My husband fearlessly carries my purse, helps our daughter shop for prom dresses and enjoys being the passenger in my car.
Why do men constantly need to be reminded they’re, er, men?
Over the weekend, Tori Spelling stepped out of a medical spa looking like she had been skinned. Seriously. After reportedly having a chemical peel, a microdermabrasion facial and a wax, the 42-year-old was almost unrecognisable as she left the clinic red, splotchy and pained, nonetheless.
On the same day, Kate Hudson was also spotted leaving a health care studio that specialises in cryotherapy – a procedure in which the whole body is exposed to subzero temperatures. You could basically liken it to standing in an oversized deep-freezer in your panties.
Interestingly, these aren’t even a handful of the unimaginable beauty procedures that women are putting themselves through in their quest to look and feel better. What’s more, we’ve begun to live by the notion that beauty is pain; but at what expense?
“I personally think what is really disturbing now is the way that the expectation of a women to engage in beauty treatments, procedures and cosmetic surgery, is so ingrained in our culture that we don’t even think twice about it,” photographer Jessica Ledwich told the Huffington Post.
“These procedures are almost so mainstream now that you book them to fit between your grocery shopping and your laundry. There are a whole generation of young women who not only think it is normal to do this but that its desirable and worse, expected.”
Ledwich last year released a photo series called Monstrous Feminine which depicted beauty rituals as acts of mutation in a bid to make women re-think femininity. While the images “employ an element of the absurd,” they reveal the extent that women are willing to go to, just to feel beautiful.
“Some procedures might just be uncomfortable, but others are downright dangerous,” she told Fast Company. “All so we can aspire to look like a model that is digitally manipulated in the first place.”
At what point does it stop, ladies?
What do you think about the crazy beauty procedures available?
Images via Daily Mail, Girltalkhq.com
A prominent fact of life is that all people judge each other by how they look and what they wear. Some people attempt to be consciously non-judgmental and try to look past appearances, but they still make unconscious decisions based on initial impressions on whether a person is a potential friend or foe. This phenomenon goes back to the time of the dinosaurs and it’s ultimately how the human race has survived.
It’s due to the importance of making a good impression that people generally take care of how they present themselves. Yes, there are times when you just want to sleuth out so some situations are more important than others, like going for an interview, a night out on the town or going on a date.
During these times if you are aiming for that sexy and sophisticated look and are actually leaning toward skanky, you will be repealing the type of life opportunities you deserve. The most imperative thing in these situations is to know the difference.
So what are they? Firstly, the difference between sexy and skanky is attitude related. Regardless of how you look, if you feel and behave like God’s gift to men, you are probably projecting yourself as skanky. Sexy, sophisticated women don’t pounce, they lure and there lies the big difference.
Traditionally, males are the hunters and that still applies to the battle of the sexes when it comes to work and play. Whether you are being interviewed for a job, at a club or on a date, the majority of men don’t like to be chased. Regardless of the advancement Feminism has made, men still judge women who chase them and prefer the company of women who don’t.
Now, apart from attitude and behavior, how you look adds to the art of luring and seduction. Sexy, sophisticated women have this down pat. When it comes to how they present themselves, less is certainly not more and if you want people to notice your brain instead of your boobs, don’t shove them out there for everyone to see.
Sexy women show just enough cleavage to be alluring, dress their age, add make-up only to enhance their natural beauty, limit accessories and emulate femininity. They avoid revealing clothing like ultra short shorts, skirts or dresses, exceptionally plunging necklines and items which look more like lingerie. They also know how to style footwear. For example; many people refer to long full length boots as cum-fuck-me-boots. If you are going to wear them you need to know what message they are sending and how to style them with elegance and grace.
So, unless you’re heading down to the beach, cover up a bit and let the imagination work its magic. I’m not being a prude either. After years of experience, having male friends, work colleagues and a couple of long term partners, I have an excellent insight into the way they think. It’s not just men either. Other women are probably your most cynical critics and many will notice if you look skanky.
If you are unsure before you step out the door, check out how you look in the mirror. If you’re about to have a wardrobe malfunction and your breasts are about to leap out of your top, stop! If you bend over and get a peek of your underwear, (lets hope you are wearing some) stop! Turn around and choose something else. Plus, if your makeup has you looking like someone else, you are probably overdoing it.
Lastly, it doesn’t matter if you are 19 or 69, if you look skanky instead of sexy, it will make other people uncomfortable. That will limit valuable life opportunities, including jobs, friendships and relationships. Sure, you might get a fair bit of attention, but you need to aim for positive attention to ultimately get the best out of life.
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