Here’s Why You Bruise So Easily

Are you just a klutz, or are those purple patches a sign of something else? 

A Thank You (And Goodbye) Letter To My Birth Control

Birth control, I love you. It’s not you, it’s me.

My Abortions Were Not A Mistake

I am where I am today — a happily married mother — because of all the decisions I’ve made in my life. And those decisions included two abortions.

Why I Finally Decided To Stop Taking Birth Control

When my doctor wanted put me on the pill, I agreed. But that was the wrong move. 

My Doctor Won’t Treat Me Because I’m A Virgin

The shame almost made me not write this essay.

These Are The Best Apps For Tracking Your Period

Want to know when Aunt Flo is coming to town? There’s an app for that.

Here’s What You Need To Know About Trump’s Supreme Court Pick

Neil Gorsuch has a bad track record when it comes to women’s rights.

Male Birth Control Shot Scrapped After Guys Whinge Like Big Babies

Apparently men couldn’t hack the same side effects women have been putting up with for years.

Why We Need To Dispel The Myth Of Late-Term Abortions

Contrary to popular opinion, women don’t use abortions as a form of last-minute birth control.

Catholic School Did Nothing To Prepare Me For Sex

My male classmates learnt how to put on condoms while we learnt how to use tampons.

Why I Drank While I Was Pregnant

Cheers to having agency over your own damn body.

The Truth About Ted Cruz’s War On Women’s Bodies

Do we really want a president whose interest is in controlling women’s sexuality?

How To Orally Apply A Condom

Most men are reluctant about using condoms, but we have a naughty little skill which may be just the thing to change his mind. Hey, if you have to use them, you may as well use them to your advantage, right! Give him a treat and apply it with your mouth. It’s highly recommended for oral sex as well as intercourse.

With so many varieties and flavors on the market, why not have a bit of fun with them. It’s a lot like turning the humble condom into a playful little sex toy. Go for a flavored variety and add your own edible lube otherwise you will end up with a really awful taste in your mouth. There’s nothing sexy about a mouth full of sickly tasting goo!

Now, don’t assume this is going to be easy. You’ll need to practice so grab some cheap condoms because you’ll probably rip a few. There’s a real art to it. After you’ve mastered it, then you can experiment with different varieties. If you start by using ribbed ones, you’ll probably be a bit out of your league. Keep it simple and work toward the tricky stuff later. Seriously, don’t forget edible lube. This makes the condom much easier to apply and provides extra sensitivity for him.

Step-by-step guide

1. Use your hands to take the condom out of the wrapper. Ripping it open with your teeth can puncture it. Yeah, it’s sexy, but it’s a no-no.

2. Unroll it slightly, taking notice of which way it’s unrolling. It needs to unroll as you lower your mouth, so make sure you have it the right way round. Practice this before you put it in your mouth because if it’s the wrong way around, you’ll have to start again.

3. Apply some lube to your lips, inside the tip of the condom and to the tip of your man’s penis. Like we said it does make it easier to apply and make it more sensitive for him, plus it prevents it from breaking.

4. Pinch the tip before you put it in your mouth. If you place it snugly over the top of his penis, there will be nowhere for the semen to go later.

5. This is when you put it in your mouth. This image should help you understand the positioning.

6. Suck the tip in slightly and hold it in place by putting it behind your teeth using your tongue.

7.  Now that you have it in place, lower your mouth to the head of his penis. You can use a hand to hold his penis so you are in charge of what’s going on.

8. In one swift motion, lower your mouth so the condom unrolls over his penis. Your lips will basically do the work as you lower your mouth. This motion should unroll the condom and position it correctly. Make sure you keep hold of the tip to keep it empty.

9. Use your tongue to flatten the tip of the condom onto the tip of his penis, leaving room for his ejaculation.

10. Position the condom properly using your mouth and tongue, should it not be sitting correctly.

11. If this isn’t working, use your other hand to position it correctly.

12. Add more lube and you are done!

This will get easier with practice. You might find a way that works better for you, because it is a bit tricky keeping the tip in your mouth as you unroll it with your lips. If you find it gets stuck, add more lube.

Try to keep your teeth out of it. Some people use their teeth to unroll it or position it, but when you use your teeth there is a much greater chance of ripping it.

Lastly, give him plenty of eye contact throughout the entire process. Position yourself so he can see what’s going on. Men enjoy visual stimulation, so make a performance and you’ll never have any protest using condoms ever again!

Good luck!

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Birth Control Post-Babies: Why Won’t He Get The Snip?

In an ideal world, when a couple has completed their family, the man will gaze lovingly and proudly at his wife, who’s borne him several beautiful, healthy babies, and say: “That’ll do babe, that’ll do,” and pop off up the road to Dr Snip, stat!

Unfortunately, in real life, things don’t always work out this perfectly and many men seem to be more than a tad anxious about, and unwilling to get, a vasectomy.

For me, this is a tad surprising and unfair – why can’t a vasectomy be a completely liberating experience for both parties, given it relieves a couple from the anxiety and fear of an unwanted pregnancy? Why should a woman have to take sole responsibility for birth control and family planning. And surely, by having a vasectomy, a man will then experience the best stress-free sex he’s ever had?

So, why won’t your man put his, erm, balls on the line, so to speak?

A vasectomy is an operation designed to sterilise a man by cutting the tubes that allow sperm to leave the testicles. And, let’s do some myth-busting right here – contrary to popular thought, a man’s sex drive, production of sex hormones and ability to reach orgasm are all unaffected by the procedure. But try telling that to your average red-blooded male who’s more than a little, erm, attached to his penis – literally.

In fact, easy for me to say, I guess, but compared with say, a caesarean, a vasectomy sounds like a walk in the park. There’s no six-week recovery and weeks of constant pain here, just a few days of rest and a bruised and tender scrotum, by contrast. And men can even usually resume sex a few days afterward?!

And while the times, they are a changing – the inaugural World Vasectomy Day was held in Adelaide on October 18, 2013 and was said to be the largest male-oriented global family planning event ever – you might want to investigate the new birth control on offer, post-babies, if your man is still wary of the procedure.

Get thee to a GP, for all birth control has pros and cons, costs involved and you may need to be patient and experiment to see what works best. In addition, you must always also use a condom (pictured) to safeguard against STIs if not in a monogamous relationship. Here are some fast facts on a few of the main, popular birth control:

The Pill: Old-school, but if it works for you, the Pill is 98 per cent effective. Oral pills, taken daily, which are the oral synthetic form of the hormones progesterone and estrogen can act as birth control and also improve menstrual problems like heavy bleeding, pelvic cramps and pain and irregular cycles. The downside is if you are forgetful, this one could prove problematic as you have to take it at the same time each day.

IUD: There’s a lot of hype about the Mirena and GPs seem to push this one a lot. Are they getting kickbacks? An intrauterine device (IUD) is a T-shaped pliable plastic rod with an attached thread that is inserted by a trained GP or nurse into the uterus through the cervix. There are two main types of IUDs: progestin-releasing IUD such as Mirena and Skyla and the Copper-coil IUD (ParaGard). Costs vary, but it can be up to 99 per cent effective. I’ve heard both good and bad things about this one.

Implant: This is a matchstick-size rod implanted under the inner arm skin, which lasts up to three years. It’s said to be 99 per cent effective. Once implanted, the rod releases a hormone into your body. Much like any other hormonal form of contraception (like the Pill), it stops the ovaries from releasing an egg each month. One rod prevents pregnancies for up to three years. This one seems to have a long list of side effects, but some women love it.

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Getting Pregnant After Birth Control

Thinking about having a baby, but concerned how birth control may affect your chances of conceiving? It’s common for women have taken birth control for years to question whether or not their long-term use of birth control will prohibit them from getting pregnant.

Fortunately, most experts say that the majority of women who have taken oral contraceptives should not have problems with ovulation or conception once they stop taking the pill. A recent study that focused on more than 2,000 women who had recently stopped taking the birth control pill discovered that 21 percent of the women became pregnant within one month. Approximately 79 percent of the women became pregnant within one year. These results were quite similar to the results of women who had not been taking the pill.

If you intend to start trying to conceive, read on for some helpful tips that will increase your chances of success.

Pick a date
In most cases, you will ovulate a few weeks after you stop taking the birth control pill. However, some women may have to wait a little longer for ovulation to occur. For this reason, it is a good idea to pick a date to begin trying to conceive so that you can plan to stop taking your birth control pills about three months before that date.

Women who have used IUDs or contraceptive patches should follow these same guidelines. This should give your body plenty of time to readjust its hormone levels and start the ovulation process. Contraceptives such as condoms and diaphragms can be used until you are ready to start attempting to conceive.

Women who have used injectable contraceptives like Depo-Provera will need to wait as long as nine months to one year for the drug’s hormones to leave your body completely. You will not start ovulating until your body is able to produce hormones on its own again. Pick a date to start conceiving that is one year from the date of your last Depo-Provera shot. Your body should be able to return to normal within that amount of time. If your cycle does not return after waiting for the recommended amount of time, you may need to visit your doctor to determine if there is another underlying problem.

Once you begin the process of trying to get pregnant, it takes the average couple about five months to conceive. Some couples may have to try longer before they conceive. This time frame is roughly the same for all women, whether they took birth control or not.

Get healthy
During your last month of taking oral contraceptives, you should start taking a preconception vitamin supplement. Ideally, the supplement should contain at least 400 micrograms of folic acid in addition to all of the other vitamins and minerals necessary for women’s health.

To significantly lower your risk of birth defects of miscarriage, it is a good idea to start taking a folic acid supplement at least two months before trying to conceive. These supplements will help to lay the foundation for a healthy pregnancy and lower or eliminate your risk for many complications.

There are many myths that exist about birth control use and fertility. Start by speaking to your doctor, and giving your hormones time to adjust.

What is your experience with birth control and getting pregnant?