Men Who Help Out With Housework Get More Sex

Few things are sexier than a man who regularly helps out with the housework, or the child-raising, without even being asked. Forget a dozen roses, chocolates, oysters, truffles or wine (although these have their place) – the most libido-enhancing aphrodisiac is, for many women, a man who happily shares the domestic load.

I fondly remember female lecturers’ ferocious rantings about the “gender segregation of housework” in gender studies at university and with good cause: a new study suggests that men and women could be doing an equal share of the housework by 2050. That’s a hell of a wait ladies!?

And, coupled with the fact that women are still earning markedly less than men – the gender pay gap is 17.5 per cent – that is a bitter pill to swallow.

Interestingly, new research by Cornell University in the US backs my theory: men who help more with the housework get laid more often. However, this greater sexual satisfaction did not extend to men who just stuck to doing stereotypical “manly” chores, such as mowing the lawn.

In addition, the study showed only three in ten couples did equal amounts of housework and in 63 per cent of couples, women did approximately two-thirds of the housework. Gah! So, blokes, how about picking up a mop, putting on a load of washing or emptying the dishwasher without being asked? Would it kill you?Why do so many blokes seem to think housework is “women’s work”?

On the weekend just gone, I watched my husband – who, for the record is usually a fantastic help around the house – have an absolute shocker in terms of the dreaded Husband Housework Blind Spot. I was busy writing inside, while he helpfully played with our two toddlers in the garden, walking with them in laps around the house, in order for them to burn off steam, so I could work in peace and quiet.

However, he walked past rows and rows of dry laundry on the line, as though it was invisible to him. Why are so many men seemingly untroubled by such a sight? If our roles were reversed, with him working inside, I’d have multi-tasked my arse off, with a toddler on each hip and a washing basket full of neatly folded laundry off the line.

And it got me thinking too – is this a good thing? Are we women are own worst enemies because we try to do so much at once? Should we instead make like a man and stick to one important task at a time?

What are your thoughts? Is your partner a household sloth or saviour? Should men and women share equal division of labour in the home?
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The High Cost Of Being A Woman

Being a woman is an expensive exercise; and our bloke folk are often blissfully unaware as to just how good they have it. Aside from the very frustrating and unjust fact that women still earn markedly less than men – the gender pay gap is 17.5 per cent – our living costs are excessive compared to men’s. For a start, generally men don’t have to worry about regular, expensive costs such as all-over body waxing, hair care and make-up. Then there’s the exorbitant costs of feminine hygiene products, Botox (if that’s your bag, baby) and regular beauty treatments, just to name a few. Sure, men still have to get haircuts, but I reckon my no-fuss husband is more the norm than the exception with his penchant for $10 barber jobs. And, hilariously, he is still extremely shocked and appalled every, single time at the high cost, by contrast, of my $160 cut and colour I get every eight weeks or so.

Then there’s the fact recent studies have shown women are charged more for everything from dry cleaning through to insurance premiums! And, let’s face it, it’s a rare man indeed who has a shoe or clothing wardrobe to rival ours! There are blurred lines between need and want, but if you’re fashion-forward, girlfriend ain’t going to be happy with just owning five pairs of shoes, like your average bloke. But the gender pay gap is still the grimmest statistic of all – a slap in the face for us university-educated women.

Mark McCrindle, social researcher, trends analyst and demographer at Sydney’s McCrindle Research, says Gen Y women are better educated than their male counterparts, but still don’t earn as much. “Women still aren’t getting paid as much as men and the challenge and the anomaly there is generally with education flows income,” Mr McCrindle says.“Gen Ys are the most formally educated women – 40 per cent of women aged 25-35 have uni degrees compared to 29 per cent of males in the same age category. In fact, one in three Gen Ys have a university degree compared with one in four GenX-ers. With more Gen Y women having university degrees than their male counterparts you’d expect them to be earning more, but we’re still not seeing that.”

So, sisters, if all this money talk leaves you feeling a little bitter and twisted, better make him pay for groceries/dinner/movies tonight, this month, or perhaps for the whole year.

By Nicole Carrington-Sima