Enhance-your-relationship

Is Your Sex Life All About Achieving Orgasm?

When couples meet they usually have a period of abstinence where they get to know each other. As things develop they introduce some sexual behaviour into the equation. They first begin with kissing and cuddling, touching and holding hands. Despite the lack of intercourse, most new couples are pretty elated with each other.

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At their own pace, couples decide when it’s time for intercourse to enter their relationship (pardon the pun!). This is usually when their sexual behavior becomes orgasm orientated. The nights they had spent together just kissing, cuddling and talking are replaced with new and exciting ways to reach their happy ending.

As time passes this feature becomes more and more prominent. Life gets busy and sex lives become little more than a release of tension and frustration. It might consist of a quickie before you head to work in the morning or right before you go to sleep. It’s not exactly mind-blowing, but it’s sex in its most basic form. There might be nights when things spark up a little, but life takes over and it gradually slides back to the norm.

Now if that’s the routine your sex life has fallen into, you aren’t alone. Millions of couples have great intentions when it comes to their sex life, but the discussion is usually neglected or given much priority. When it comes to sex couples usually do it not talk about it.

So, what if you could get back that elation you experienced at the beginning of your relationship, before your sex life wasn’t focused on reaching orgasm? When your mind and body were in the here and now? When you actually experienced the feelings which accompanied the physical side of sex? When you felt more connected to your partner, in and out of the bedroom?

Without going back to step one and telling your partner, your’e both about to undergo a period of celibacy (which I’m sure they’ll just love!), there’s a way back from the destination you’ve reached. Tantra is basically sexual healing for the mind, body and soul. If you’ve heard about and tried it out, you’re in for a treat, because I’ve got heaps of Tantra tips and techniques coming up, direct from the sexperts at Oztantra.

Now, for those who haven’t heard of or tried Tantra, you may be unaware that both men and women can become multi-orgasmic, without being orgasm orientated. The pressure orgasm places on sex causes all sorts of issues and can actually turn sex into a chore or routine instead of the blissful experience it is meant to be.

For women, Tantra it’s about removing the social conditioning, which dictates women aren’t sexual beings and opens the door for sexuality to develop and enrich her entire being. They are encouraged to explore and enjoy their sexuality rather than stifle it and open themselves up to the love which a partner offers. In turn, she will openly be able to love her partner and express this love through passionate love-making.

For men, they learn to slow down and shift from having sex into an experience of lovemaking. They learn to focus on their own pleasure rather than performing for their partner. He is encouraged to separate orgasm from ejaculation and therefore prolong the experience for himself and his lady. He is encouraged to become a more confident love-maker with greater control of his sexual energy.

Together, couples expand and explore the love they feel for each other while improving trust and intimacy. Instead of rushed, energy sapping sex, Tantra is an experience in healing and rejuvenation. The chemicals in the brain and body which improve health and well-being have time to generate and disperse, which leaves the mind clearer and the body freer.

So, if your sex life is focused on orgasm, re-think the idea and simply enjoy the touch and sensation. Once that  “pressure” is removed the experience can be appreciated, much like the onset of the relationship before orgasm got in the way. Being non-orientated toward orgasm leaves room for a sexual experience to be fully enjoyed for the sake of enjoyment, not a means to an end to reach a happy ending!

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December 16, 2014

Sex Toys You Didn’t Know You Already Had

Sex toys used to be called martial aids, and still are in some places, because the list of items couples can use included way more than what they sold in adult shops. Although this industry is booming and there are new items available all the time, there are plenty of everyday things couples can use to spice it up. Here’s a few ideas to add a bit a variety to your sex life that you probably have in your home already.

Food

When was the last time you went to the kitchen and looked for tasty spreads or creams, fruit and veggies, to use with your partner? Use your imagination, get creative and go hunting! You can also change the sensation if you heat or cool down particular foods. Imagine heated Nutella, for example, yum! The warmth will also increase blood flow so it’s a win-win!

Vibrating electric razors

Now, this may sound a bit out there, but many electric razors actually vibrate and they are waterproof. Detach the top to avoid cutting yourselves and have a play. You’ll find they are really similar to the smaller vibrators on the market. They are much better for foreplay because they can be a bit sharp if you try to use them using intercourse.

Hair ties

You might wonder what a little hair tie has to do with sex but think about cock rings for a minute. They are made of all sorts of things so why not try a hair tie. The rubber ones without the small metal clasp are better because there is a chance the metal piece can cut you both. Also, be careful not to put it on too tight or leave it on too long. It’s about restricting the blood flow, while the penis is engorged, but eventually the blood has to be able to able to flow.

Mobile phones

Yep. Yet another thing to use your mobile for. You can either set it to vibrate and your partner can continue to call you, while you strategically place it or how about this; there’s now an app for this too. MyVibe by MyPleasure has developed an app to control your phones vibrations from short and quick to long and slow. Is there no end to what you can use your mobile for? Apparently not! By the way, you might want to give it a clean before and after to use it. These things are covered with bacteria.

Peppermint mouthwash/peppermints

Peppermint mouth wash or mints can give your partner a cool, tingling sensation during oral sex. Plus the peppermint actually increases circulation and blood flow. Avoid direct contact with the skin, however, because it can be painful for sensitive areas. This works for both partners, so why not take turns?

Cooking oil

Want to go for a bit of slip and slid? Lotions are ok but oils, particularly cooking, can add a new dimension to the word fun. You can use it for foreplay to give your partner an amazing, full body massage or during intercourse. You might have a few problems making a connection, as you slip and slide all over each other but it’s well worth trying. If you like it, you might want to go and invest in tastier, edible stuff because cooking oil doesn’t taste the best.

October 12, 2014

One easy way to keep your relationship exciting.


Want to get back that feeling ? remember when you first got together? Don?t just go to sleep when you get into bed tonight. Take the time to make yourself comfortable and enhance your relationship with your partner.

Make yourself comfortable
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