Also, like, every other day too.
The Oscars and feminism have historically had a rocky relationship. But this year, something shifted…
This might actually be a TERRIBLE idea.
It’s a bad time to be a woman.
“I saw bodies flying like bowling pins along its route.”
One giant step backwards for women’s rights.
It seems the old ball and chain still isn’t lifting his weight.
“I’m so tired of hearing, ‘There aren’t qualified women’ in Hollywood.”
It’s time for Australia to follow the US’s lead and legalise same-sex marriage; anything less is a grave miscarriage of justice. On June 26, the US became the 21st and most populous country to legalise same-sex marriage. So, what’s holding us back?
Now, marriage isn’t for everyone, but there are no good, moral, rational or societal reasons to deny gay people the choice to wed, thereby affording them the same rights as heterosexuals. It’s incredibly arrogant and inequitable to say one person is allowed to marry, while another of a differing sexual orientation is not – love is gender-blind.
And any anti same-sex marriage arguments I’ve ever seen are stupid, illogical and border on the obscene. I say pay no heed to right-wing nutters, erm, sorry people, who argue introducing marriage equality in Australia will “damage the sanctity” of marriage. These very people are doing the institution of marriage, and the country, a damn sight more devastation and harm by their backward, regressive and discriminatory views all by themselves.
I put the likes of outspoken opponents to same-sex marriage such as Rev. Fred Nile, the Leader of the Christian Democratic Party and our own Prime Minister Tony Abbott in the same boat: fools whose idiotic, backward views will ultimately prove their own undoing – history will not look kindly back on those dinosaurs against the turning of the tide. Australians are clearly, overwhelmingly in favour of legalising same-sex marriage.
And, just this week, the government’s bumbling Agriculture Minister Barnaby Joyce warned that Asia could see Australia as “decadent” if same-sex marriage is legalised. Decadent?! How is denying a section of our community basic equal rights “decadent”? That ridiculous, illogical statement hurts my head: surely Asia, like other progressive countries would applaud us for finally endorsing marriage equality?
Melbourne media educator Jonathan Brown, 27 (pictured) – who, along with his partner and fiancée Kevin Newman, 28, recently went public about his desire to get legally wed in Australia, says diversity is normal – discrimination is not. For the couple, Australia introducing same-sex marriage would be long overdue recognition that gay people were “equal under the law.”
“Certain religions and groups in the community can define marriage and relationships in their own way, but it’s not their right to define it for all of us under the law. The law is there to represent all Australians and as it currently stands the law sends a dangerous message that we [gay people] are lesser people somehow because of our sexuality. Not everyone wants to get married, but we should have the choice. No fair society should deny choices on the basis of sexuality,” Jonathan says.
“The US decision is important because it recognises that denying the choice of marriage to people based on their sexual orientation is state-sanctioned discrimination. Australia should follow suit because ultimately Australians believe in fairness and this is one of our big tests of whether we are truly a fair nation.
“Kevin and I were going to arrange our own ceremony here in Australia regardless of the law and call ourselves married anyway, but the chance marriage equality could be possible this year made us hold our plans in the hope we can do the real thing soon. We want our family and friends to join us on Australian soil and recognise us under Australian law. We want to celebrate our love like the thousands of other Australians who do so every year.”
Jonathan firmly believes most Australians are pro-gay marriage. “The sad reality is that a very effective campaign of obstructionism has held back political progress,” he says. “It’s not only embarrassing, but frankly anti-democratic that our elected representatives have resisted the Australian people on this.
“Since speaking out about our plans to get married, Kevin and I have had a really beautiful response from our family, friends and the public. I think when it finally happens in Australia, it will be a really special moment for us and we can’t wait to celebrate our love and the love of our gay friends wanting to get married too.
“It’s frustrating that I can’t marry the man I love in Australia right now, but for me it’s the bigger picture that matters the most. This is a big step in telling kids who grow up questioning their sexuality or gender that they are beautiful, natural and normal human beings who deserve to be loved like anyone else. It’s about sending a message to those kids – that’s what drives me. Marriage equality is just one step in creating a world where kids can grow up and their sexuality is just an accepted part of their development and who they are.
“Opponents try to make it sound like it’s a simple matter of opinion and we shouldn’t judge them for that, while they continue to judge us because of our sexuality. I think their words are damaging and dangerous to the health and well-being of our community.”
And Brisbane marketing executive Rachel Vickary, 40, concurs. Rachel (pictured), who has a 18-year-old son she co-parents with her long-term partner whom she affectionately calls “the wife”, says it’s high time Australia did what is fair and right: legalise same-sex marriage.
“As a voter, a tax payer, a significant social contributor, a mum, a businesswoman and a lesbian, I find it outrageous that in Australia in 2015 that, despite paying the same amount of tax and abiding by the same laws as every other Australian, I am afforded less rights than a heterosexual Australian citizen,” Rachel says. “It’s incredibly disappointing, not to mention embarrassing at an international/global level, to be one of the most ‘backward-thinking’ nations on this issue.
“There are so many stupid and ignorant arguments being parroted by ill-informed, uneducated people who are afraid of the idea of same-sex marriage; many come back to religion and the idea that it’s ‘against the bible’. Well, I hate to say it, but ‘traditional’ marriage according to the Bible also advocated children being sold into marriage, spousal rape and abuse (considered more than just OK, but actually quite obligatory at certain times during history), polygamy, incest and other lovely ‘traditions’.
“In the 1920s, the idea that people might actually marry for love, raised many a religious, right-wing hackle, as love was not considered to be a sound reason for entering into a ‘traditional marriage’, and many predicted a future of doom and destruction for the institution.
“Another argument is that to allow same-sex marriage is to destroy the sanctity of marriage. Um… Why? A same-sex couple tying the knot doesn’t make an opposite-sex couple’s marriage any less valid. And if we’re going to roast that old chestnut – the sanctity of marriage – then let’s take a serious look at shows like Married at First Sight or Bridezillas, which make an utter mockery of the entire thing. How rage-inducing do you imagine it is for my same-sex partner and I when we can’t get officially married or even recognised, and yet complete strangers can ‘marry’ each other in a cheap, tawdry ratings grab on commercial television?”
Rachel is also quick to point out some heterosexuals – and many an A-list celebrity – do a perfectly good job of devaluing marriage all by themselves. “Did Britney Spears do anything positive for the sanctity and solemnity of the married state when she got wasted and then married in Vegas (before annulling it within hours, presumably after she’s either sobered up or come down)? And what about Liz Taylor getting married a million times between rehab stints?” she says.
“There’s also a hilarious argument that children are better off in a ‘traditional’ family unit than in a same-sex family unit. To this I say, bollocks! My 18-year-old son who is currently at university has grown up to be a kind, well-rounded, beautiful human being, who is proud to have two mums.”
What do you think? Is Australia’s endorsement of same-sex marriage long overdue?
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“My heart doesn’t see race. Love has no age limit. We all have different religions, but we have universal love as well.”
These are some of the powerful messages delivered in a new campaign by the Ad Council that aims to draw attention to “implicit bias” and forces us to look beyond superficial qualities.
The 3-minute video for ‘Love Has No Labels’ sees significant others including friends, lovers and siblings, pose behind a giant x-ray machine in Santa Monica, California. The audience then watches on as skeleton’s dance, embrace and kiss, before each pair walks out in front of the screen to reveal their identity and differences to the crowd.
Some of the couples are gay, some have different races and others are of different religions and age. Throughout the video the audience’s reaction is also captured and shows humanity at its best as they celebrate each pair’s diversity. At one point in the video a male couple and their son walk out onto the stage, saying: “Our family is no less than any other family.” The response from the audience is heart-warming as they applaud and cheer.
“Many of us unintentionally make snap judgments about people based on what we see – whether it’s race, age, gender, religion, sexuality, or disability,” says the video’s YouTube description.
“This may be a significant reason many people in the U.S. report they feel discriminated against. Subconscious prejudice – called ‘implicit bias’ – has profound implications for how we view and interact with others who are different from us,” it continues.
“The Love Has No Labels campaign challenges us to open our eyes to our bias and prejudice and work to stop it in ourselves, our friends, our families, and our colleagues.”
The video – which was was uploaded on Monday – has since gone viral with over 11 million views and hundreds of thousands of shares.
It’s interesting how a few Twitter posts using the hashtag #MeninistTweet can lead to a small movement. Meninism has been on the rise for a few months now, but what exactly is it?
It’s hard to define as meninists themselves don’t seem to be able to agree on one definition, but the bottom line of meninism, I would argue, is the attempt to bring awareness to the inequality that 21st century men face on a daily basis. Some say it’s satirical, others are more serious.
Questions like: “Why do women want equal pay but expect the guy to pay for dinner,” and “why don’t women date short men but expect us to date overweight women,” are asked on MeninistTweet’s account, which has over 700,000 followers.
That’s right, apparently it’s not just us women feeling unequal, but also men, which kind of makes us equal again, doesn’t it? You see, it’s confusing. And it’s problematic, as meninism can be described as a counter-movement to feminism. In other words, meninists are people fed up with the apparent ‘hypocrisy of feminism.’ However, feminism – at its core, is not hypocritical at all, but aspires the abolition of a sex hierarchy, which is often confused with ‘equality’ or ‘identical treatment’ for men and women.
Keeping the original meaning of feminism in mind, meninism and feminism are technically the same movement, or should be, making one of them redundant. But maybe there is some good in meninism as it is true that feminism mostly focuses on the inequality that women face, when at the same time, nowadays there are serious issues for men, too. Male victims of domestic violence and rape, for example, still seem to be taboos in our society.
If the 700,000 self-proclaimed meninists out there really want to make a change, they will have to get over their first-world problems of having to pay for dinner, and focus on the more important stuff. And most of all, they will have to get the “true” feminists on their side, and ignore the ones that don’t understand feminism. Either way, it will be interesting to see where meninism goes.
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Despite the giant leap Feminism has made for women’s rights, there is still a significant amount of households being maintained by women. Many women fall into a trap of doing the majority of the household chores. It likely happened as a result of their behaviour when they first moved in with their partner.
A lot of women get swept up in the moment and want to prove, that their partner has chosen the perfect wife. They want to care for and pamper the person they love.
It’s been bred in them since they were born. Little girls are taught from an early age, how to maintain a home and look after children. They cook the meals, keep the house sparkling clean, do the washing, ironing, shopping and anything else that fits in with the 1950s version of the ideal wife.
The only problem is, as time passes, these things will be expected. This is ultimately how women have made a rod for their backs and how societal expectations have supported it.
Therefore, if you want a household which resembles an equal partnership rather than a relationship which mimics of the 1950s, be aware you have the power to do either. It starts in the first few months of being alone together, when you first learn how to live together. Being aware of how your current or past behaviour leads to expectations of your future behaviour is the key.
So, when moving into a home with your partner don’t automatically take on all the responsibilities of running a home. This is what women have done for centuries. If you want your life to be different, it needs to begin differently.
Although your partner may come from a home where the women does the cooking, cleaning and shopping; they can learn to do things differently. If your partner insists they don’t know how to do something; teach them! Some women may be lucky enough to snag a man who has been taught by a mother who has prepared them or who has lived out of home for a time.
Chores such as washing, ironing, shopping, cooking and cleaning can be done by either partner. Having a roster for things that need to be done is a great way to share the load.
Working out who is better at what, is a part of the adventure of living together. Your partner may be a wizard in the kitchen while you are better at mowing the lawn. Who cares who does what as long as it all gets done and you can share the responsibilities.
This will remove the burden of doing all the housework for the remainer of the relationship; which in some cases may be lifelong. Remember that it’s much harder to change a pattern once it has began than to establish the desired pattern at the onset.
By Kim Chartres