Because svelte vaj-jay-jays are in. Apparently.
Are you under pressure from a loved one to get a porn star vagina? Do you loathe your labia and consider it to be akin to a “badly-packed kebab”? This story is for you ladies – think twice before you undergo vaginal surgery, says a leading sexpert.
The cosmetic surgery industry does a roaring trade in vaginal surgery, such as labiaplasty, but what they won’t tell you is that it’s dangerously likely to impair your sexual pleasure. So says Sydney sexologist, Dr Michelle Mars (pictured), who specialises in the sociology of sex gender and sexual well-being.
And while Dr Mars is an advocate of new, cutting-edge and non-invasive laser technology called “vaginal rejuvenation” or the “Mona Lisa Touch” treatment, which can restore vaginal tissue and even cure vaginal atrophy, she ain’t no fan of vaginal surgery, which is purely cosmetic.
For me, the concept of undergoing surgery on your perfectly lovely, normal and healthy lady bits due to societal or relationship pressure to get a porn star vagina is both ridiculous and abhorrent. Are women’s bodies so heavily scrutinised, critiqued and ridiculed that even our vaginas all have to look the same?
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, as do vaginas – there is no one perfect vag. And yet so many women, convinced their labias are too unsightly, big or just not Anglo porn-star enough, flock to get vaginal surgery.
Even this description of labiaplasty surgery makes me feel a bit sick in the guts: “Labiaplasty surgery is designed to reduce the size, and change the shape of the inner lips, the labia minora.” Who the hell is critiquing their own, or someone else’s inner lips? I’d wager if a man (or woman) doesn’t like the shape of your vag, it’s time to show them the door!
Dr Mars believes the porn industry is to blame for people’s screwed and unrealistic views on what constitutes the “perfect” looking vagina.
“Whether we like it or not, the vaginas we see most often are porn star vaginas: smooth, symmetrical, petite and tidy,” Dr Mars says. “There is about as much reality in porn as there is in your average action movie. Our ideas of what a vagina looks like are constructed through images of vaginas that in many cases have been surgically altered.
“This ideal perpetuates surgery demand and many people report that they feel better about their vaginas as a result. However, what you see in the chat rooms, but not in the advertising from the surgeons, is that vaginal surgery, like any surgery, often creates nerve damage. Your vagina may look ‘better’, but your sexual function may be inhibited.”
So, how can women gain a more realistic view of their vaginas and learn to love their own unique, natural beauty? Dr Mars says it’s about separating fact from fiction. Here, she dispels two popular vaginal myths.
Myth 1: All vaginas should be perfectly symmetrical and there’s something wrong with mine if it’s not.
Fact: Vaginas vary greatly in appearance, colour, shape and size, just as women’s bodies do; there is no one “perfect” vagina. All vaginas are created equal. What’s more, it’s perfectly normal to have one labia grow longer than the other.
Myth 2: If my vagina doesn’t perfectly resemble that of a blonde porn star, there’s something wrong with me and I clearly need surgery.
Fact: There is nothing wrong with you. Do your research – ask sexperts about vaginas and look at pictures of different ethnicities’ pink bits before you rush off to get surgery and do yourself some nerve damage.
Dr Mars says above all, be kind to yourself and your vagina – learn to love and appreciate what you’ve got. Women’s bodies are amazing and powerful – we can birth humans, after all.
“In 2007, in preparation for a paper I was doing at the World Sexological Conference on designer vaginas, I tried to find some everyday vaginas,” she says. “I ended up with four photos from a medical text book that I then had to take to a graphic designer so she could reverse them and change the colour and background to give the appearance of a bit of variety.
“At the conference a women talked to me about her experience of one labia growing longer than the other at puberty and how after much begging, her mother had agreed to surgery. She wished she had known it was normal.
“I have had clients come to see me about this too. One gorgeous, young woman came to see me about her errant labia. When I said: ‘Oh you mean the badly packed-kebab – lots of labia are like that – she burst out laughing and left a much happier woman.”
Ladies – please love your vaginas. That is all.
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If you’ve ever watched the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, you’ll already know what I’m talking about when I say the words “vaginal rejuvenation.” But, if you’re not prone to binge watching seasons of trashy, reality television (good on you!), you might be curious to learn and surprised to find out just how much it is happening in the world today.
Famously or infamously, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star and former model Brandi Glanville has spoken openly about undergoing vaginal rejuvenation surgery, making her “kitty 17 again.” How about that for a movie plot?
More women, not just in Hollywood, are starting to jump on the trend and are opting to get the surgery which is fondly known as a facelift for your lady parts. Considering facelifts are quite painful, it’s hard to imagine getting surgery on your vag – but being self-conscious after ageing, having babies, wanting a tight hoo-hoo, wanting a better sex life and a combination of all of the above are among the top reasons for the procedure.
It’s a personal decision which should not have any judgement around it, just like any other cosmetic procedure, but let’s take a look at what really goes into getting a vaginal rejuvenation. Vaginal rejuvenation can involve labiaplasty and/or vaginoplasty. Labiaplasty is used to change the shape or size of the labia majora or labia minora, usually making them smaller or more symmetrical. Vaginoplasty aims to tighten the actual vagina. Some surgeons use lasers, others use traditional scalpel methods and some use a combination of both.
Vaginoplasty can involve reconstruction or tightening of the vaginal wall and/or pelvic floor muscles and a decrease in the diameter of the vagina. There may also be a removal of lining from the vaginal vault. There is no one specific procedure as a consultation is needed to determine the individual’s needs.
There are risks of undergoing any surgery and vaginal rejuvenation is no different. Scarring, infection and wound separation can happen, but if the area is cared for properly, it should be unlikely. It takes around 6 weeks to heal and until you will be able to resume exercise and sexual activity.
There are vaginal rejuvenation clinics in most major cities now as the cosmetic procedure becomes more popular. Many women feel an empowerment from the procedure and are happier to regain their vaginal youth. The procedure can cost anywhere from $2000 to $12, 000 depending on what you want and need to get done.
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