And, no, we’re not talking about hanging out the washing.
It’s time to get frisky.
You decide it’s time to spice up your love life, but there isn’t a sex toy in sight. Maybe you’re staying the night at bae’s and your whole naughty kit and caboodle is stashed under your bed at home, or maybe you’re strapped for cash and can’t rationalize blowing $200 on a vibrator.
Thankfully, as it turns out, there are a plethora of everyday household items that can be used as sex toys.
It’s important to be inventive in the bedroom to keep things interesting, but you don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars to get off in fun new ways. In fact, the possibilities are pretty much endless when you get creative with what you already have in your home.
Just be cautious, as risks always exist with any improvized sex toy. You don’t want your night of passion ending up in the emergency room. So always be clean, cautious, and go easy.
Whether you’re playing alone or have someone to join in on the fun, here are eight household objects that’ll help you get to Pleasure Town even faster…
The most phallic of vegetables, everyone seems to have one in their crisper. And the girth and length of the cucumber makes for a perfect DIY dildo. Add the coldness of being in the fridge, and you have an extra stimulating toy at the ready. Just ensure it’s washed and used with a condom, and definitely don’t serve it to your dinner guests afterwards.
2. Kitchen spatula
A multi-use kitchen utensil most of us use to whip up post-coitus pancakes with, now your humble spatula can help put you in the mood, too. Spatulas are smooth in texture and non-sharp, so perfect for stroking the body with and then delivering a nice swift spank. To find your spanking threshold, simply start soft and work your way up in intensity.
You could spend your pay packet on the latest G-Spot stimulator, or you could head to your fruit bowl and improvize instead. Bananas are curved perfectly to hit your G-Spot with little effort required – just make sure you put a condom on first and use one that’s fairly firm. Alternatively, a banana skin makes the perfect sheath for guys to slide their penis in and out of for ultimate stimulation during foreplay.
4. Hair brush
Why not get ready in the morning then take your beauty tools back to bed with you? A hair brush can tickle and tease all of the erogenous zones of the body quite like nothing else can. Go soft or hard bristle, or even mix it up by swapping between the two; then work in circular motions over the body to get the blood pumping in all the right places.
5. Shower head
Warm rushing water on your clitoris is a guaranteed way to get off quickly and cost-free when you’re home alone. Alternatively, using your shower time as a pre-sex warm-up to get you in the mood is a great way to get clean and dirty with your SO at the same time…
6. Washing machine
For the times when you’re feeling a little lazy, let your washing machine do the hard work for you. Sitting on the washing machine while having sex will vibrate your entire body, giving you a head-to-toe earth-shattering orgasm. You’re welcome.
Chill metal spoons in the freezer then massage them over your partner’s erogenous zones (read: lips, nipples, thighs) for a sexy foreplay sesh that’s oh-so cool.
Whoever thought the clothespins you use to hang out your clothes would make a fun little BDSM toy? Excellent for heightening sensation play during sex, or by yourself, clothespins applied gently to nipples can delicately squeeze and entice. Just be careful taking them off so as not to do damage.
Images via giphy.com and tumblr.com.
Comment: What household items have you discovered also double as DIY sex toys?
Welcome to P-spot 101, ladies. P is for pleasure, plus P-spot or prostate gland! Did you have fun hunting for your G-spot last week?
The fun continues, only this week it’s your man’s turn; let’s locate his all-important erogenous zone – the P-spot – with the help of Sydney sexologist, Dr Michelle Mars (pictured). Dr Mars – who specialises in the sociology of sex gender and sexual well-being – says finding the P-spot is not dissimilar to hunting for your G-spot.
The male prostate gland, which is a hotbed of nerve endings guaranteed to drive him wild, is said to be located about three-quarters of a finger-length inside his anus. “It’s not so different to finding the G-spot on a woman in some ways. In and up towards the belly!” Dr Mars says. “It’s a bit further in than the G-spot – around the second knuckle for me – but I have long fingers.
“You’re looking for something quite firm, about the consistency of a medium steak.” Hmm, speaking of meat – how do we women incorporate P-spot pleasuring into our sex play? “Women can insert fingers or sex toys into the anus,” Dr Mars says. “However, there is another way: in Norwegian and Afrikaans Tjommie (“chômmy”) means ‘best friend’. It’s also slang for the perineum.
“I think that’s kind of interesting because becoming intimate with the perineum is one way to extend and enhance sexual pleasure. It’s a non-confrontational way to have fun with the P-spot.
“There’s a little indentation you can learn to play with and if you do it right you can multiply, extend, delay and generally play with a man’s sexual pleasures.
“Be aware that it is possible to press too hard!”
If you want to experiment with couples’ sex toys, Dr Mars says there’s a huge number out there specifically designed to pleasure his ultra sensitive P-spot. But, as always, the clever and astute sexologist wants us to feel our way first, in order to better our sexual knowledge and prowess. “There are heaps of sex toys available for the P-spot,” Dr Mars says.
“Personally, I think it’s important to go and have a look and invest some time and money and get it right. There are a lot of novelty toys out there that don’t quite do the job.
“For first timers, I suggest something small and silicon. Go to a good girl-friendly store like Max Black in Sydney or D’Vice in Melbourne or New Zealand and talk to the girls in store.
“You can also ask someone who knows about P-spots to take you to a sex shop.”
Interestingly, Dr Mars says we can’t examine men’s P-spot without also looking at what impact their sexual identity has on this anal pleasuring. “The prostate is easily accessible through the rectum, so straight away people think of gay men. But gay men don’t have anal sex because they are gay,” Dr Mars says. “So, anal sex is gay! Even though we know this is logically untrue.
“There isn’t a switch in gay men’s bottoms; they have anal sex because it feels good. Unfortunately, this has limited many ‘straight’ men’s sexual pleasure.” Dr Mars’ own research for a dating site AdultMatchMaker.com.au saw some 7631 answer a sex survey. Up to 25 per cent of respondents said they were bisexual and another five per cent said they weren’t sure of their current sexual orientation. “That’s a long way from the one and two per cent recent census estimates for gay and bisexual people,” she says.
“I think Robbie Williams is right, as per his lyric: ‘Everybody Swings Both Ways’ [from Swings Both Ways] or at least the sex-interested segment of the population is highly likely to.” So, rather than looking at anal sex as something only enjoyed by gay men, Dr Mars says we must also remind ourselves that women enjoy it too. “Let’s take a look at the gay myth,” she says.
“All gay men don’t like anal sex. Some women like anal sex and anal sex can be a fetish or a fantasy that makes people feel turned on, but they never actually want to do it. So, the gay taboo is based on a myth.”
Dr Mars says another reason P-spot play is frowned upon or taboo is because of the potential for mess. But she has the solution. “It’s nothing enemas and latex gloves can’t fix! And when you go exploring, don’t forget the lube!”
Images via health24.com, dreamstime.com and flickriver.com
Does the G-Spot actually exist? And, if so, where the hell is it?
Never fear, dear readers, SHE SAID has got the fast facts on this one. This common sex myth irks Sydney sexologist, Dr Michelle Mars no end. For Dr Mars – who specialises in the sociology of sex gender and sexual well-being – says that despite many scientific claims to the contrary, the G-spot does in fact exist! “Best scientific evidence is that it does exist!” Dr Mars says.
“Science backs up my own experiences on this one. In an article published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2012, a group of experts concluded that ‘the assumption that women may experience only the clitoral, external orgasm is not based on the best available scientific evidence’.
“I think it’s a myth that it doesn’t exist because a lot of knowledge about female pleasure has been lost over the centuries and the idea that clitoral stimulation is required for orgasm has become pervasive.
“Women who gushed a lot were embarrassed and sometimes not sure they had urinated.
“Plus, not everyone knows how to do it so it might be something that only happens occasionally. We think sex is something you just do not something you can learn about!”
The G-spot, also called the Gräfenberg spot (after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg), is said to be an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation. So, where the bloody hell is it, exactly? “It’s a cluster of nerve endings near the entrance of the vagina,” Dr Mars says.“Some women are more aware of sensation than others.
“The G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina toward the front of a woman’s body.”
Dr Mars’ best sexpert advice in finding the G-spot is to tread carefully. So, do couples need to use a torch? “No!” she laughs. “If you’re exploring the G-spot, take the time to make it sexy, go slow, go in shallow, get the angle right, in and up. Keep the pressure firm.
“Be aware that it can take time; getting better at any kind of sex doesn’t happen overnight.
“It’s very obvious for some people, but for some women it’s just a dribble and they may not be aware of extra moisture until they stand up and move around.”
So, can you survive sex – indeed life – without experiencing G-spot vaginal ejaculation? “It’s another kind of pleasure, partners feel pleasure when they make their partners feel good,” Dr Mars says. “Learning to have fun with the G-spot is important because it opens up new avenues of pleasure and stimulates new neural pathways for pleasure.”
And ladies (and men) if you still need help finding the elusive G-spot, Dr Mars says there are a plethora of sex toys specifically designed to stimulate it. But she still really, really wants you to do your homework and find the damn thing. “Like great kitchen appliances, sex toys don’t make up for knowing what you’re doing,” she says. “For those who prefer vibrators, this is a good couple toy to play with: The Thrill Clit, G-spot and Anal Vibrator from We-Vibe.”
Interestingly, Dr Mars says that while only women have G-spots, men have what’s called a “P-spot”. Stay tuned for more on that soon, ladies.
What do you think? Have you found the G-spot?
Images, in order, via femamom.com; www.bodysculptor.com and abcnews.go.com.
Get him to tickle your Ahh! zone.
Known as the anterior fornix zone, it’s a soft, squashy bump located on the front wall of the vagina between the G-spot and the cervix. This hot spot, kind of like a second G-spot, has awesome bliss potential-studies show that stroking here helps women to become easily lubricated and experience single or multiple orgasms during sex.
Hear this: Ears are an underrated erogenous zone.
The lobe and the small area behind the shell have a hot line to the nerves. Stimulation from a darting tongue or a light, probing finger can be a powerful aphrodisiac especially when combined with heavy breathing into the ear. Some men find it so exciting they actually climax from it.