First-date

Sorry, I Won’t Date You Until You’ve Called Me On The Actual Phone

Because dating burnout is real and I want to make sure you’re worth my time. 

April 12, 2017

An Argument For Letting Your Inner Freak Flag Fly On The First Date

Because playing it cool’s for job interviews. 

April 4, 2017

I’m Just Going To Say It – Guys Who Split The Bill On Dates Are Douchebags

If you make me split the bill on a date with you, don’t expect me to go out with you again.

November 7, 2016

I Dated A Male Model And It Made Me Feel Insecure

What’s wrong with indulging in a little harmless fantasy?

October 26, 2016

7 Science-Based Hacks For Calming Your Nerves Before A Date

Staying calm isn’t rocket science.

October 24, 2016

I Screen All My Dates Before I Go Out With Them

You wouldn’t buy new makeup without checking out reviews online first, so why do differently with a date?

October 6, 2016

What I Learned When I Hired A Dating Coach

She was worth every cent.

June 30, 2016

Why I Won’t Go On A Second Date With You If You Split The Bill

Call me picky, but I know what I like.

April 7, 2016

Dear Women, Please Stop Laughing At Sexist Remarks

What ever happened to girl power?

March 21, 2016

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

Looking to impress on your first date? With the outfit sorted, it’s time to focus on hair and makeup (which can take a few hours to prep until you’re ready to head out the door!). Try the following 5 makeup looks, which suit every single date option and are ideal for even beginners – you don’t need to be a makeup artist for this!

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Voluminous lashes

Up the ante by wearing some individual false lashes to create the illusion of volume on your lashes. Use an eyelash curler to prep your lashes, follow up with layers of mascara, then apply some individual false lashes on the corners of your eyes for extra volume. Don’t forget to tight-line your eyes to give a boost of colour to the eyes!

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

Highlighter

Give your skin a boost of dimension by highlighting the cheekbones, brow bone and cupids bow. Choose a shimmery highlighting duo and blend it over (or under) your foundation for more effect.

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

Smokey eye

Choose a classic smokey eye if you want to stick to something you know for a first date. It’s almost impossible to ruin this look (even for beginners) – it’s all about blending, blending, blending! Make sure to use a clean, fluffy brush for each shade so it doesn’t look muddy.

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

Winged liner

If you’re feeling rather confident, why not try a cat-eye flick? This stunning makeup look can be easily created using tape for a flawless flick. Simply apply one strip on the bottom waterline and another on the top, then fill in the gaps with a felt-tip liner.

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

Bold lips

Skip the contouring and highlighting in favour of a bold lip for a first date. Choose a matte lip stain if you want something which requires little to no maintenance and remember to use a lip liner to guide the colour.

5 First-Date Makeup Looks

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July 3, 2015

Laura Dundovic’s Best First Date Tips

With the recent success of the film Fifty Shades of Grey, more women than ever are trying to nab their dream date with the sultry Christian himself.

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To ensure things go as smoothly as possible, SHESAID chatted with Laura Dundovic to get her first date tips – including the dos and don’ts –  and advice on how to dress for dinner and drinks on any occasion!

What are some of your tips for the perfect date?

Don’t put too much thought into it. As girls, we think in between the time. We meet someone and on the first date we can sometimes start dreaming them into being ‘the one’ and can then get let down. I don’t think of a date as a potential relationship but more dinner with a friend. If there is chemistry, then great! One step at a time, girls!

Drinks or dinner… Which is better and why?

I always prefer dinner. Generally it’s a little easier to speak and get to know someone. Also, you know how long you are there for. Once the food is finished it’s time to leave the restaurant, but with drinks, when is the right time to leave and not look too keen, but not look too cold either? One drink? Two drinks?

Could you share some of your best do’s and don’ts for a first date?

Do be confident, don’t be arrogant.
Do be yourself.
Do make conversation but listen and ask questions, too.
If you like him be flirty, but don’t be needy!

What about an outfit… What is your favourite for dinner and drinks?

Dinner: I’ll usually go jeans and a nice top. That way you can wear hot heels and nice jewellery and not look over or under dressed wherever you go.

Drinks: I’d where a nice fitting but not too revealing dress. I usually take a cute leather or denim jacket with me so I’m not too over the top.

Laura Dundovic's Top First-Date Tips

Fifty Shades of Grey is released on Blu-ray, DVD, & Digital with UltraViolet on May 21st, 2015.

May 20, 2015

How To Host The Perfect First Date At Home

So the hard part is over – you’ve scored yourself a date. But instead of suggesting the two of you wine and dine at that great new restaurant down the street, you’ve invited you’re love interest over for dinner and now you have to entertain (oh the horror!). I mean, as if the first few dates aren’t already nerve racking enough.

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Before you decide to reschedule, or worse – cancel, Steph Peet from Eat now has provided us with a few of her fool proof tips on how to host the ultimate date night. So breathe a sigh of relief, ladies, you’ve got this!

Order In

Unless you’re quite the whiz in the kitchen or thoroughly enjoy cooking, take a load off and order in. The more relaxed you can be, the more you’ll enjoy yourself. Save the potential food disasters for the second or third date when you’ll be more inclined to laugh it off.

Don’t eat too early

Plan for your delivery to arrive after 8pm, says Steph. “This allows enough time for a glass of wine and a catch up prior to dining.” What’s more, if you and your date happen to run out of conversation early on in the evening, you can chat about the meal when it arrives. And in dire circumstances, at least having a mouthful of food minimises any awkward silences!

What to eat

Deciding on what to eat can require deep thought. Thankfully, Steph has recommended a few dishes that are perfect for date night.  Her first pick is risotto, because “it’s filling and easy to eat, even with the early dating jitters,” followed by a garden or Greek salad. “No one likes to over indulge when on a date, so it’s the perfect fresh side option.”

There’s something to be said for saving the best until last, so as far as dessert goes, Steph insists opting for a choolate mousse or tiramisu. “Nothing is more romantic than a touch of chocolate or coffee when on a date.”

What not to eat

Regardless of what people might say, first impressions really do count for something. Leaning in for a kiss at the end of the night with bad onion breath might not go down the way you’d imagined. Steph agrees: “Anything heavy on garlic or onion – steer clear! A big ‘no-no’ when getting close to someone new.”

She also insists that you skip on messy dishes such as spaghetti bolognese, taco’s and ribs. “[They] can be difficult to eat when sitting in your pjs on the couch, let alone when trying to impress someone. Make your choices wisely.”

Create a nice atmosphere

Lighting a few candles while you sip (or skull) your wine is a great way to set the mood and relax as you get to know your date a little better. Furthermore, if you’re meal arrives in plastic bags and containers, pull out the fine china – so to speak – and serve your take out in a few nice bowls and dishes, says Steph. “[It] will create a better dining experience, even if you’re just eating on the lounge.”

Get the bill

By ordering takeout you still have to endure that dreaded ‘who gets the cheque’ moment. Therefore, Steph recommends that the person hosting date night – so in this case, you – should take care of the bill. “The invitee should bring a bottle of wine,” she says. “It’s a nice gesture that everyone will appreciate.”

“If your date isn’t a big wine drinker, bring dessert.”

May 11, 2015

Why You Should Pay For The First Date

It always surprises me the number of women who still shudder at the idea of paying for a first date. Despite relative progression in gender equality, it would appear that picking up a check, particularly on a first date, remains linked to a man’s character: the more chivalrous you are, the greater your feelings for your partner, the more you are willing to fork out for a date. We don’t still believe this, do we?

A recent survey found that 77 per cent of people in heterosexual relationships, believe the man should pay for the first date. Perhaps surprisingly, this notion is more common among men than women.

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As we continue to labor for the dissolution of sexist and gender-biased practices – why does this one remain so firm? Not only does this antiquated habit persist, women and men are encouraged to perpetuate the ritual.

It comes down to a few basic rules: courtesy, fairness and financial responsibility. Despite an increase in the number of female breadwinners, men still believe it is their duty to pay for their date – and frankly, that’s not fair to either party. If you’re earning more than your partner, you shouldn’t expect to avoid the check just because you have a vagina. Men: don’t consider your wallet an extension of your manhood or a display of your dominance.

However, where the politics of check-paying gets tricky, is when one of your couple can’t afford to splurge on the finer things in life. The lesson: don’t go to a fancy restaurant if you can’t afford it. If your man insists, you’re welcome to go – as long as you make it clear that it’s not within your means. This rule applies to both men and women. If your finances are running low, get creative with your dating ritual and do something free or inexpensive. A date shouldn’t be about impressing your partner with flashy gestures – it should be about getting to know each other, deciding whether or not you like the person enough to pursue them.

A similar rule applies to ordering wine. If you’re sharing a bottle, always consult with your partner before ordering. A friend of mine – a student at the time – once went on a date, where her partner ordered a really expensive bottle of wine. To be fair, she offered to split the bill at the end of the night, only to find that the wine he ordered was way out of her price range. It’s not always easy to speak up on a first date, but it should be considered courteous, that if your choose the bottle to share – without consensus of the people you’re dining with – you should be the one to pay for it. If you’re splitting the bill, pay for the wine separately.

Do you have any rules for paying on a date? Who picks up the check on your dates?

April 21, 2015

Study Reveals Two Thirds Of Us Tell First Date Fibs

Okay, ladies, if you’ve ever lied about your age, income or residency on a first date, you’ve been caught out! A new study has revealed that a whopping 61 per cent of both men and women lie about themselves on first dates, and to our surprise, the fibs differed greatly between genders.

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Activity website Chillisauce found that the fellas were most likely to talk up their income, adding a sizeable 20 per cent on top of what they actually make, while the ladies were all too happy to bump nearly four years off their age. Oh, the deceit!

Apparently working as a secretary, receptionist or labourer doesn’t cut it nowadays, either, with both sexes admitting to lying most about their occupation. Men confessed to telling their dates they were an entrepreneur, pilot or invest banker, while the ladies were most likely to insist they were a teacher, interior designer, or wait for it… a model. Obviously some people don’t realise Instagram isn’t an agency.

It’s not all doom and gloom, however. The study, which surveyed 8000 Brits, highlighted that unlike us, males were rather truthful about their age and where they grew up. And the females? We’re apparently more comfortable opening up about our wealth and previous relationships. Go figure!

Now, before you call bullshit on your latest Tinder or RSVP date, in the survey it was noted that 44 per cent said they’d come clean by the third date – a good indication that they plan on sticking around. On the contrary, however, 25 per cent of participants said they would only confess if they were caught out. Time to ask your pilot lover to see his plane? Absolutely, girlfriend.

As for the ultimate first date turn-off, most women agreed that overconfidence was a potential deal breaker. In saying that, though, we were also the most forgiving when it came to a date who talked about themselves too much. It must be all those free flights they’ve promised!

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April 9, 2015

Can Dining Etiquette Make or Break a Date?

They say it takes three seconds to make a first impression, but can dining etiquette make or break a date? With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, we asked Levi Aron from Yumtable to share a few tips on how to approach your first dinner date in order to secure a second.

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Don’t be late

Turning up fashionably late is disrespectful and embarrassing. To avoid this, Levi advises giving yourself a 15-30 minute buffer depending on how long the commute is. Don’t forget to factor in parking if you opt to drive!

Do offer to pay

Okay, this one is more for the lads than the ladies. But nonetheless, offering to pay is a kind gesture that will ensure your date doesn’t feel like they’re being taken for granted. If you make them feel appreciated, you’re more likely to see date number two.

Don’t just walk into a nice restaurant

Save time and hassle by booking ahead. “It shows thoughtfulness to plan the date ahead of time,” insists Levi. Restaurant booking apps such as yumtable.com.au are quick and easy to use and discounts are generally applied – extra brownie points!

Do have a plan for after dinner

This doesn’t mean going back to your date’s apartment for post-dinner ‘coffee.’ Instead, scout out another restaurant nearby for dessert, insists Levi. Maybe you want to try that new Gelato place that’s opened up down the street, or head to that dessert bar that you’ve been dying to check out since forever – either way, a “nice romantic walk” will mix things up a bit.

Don’t use your hands

This rule is a given when it comes to eating – unless you’ve ordered crab or lobster, in which case it’s inevitable. But if you want to make a good first impression remember your table manners. You might also want to avoid messy dishes all together – there’s nothing more unappealing than someone slurping down soup and spilling it all over their new threads.

Do take your time

If you’re the type of person who tends to get nervous, you may be inclined to wolf down your food. Be mindful and try not to get too ahead of yourself. Try putting down your knife and fork between meals or sipping on water. Alternatively, “take some extra time to talk to your date,” says Levi. “It’s not a race to see who can finish eating first.”

Don’t touch your phone during dinner

Unless you need to slip to the bathroom to organise an ‘emergency’ call from one of your girlfriends, leave your phone in your bag or pocket. Also, refrain from leaving it on the table, urges Levi. Not only is it a distraction, but it takes away your attention from your date.

Tips courtesy of Yumtable

Image via Google Images

February 14, 2015

5 Things Women Expect On A Blind Date

A first date can prove to be a little nerve-wracking, especially if you were set-up by mutual friends and in actual fact, you’ve never actually met before! It’s important to be yourself, and exude confidence, even if you feel like the butterflies in your stomach won’t stop.

As you’re walking into meet your date for the first time, is there anything you expect from them? Read our top five things that all women (whether they choose to admit it, or not), expect from their blind date.

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Banter

We are women, hear us roar? We all just want a little banter instead! Sometimes this can be platonic, sexual, or even non-existent. Banter and good conversation is so important, since it acts as the foundation for future chemistry. So steer clear from all the conventional questions (How old are you? What do you do for work?) This isn’t a job interview! If you already have some mutual friends in common, don’t be afraid to bring them up in conversation.

Drinks.. and dinner?

It is a fact that most women choose a quick drink as their first date. Why? Not only is it an easy getaway, but have you ever tried having a conversation will a full mouth – not likely. If the suggestion of dinner does come up, don’t be a party-pooper and shake your head at every suggestion on the menu. Choose a light appetiser which will allow you to enjoy some yummy food, but still be able to carry on the conversation.

No, I’ll pay

We don’t know about you, but sometimes a date can become a little territorial when it comes to paying the cheque. While this is nice, don’t just sit there with your arms crossed – this just looks like you’re entitled. Be proactive and suggest that you will pay for the next date. Pretty smooth, right?!

Keeping up appearances

Social media has taken the fun out of blind dates, since you will mostly likely be looking up their Facebook or Instagram profile before actually agreeing to a date in the first place. But sometimes, social media, filters, cropping, and angles can be deceiving. Don’t be upset if your date looks nothing like his photos, it could just be an old pic!

No-phone zone

As a general rule, your phone should not be at the table. Constantly texting, receiving calls, and checking your Facebook feed (seriously, can’t you do this afterwards), is pretty disrespectful when on any sort of date. Keep your phone on vibrate and in your pocket, or handbag until the end of the date. If you’re desperate to take a picture of the food/drinks, avoid posting it on Instagram until you’re home (or at least said goodbye).

Have you ever been on a blind date before? What are some of your expectations? Tell us your story in the comments below.

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November 28, 2014

Top 5 Free Date Ideas

Take it from a student – dating is expensive! Paying for two people to eat out quickly puts a strain on your savings, and don’t get me started on cinema prices. But too often I find myself so focused on new and creative things to do with my significant other, that I forget the incredible free, and equally impressive, activities available in my city. To save some cash and have some fun, try these awesome free date ideas:

1. Homemade meal

Cook together or go for a picnic. Of course, it’s not entirely free considering you’ll have to provide your own ingredients – but if you’re lucky, you will already have some of those at the ready. It is also guaranteed to be less expensive than eating out. You can even add a few aphrodisiacs to start the fun for the rest of the evening.

2. Get outdoors

Go for a hike, go to the beach – just be outside. Explore your neighbourhood, or just lay in your backyard and look at the clouds or stars. Wherever you are, there’s likely to be some fun outdoor activities awaiting you. Get creative – the world is your oyster.

3. Check your local guide

Many cities and smaller towns have community events that are free. Whether that is a free day at the museum, or a gig at your local bar – you will be shocked at the number of things you will find!

4. Play a board game

Caution: competitive couples need not apply! If you don’t have any board games, check with your local cafes, community centers, bars, or libraries, which occasionally stock some. Failing that, you don’t even need a board – get to know each other with some “never have I ever…” or play a few rounds of charades. Extra points if you make up your own game.

5. Stay indoors

Enjoy a romantic day indoors. Watch movies, just hang out, take a bath together, or indulge in a bit of cheeky afternoon delight. There should be a number of exciting things to do in your own home if you have the imagination.

September 1, 2014

3 Places To Take Your Ideal Date In Sydney

Finally you’ve snagged a first date with ‘the one’ but can’t seem to find the perfect place to go out and get to know each other. Make sure you pick a location which you will both enjoy, but also something fun and unique that will make a lasting impression. We have narrowed our picks to just three Sydney based locations which offer a fun vibe and mixed with good company will surely be a match made in heaven.

1. Eau de Vie, Darlinghurst

This intimate little bar is almost hidden away on Darlinghurst Road but if you find it, there’s a reason why it’s been voted bar of the year multiple years in a row. With light jazz music setting the ambience and expert bartenders on hand to create award winning cocktails, the date will prove to be anything but boring. Order the Noble Experiment which is an ice cold martini made using liquid nitrogen.

2. Franco Franco, Surry Hills

If you’re craving some authentic Italian cuisine, head to Franco Franco for their wood-fired pizza, pasta and so much more. Located on bustling Crown Street, the restaurant offers authentic recipes from southern Italy, with techniques and ingredients which have been used for centuries. There is a large menu to choose from including breakfast, lunch, wines and specialised set menu’s as well.

3. Ms.G’s, Potts Point

Ms.G’s is a mixture of traditional Asian cuisine with a pinch ofmodern taste which everyone can enjoy. Executive chef Dan Hong and Head chef Paul Donnelly create specialised dishes using traditional Asian ingredients and adapt this to a contemporary taste palate. The restaurant is intricately detailed as you would expect all Merivale restaurants to be, and is very modern and functional. If you just want to pop in for a drink, head to the bar upstairs where there is always a variety of beer, wine and sake on offer. Open for both lunch and dinner.

These are just a few suggestions which combine tasty food and drinks in busy metropolitan areas, where there is always something close-by if you wanted to pop into a bar afterwards. Be sure to do your research and find a place (and cuisine) which you will both enjoy, (and won’t be struggling to hear each other over the music!).

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By Felicia Sapountzis

June 23, 2014