Gay

How Gay Conversion Camps Are Torturing Kids

We should be ashamed that they exist at all in 2017.

May 23, 2017

My Husband And I Agreed To Me Dating Other Women. Now What?

I’m nervous as hell about what to expect…

May 8, 2017

Dating A Man Doesn’t Negate My Queerness

There’s no test to pass when it comes to your sexuality.

August 18, 2016

9 People Reveal The One Thing That Turns Them The Hell On

It’s about to get freaky up in here.

July 6, 2016

13 Guys Explain Why They Send Dick Pics

The ultimate #sleazefactor.

July 5, 2016

Why #HeterosexualPrideDay Is Ridiculous

You don’t get to be the victim, honey.

July 1, 2016

Worst Shooting In US History: 50 Dead After Orlando Nightclub Massacre

Authorities are calling the shooting the nation’s worst terror attack since 9/11.

June 12, 2016

Everything You’ve Ever Wanted To Know About Pegging

And, no, we’re not talking about hanging out the washing.

May 31, 2016

The Day I Outed My Gay Mother

Empowering doesn’t even begin to describe it.

May 9, 2016

Dax Shepard Reveals He Was Sexually Abused As A Child

“I was like … ‘It’s my fault’.”

April 19, 2016

7 Things You Didn’t Know About Sex Parties

They’re almost irresistible.

April 19, 2016

7 Things I Wish People Understood About Being Queer

We don’t fit neatly into your little box.

April 18, 2016

Having Sex With Women Doesn’t Make Me Gay

It’s offensively wrong to paint an entire community with one brush.

April 13, 2016

Meet The Straight Guys Who Have Sex With Other Men

It all gets a bit complicated, but does it really need to be?

March 30, 2016

I Was Born Without A Sex Drive And I’m Okay With It

I’m not particularly interested in looking for a romantic relationship.

March 14, 2016

Marriage Equality: The Time Is Now, Australia

It’s time for Australia to follow the US’s lead and legalise same-sex marriage; anything less is a grave miscarriage of justice. On June 26, the US became the 21st and most populous country to legalise same-sex marriage. So, what’s holding us back?

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Now, marriage isn’t for everyone, but there are no good, moral, rational or societal reasons to deny gay people the choice to wed, thereby affording them the same rights as heterosexuals. It’s incredibly arrogant and inequitable to say one person is allowed to marry, while another of a differing sexual orientation is not – love is gender-blind.

And any anti same-sex marriage arguments I’ve ever seen are stupid, illogical and border on the obscene. I say pay no heed to right-wing nutters, erm, sorry people, who argue introducing marriage equality in Australia will “damage the sanctity” of marriage. These very people are doing the institution of marriage, and the country, a damn sight more devastation and harm by their backward, regressive and discriminatory views all by themselves.

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I put the likes of outspoken opponents to same-sex marriage such as Rev. Fred Nile, the Leader of the Christian Democratic Party and our own Prime Minister Tony Abbott in the same boat: fools whose idiotic, backward views will ultimately prove their own undoing – history will not look kindly back on those dinosaurs against the turning of the tide. Australians are clearly, overwhelmingly in favour of legalising same-sex marriage.

And, just this week, the government’s bumbling Agriculture Minister Barnaby Joyce warned that Asia could see Australia as “decadent” if same-sex marriage is legalised. Decadent?! How is denying a section of our community basic equal rights “decadent”? That ridiculous, illogical statement hurts my head: surely Asia, like other progressive countries would applaud us for finally endorsing marriage equality?

Melbourne media educator Jonathan Brown, 27 (pictured) – who, along with his partner and fiancée Kevin Newman, 28, recently went public about his desire to get legally wed in Australia, says diversity is normal – discrimination is not. For the couple, Australia introducing same-sex marriage would be long overdue recognition that gay people were “equal under the law.”

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“Certain religions and groups in the community can define marriage and relationships in their own way, but it’s not their right to define it for all of us under the law. The law is there to represent all Australians and as it currently stands the law sends a dangerous message that we [gay people] are lesser people somehow because of our sexuality. Not everyone wants to get married, but we should have the choice. No fair society should deny choices on the basis of sexuality,” Jonathan says.

“The US decision is important because it recognises that denying the choice of marriage to people based on their sexual orientation is state-sanctioned discrimination. Australia should follow suit because ultimately Australians believe in fairness and this is one of our big tests of whether we are truly a fair nation.

“Kevin and I were going to arrange our own ceremony here in Australia regardless of the law and call ourselves married anyway, but the chance marriage equality could be possible this year made us hold our plans in the hope we can do the real thing soon. We want our family and friends to join us on Australian soil and recognise us under Australian law. We want to celebrate our love like the thousands of other Australians who do so every year.”

Jonathan firmly believes most Australians are pro-gay marriage. “The sad reality is that a very effective campaign of obstructionism has held back political progress,” he says. “It’s not only embarrassing, but frankly anti-democratic that our elected representatives have resisted the Australian people on this.

“Since speaking out about our plans to get married, Kevin and I have had a really beautiful response from our family, friends and the public. I think when it finally happens in Australia, it will be a really special moment for us and we can’t wait to celebrate our love and the love of our gay friends wanting to get married too.

“It’s frustrating that I can’t marry the man I love in Australia right now, but for me it’s the bigger picture that matters the most. This is a big step in telling kids who grow up questioning their sexuality or gender that they are beautiful, natural and normal human beings who deserve to be loved like anyone else. It’s about sending a message to those kids – that’s what drives me. Marriage equality is just one step in creating a world where kids can grow up and their sexuality is just an accepted part of their development and who they are.

“Opponents try to make it sound like it’s a simple matter of opinion and we shouldn’t judge them for that, while they continue to judge us because of our sexuality. I think their words are damaging and dangerous to the health and well-being of our community.”

And Brisbane marketing executive Rachel Vickary, 40, concurs. Rachel (pictured), who has a 18-year-old son she co-parents with her long-term partner whom she affectionately calls “the wife”, says it’s high time Australia did what is fair and right: legalise same-sex marriage.

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“As a voter, a tax payer, a significant social contributor, a mum, a businesswoman and a lesbian, I find it outrageous that in Australia in 2015 that, despite paying the same amount of tax and abiding by the same laws as every other Australian, I am afforded less rights than a heterosexual Australian citizen,” Rachel says. “It’s incredibly disappointing, not to mention embarrassing at an international/global level, to be one of the most ‘backward-thinking’ nations on this issue.

“There are so many stupid and ignorant arguments being parroted by ill-informed, uneducated people who are afraid of the idea of same-sex marriage; many come back to religion and the idea that it’s ‘against the bible’. Well, I hate to say it, but ‘traditional’ marriage according to the Bible also advocated children being sold into marriage, spousal rape and abuse (considered more than just OK, but actually quite obligatory at certain times during history), polygamy, incest and other lovely ‘traditions’.

“In the 1920s, the idea that people might actually marry for love, raised many a religious, right-wing hackle, as love was not considered to be a sound reason for entering into a ‘traditional marriage’, and many predicted a future of doom and destruction for the institution.

“Another argument is that to allow same-sex marriage is to destroy the sanctity of marriage. Um… Why? A same-sex couple tying the knot doesn’t make an opposite-sex couple’s marriage any less valid. And if we’re going to roast that old chestnut – the sanctity of marriage – then let’s take a serious look at shows like Married at First Sight or Bridezillas, which make an utter mockery of the entire thing. How rage-inducing do you imagine it is for my same-sex partner and I when we can’t get officially married or even recognised, and yet complete strangers can ‘marry’ each other in a cheap, tawdry ratings grab on commercial television?”

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Rachel is also quick to point out some heterosexuals – and many an A-list celebrity – do a perfectly good job of devaluing marriage all by themselves. “Did Britney Spears do anything positive for the sanctity and solemnity of the married state when she got wasted and then married in Vegas (before annulling it within hours, presumably after she’s either sobered up or come down)? And what about Liz Taylor getting married a million times between rehab stints?” she says.

“There’s also a hilarious argument that children are better off in a ‘traditional’ family unit than in a same-sex family unit. To this I say, bollocks! My 18-year-old son who is currently at university has grown up to be a kind, well-rounded, beautiful human being, who is proud to have two mums.”

What do you think? Is Australia’s endorsement of same-sex marriage long overdue?

Images via salon.com, radioadelaidebreakfast.wordpress.com, thewgnews.com

July 9, 2015

Massive Entertainment Rap up!

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Will and Grace
Will Truman (Eric McCormack) and Grace Adler (Debra Messing) are the perfect couple. They live together in relative peace, they?re best mates and they both have great taste in men. Will happens to be gay, which is what makes theirs the perfect friendship. Add their friends, the self involved and outrageously camp Jack (Sean Hayes), and Grace?s assistant Karen (Megan Mullally), a wealthy socialite who works to keep herself supposedly down to earth, and you have the ingredients for hilarious comedy. Video Ezy have released the very first season of this classic series on DVD and, believe us, you?ll be entertained for hours. See the first meeting between Jack and Karen and their immediate respect and understanding of each other, witness the hilarious scenes of Jack and Grace as they bond while watching ?Champions on Ice? (much to Will and Karen?s distaste) and catch the first performance of ?Just Jack?. The DVD contains four discs, and includes special features such as cast, director and creator interviews and 11 themed featurettes.

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The Pink Panther Film Collection
MGM have released a Special Edition DVD box set of the classic Pink Panther films. It?s been 40 years since the original release of this cool cat, and you can now relive all the highlights. There is the Pink Panther film collection, including The Pink Panther, A Shot in the Dark, The Pink Panther Strikes Again, Revenge of the Pink Panther and Trail of the Pink Panther. As a bonus, there is also a special features disk which includes a new documentary ?The Pink Panther Story?, a trivia track and six of the original theatrical animated short films. Whether you remember the original films, or you want to know what all the hype was about, check out this collection.

May 18, 2004