. Most daycare centres engage and educate children, enriching their delicate lives, but others have been known to neglect children. Being a stay at home mum means that you know what your child is doing all day, the food they’ve eaten and how many nappy changes they’ve really had.
- Stay-at-home-mums have the potential to pick up a part time job which can be worked around the children. Becoming a freelance writer, a typist, or even running your own small business are jobs that can sometimes be done successfully when the children are napping or having some down time.
- Many women are eager to return to work to ensure they don’t lose vital skills. Most jobs require training of some sort on a regular basis so being out of the workforce for years could leave your CV looking dilapidated and your ability to return to the workforce much more difficult.
- Conversing in baby talk and playing charades all day can be tedious to some woman, instead preferring to return to work in order to get the brain ticking over again. Being in a stimulating environment with grown-ups and engaging in adult conversation can be much more appealing.
- Being a stay-at-home-mum means that you’re relying entirely on your partner or family for financial support. Holidays, new clothes or that new car that you desperately want could be way down your list of priorities. Having less income can also be the cause of some relationship problems.
- Some women who choose to stay at home with their children can feel trapped in their own home. It’s all too easy to get stuck in a rut at home day after day. There is no break for a stay-at-home-mum. Being on call 24/7 can get extremely demanding and depressing for some women.
Women who make the decision to return to work, whether full time or part time should never be labelled as bad mothers who can’t stand being around their children and similarly, being a stay at home mum doesn’t mean that they are less intelligent or have less chance of getting a job. Everyone’s circumstances are different, we all do what we have to do to get by and if you’re lucky enough to have that choice of being a stay-at-home-mum, lucky you.
By Karyn Miller
Each year the list of the popular baby names is released and reveals the trends in naming across the country. We’ve taken a step away from the weird and wonderful and have continued on our flashback to traditional names that were popular at the turn of the century. Below are the most popular names for boys and girls in Australia in 2013.
Top 20 girls’ names:
Top 20 boys’ names:
New mothers (and fathers for that matter) have often been heard to cry, ‘If only this light bundle of joy came with a manual”. Before the birth of your first baby you tend to read everything you can get your hands but you often don’t think about all the information you will need once the baby is actually born and the reality can be overwhelming no matter how prepared you feel you are.
New research from eBay has found that more than 70 per cent of new parents who wake during the night to tend to their babies engage in clever multitasking, and often use the time to get their online shopping done. Nearly 90 per cent of Australian parents who shop online while the rest of the country sleeps say that nappies, wipes and formula are at the top of the shopping list.
Responding to the needs of time poor new parents who require the flexibility to shop anytime, anywhere and on any connected device of their choosing, eBay has launched a brand new part of the site called Bubs’ Corner. Bubs’ Corner will give the 1.1 million mums in Australia who are buying baby essentials (78 per cent of whom are already eBay customers) access to all they need for their baby in one convenient and easy to use place.
Head of Strategy and Customer Programs eBay Australia, Jo Hicks, said “New parents have told us that every waking moment needs to be instantly shoppable,”
“What we have aimed to do with Bubs’ Corner is to create an experience that gives time back to new parents. We’ve handpicked products by trusted retailers including Huggies, Curash and Johnson’s that can all be bought quickly – on any device or screen convenient to you – and then delivered to your door,”
“It’s been fascinating to delve into the shopping habits of our Australian parents and it has given us the opportunity to address some of their biggest pain points when it comes to shopping for their babies. With Bubs’ Corner there is no need to ever run out of essentials or to even leave your home for these kinds of purchases.”
Regular discounts, rewards and promotions will be offered to eBay Bubs’ Corner members, and as an added bonus, eBay is offering a $15.00 coupon to spend on nappies and formula to all who sign up for the new Bubs’ Corner membership program.
The new dedicated site will also be packed with everything a parent will need for their little ones, from toys, prams, car seats, skincare and fashion.