There were red flags, but I didn’t notice.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do, is to walk away.
Fasten your seatbelts, this is going to be a bumpy ride.
To the boy who never did anything wrong, but also never did anything right:
I made a bad decision and I don’t expect him to forgive me.
I still think of her daily. And it still hurts.
Content notice: suicidal images.
I knew Marcus was no longer Marcus.
The lyrics are pretty self-explanatory.
Start with some affirmations -“each hour is an opportunity” is a good one. Listen to an upbeat song – no Stevie Wonder or Portishead! Read an inspiring poem or quote, look at a flower, do the sun salutation, pat a dog, shut your eyes while you sip your coffee and picture yourself having a happy day being and having all that you wish for…
Don’t read the paper until you’ve done one of the above. Don’t chat to the grumpy neighbour, hop on the train or watch the news. Your tender head needs preparation so it can meet the day armed with a ‘positive’ vest. Oh, and pack fruit and nuts to snack on at through the day – your blood sugar is important at this time.
Next, look at your bedroom. It’s time for a good clearing out! Open your bedroom window, play some loud disco music, turn all the lights on and burn some incense or aromatherapy oils. In Eastern philosophy music, light and heat all increase the Yin (positive) energy around us. A good oil combo for productivity and focus: Rosemary, Basil and Cedarwood. Three drops of each in an oil burner and you’re on your way.
Throw out some old clothes, pack up any old love letters and store them in a box (in another room), or better still, if you’re feeling really strong – toss them away.
Change the pictures on your walls and the photos in your frames. Vacuum your room, wipe the dust, head to the shops for a new set of pillowcases, (or a full set of linen if you’re really feeling indulgent) or a healing crystal to hang from your window.
Feel a bit more welcome and clean in your own space now? Change your exterior and it’s bound to affect the interior.
So you’ve finally decided to break up with him but what do you say so he doesn’t’ end up weeping buckets or going psycho and throwing furniture about. These are our pointers for making a quick, clean and as painless exit:
- Don’t verbally beat him up. Character assassination is not required at this point, no matter how tempting it is to whip out all those little things that irritate you, and it will only make you look petty. Besides he’s already going to feel like crap, don’t add to it.
- Get it over with. Don’t let the conversation go on for hours, you will just be going round in circles. It will just get late and you will end up in bed together – bad idea. It should take no more than an hour, no matter how long you’ve been together.
- Make it stick. The worst thing you can do is throw in a maybe to try to ease their pain. This leaves the proverbial door ajar slightly when it should be closed firmly behind both of you. Give him back his stuff. Keep all gifts he gave you, except if they are family heirlooms.