My Experience with Tinder (Hint: It Works!)

By Elizabeth Rowe

Tinder’s been getting a pretty bad rap lately. Considering I have been dating a guy I met on Tinder for almost six months now, I feel the app’s shady reputation is unjustified. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it is the best dating site on your smartphone, let alone the internet. Here’s why:

Tinder mimics reality
Every day as you walk down the street, you quietly assess each passing person as a potential date/mate. Yes, it’s shallow, but it’s also a subconscious process that you may not be aware of until you are faced with a dating app that mimics this aspect of human behaviour.

Based on your geographical location and according to your personal settings for age and gender, Tinder allows you to view the profiles of men/women also in your area. One after the other in a never-ending cycle, you can swipe left to discard someone’s profile, or your swipe right to ‘heart’ it. If that person also ‘hearts’ you, a chat window becomes available. In no other way can you contact or be contacted by other Tinder users.

Tinder is constantly branded as superficial and seedy, but you know what? That is exactly how people operate in reality! You unwittingly play Tinder in your mind on a daily basis with prospective partners.

Tinder is multi-purpose
As Tinder users can affirm, there is nothing more addictive than this dating app. Regardless of whether you signed up to find a relationship or a one night stand, Tinder becomes so game-like that the pure entertainment value is a more powerful word-of-mouth drawcard than evidence of its effectiveness.

‘Tindering’ has also become a social activity. You go to a bar in a new area of town with some friends, sit down with a drink, pull out your phones, and check out the local Tinder talent.

Plus, hilarity always ensues when you come across the Tinder profile of somebody you know or work with—or even worse, a sibling.

Tinder works!
Yes, there are creeps on Tinder who are very blunt about their brief sexual intentions, but as a girl who went out on a myriad of Tinder dates, I can guarantee that I was never frightened, bored or ‘catfished’. The vast majority of Tinder users are there for the same reason that you are.

Above all, Tinder can truly make effective matches. It’s misguided to believe that instant physical attraction is not an important part of a blossoming romance, but Tinder also allows you to pick and choose your partners based on mutual interests (as provided by your Facebook likes).  Indeed, the reason I ‘hearted’ my current partner on Tinder was not simply because I thought he was a hunk, but because we shared the same taste in bands, in film and TV, and held the same interests in other areas of popular culture and contemporary life.

Strange situations often make for the best relationship stories, so do not be deterred by Tinder’s sometimes lewd (and largely undeserved) reputation. The app worked wonders for this particular user!

Are you a Tinder user? What has your experience been like?

March 5, 2014

3 of the Best Dating Sites (That Don’t Suck)

Thinking of dipping your toe into the online dating pool? It can be scary and intimidating, but luckily these days more and more couples are meeting online. In fact, more than 10% of people meet their partner through online dating!

But where do you start? After riffling through your Facebook albums looking for the perfect profile pic, and creating a profile that’s just the right side of honest, witty and funny, you need to know which dating sites to use. Believe us, we’ve been there, and just like real-life dating, there’s the good, the bad and the ugly. Here are three of Australia’s best dating sites that you should try – hey, you never know!

OkCupid is one of Australia’s biggest dating sites, and there are plenty of hotties on this one. We compared a stack of dating sites and found OkCupid has an impressive amount of good-looking guys. You can search by age and location, with lovely big profile pics so you don’t have to guestimate what your date will look like. It’s also one of the best dating sites for gay and bisexual singles.

Plenty of Fish is one of the most popular free dating sites in the world with over 40 million worldwide users, with a huge number of Aussie users.  Because of sheer amount of numbers that this site gets, it makes for plenty of opportunities to find people that you might be compatible with. The site might be no-frills but it makes browsing super quick and easy. Start by filling out their POF Relationship Chemistry Predictor test to be matched up with other singles with similar personality traits. is huge both here in Australia and the world, and claims that more online relationships start from their site than any other. In fact, it’s hard to find someone that hasn’t used it – hey, even Martha Stewart used! What’s great is that you can browse by more than just age and location, but also ethnicity and faith, so if those features are important to you, this is a great place to start.

What are the best dating sites you’ve used? Share them in the comments!

February 6, 2014

3 of the Best Dating Sites

Yesterday was the busiest day of the year for online dating, so we’ve reviewed three of Australia’s best dating sites – RSVP, eHarmony and Plenty of Fish – so you can start the new year with a new love!

Australia’s most popular dating website is RSVP, a dating website that offers a free personality survey and a number of different mobile dating options. Using RSVP is

To create a profile on RSVP, upload a few recent photos, complete your profile information, describe your interests, and what you want out of an ideal partner. After your profile is completed, use RSVP’s customised search function to find other Australian singles that have the specific personality traits, interests, and let’s face it, physical attributes, you desire in a better half.

Where RSVP sets itself apart from other Australian dating websites is that the it uses algorithms to comb through their database, helping match your profile to other singles with similar interests and values. Which means less browsing and more time flirting and chatting with potential partners.

When you find a sexy single that piques your interest, break the ice by sending them a “kiss.” A kiss is a free, preset message that helps you establish a connection.

The next step is to buy “stamps” so you can begin a conversation and chat with your potential match for 30 days. RSVP’s Priority Services cost $14.90 a month, which gets you to the top of the search results, or $29.90 for their Private Service, which allows you to enjoy more privacy, upload more photos, and send Stamps that don’t expire.

eHarmony: 29 Dimensions of Compatibility
Like RSVP, eHarmony gives you access to a large network of Aussie singles. It’s one of the biggest dating networks in the world, thanks in part to its patented 29 Dimensions of Compatibility.

eHarmony’s 29 Dimensions of Compatibility is a computer algorithm that is modeled around the relationship traits frequently found in successful relationships. When you create a profile on eHarmony, the service will match you with another single that has compatible values and interests.

There a number of different chemistry-building communication methods available for aspiring lovebirds. There’s the “Makes or Breaks” feature, and a “Digging Deeper” questionnaire, that allows you to ask to quiz a match about certain personality traits (a.k.a deal breakers). And if you don’t want to give out your contact details, you can chat via their mail service, which is great for security.

eHarmony offers subscription services starting at $59.95 for a one-month subscription, to $239.40 for a year-long subscription.

Plenty of Fish
Plenty of Fish is one of Australia’s most popular dating sites, because it’s always been free so has attracted hundreds of thousands of Aussies. But don’t let that scare you – more singles increases the chance that you’ll find love. There is an upgrade feature but you’re better off saving your cash as it doesn’t really give you any benefits.

Start by taking Plenty of Fish’s “Chemistry Test,” which asks you a number of questions about your interests, romantic history, and romantic desires. It’s a good way to reflect about what you’re looking for in a partner. They also have a popular feature called “Your Relationship Needs,” a test and tutorial that will help you identify past relationship problems, as well as help you find the perfect match now.

What are your favourite dating sites? Share them in the comments!

December 30, 2013