Some good, some bad, all relatable.
“Parenting” has become a competitive sport. But it’s kids who are losing.
Is it that hard to love me for me?
I’m sure I’m not the only one this happens to.
Cult classic The Princess Bride, which celebrated its 25th anniversary in 2012, still stands the test of time as a hilariously funny fractured fairytale, starring Cary Elwes, Robin Wright, Mandy Patinkin and Billy Crystal.
And if you’ve never seen the iconic “storybook story” about pirates and princess, giants and swordplay, do yourself a favour and check it out; it’s so hugely popular, the comedy/adventure/satire is passed down from generation-to-generation and the film’s stars are still constantly asked to recite certain iconic lines everywhere they go.
And the revered and much-loved film – based on the William Goldman novel The Princess Bride – has now given rise to a new hit book by the man-in-black himself, Cary Elwes, entitled As You Wish: Inconceivable Tales from the Making of The Princess Bride, released last October.
1. “Get Used To Disappointment”: This is one of my favourite witty lines from the movie and serves as a nice reality check. Life can be disappointing, but The Princess Bride also teaches us to always live in hope and believe in true love.
2. “Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while”: The Princess Bride reminds us that true love is both rare and valuable. And it’s certainly a nice idea to think it can transcend everything – even death.
3. “Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something”: Great life advice again; it pays to always be careful of whose advice you buy, for some people have very false motives.
4. “There’s not a lot of money in revenge”: Sage advice: what does bitterness achieve? No good can come from plotting revenge, certainly not riches, happiness or enlightenment – erm, unless you’re a sword-fighting champion with a vendetta in the film.
5. “Well, who says life is fair? Where is that written? Life isn’t always fair”: In the film, The Grandfather delivers this stern warning to his grandson. And, this witty one-liner from the twisted fairytale applies to everyday life too: life can be cruel, but we should never waste the pretty and/or lose sight of the good in ourselves, others and the world around us.
Main image via drafthouse.com; secondary image via www.mixiecinema.com; final image via neongods.com.
Are you currently in the process of teaching your kids to share? Many parents find it difficult to get their own kids to listen to them, let alone share their food or toys! But try to understand that sharing doesn’t come easy, but lots of patience and perseverance will help kids understand this valuable lesson which will remain a constant throughout their entire life. Below are just a few suggestions if you’re struggling with teaching your kids empathy:
Expose your kids to a number of play dates, which won’t just be confined to the family home. Children (especially those aged between 3-4 years old), will find it difficult to let go of their beloved toys. Instead, go to a playground or indoor facility and let your kids interact in a different environment altogether. This will teach them to share something which isn’t exactly their own.
Lead by example
Young children are very impressionable, so try and practice what you preach. Show them that you are also capable of sharing your items with them, your friends and other members of the family. Really try and make a point of this, and if you can, get the older siblings to participate as well.
If your child reacts badly to a situation make a point that it’s all about ‘taking turns.’ This will make it an even smoother transition for the child, since they will begin to understand it’s their turn next. Perhaps this will make it easier and less painful every time another child comes over to play.
Don’t force them
Forcing anyone to do something against their will, won’t ever work in your favour. Instead, create an environment which will encourage personal growth and understanding. Children will often feel a certain power which comes with keeping something all to themselves. The attention is usually shifted off of them when they are forced to share, hence the temper tantrums begin.
Don’t always interfere
Children are more than likely to develop small problems when they are required to share a toy or even time at the playground. Just because they start yelling or screaming, doesn’t mean it’s a golden oppourtunity for mum and dad to interfere.
Teaching your children values from a very young age is a great way to encourage this type of social behaviour. Watching the way mum, dad and other siblings interact is a carbon copy of the way the child will also act later on in life. Give them an oppourtunity to develop their skills and their personality along the way. These changes don’t just happen overnight – and often are difficult to break if parents and siblings aren’t willing to try something new and out of their comfort zone.
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I had just returned from London heartbroken, rich but miserable with a dodgy English accent. Kyrstie was plodding along in groovy Paddington living the high life, but had opted out of mainstream accounting to pursue a ‘people focus, helping others’ role in recruitment. The two us met in an interview scenario some three years ago. This was only the beginning, little did we know, the ‘universe’ had other plans. We met again through mutual ‘friends’ at a party soon after. We were both working in recruitment and we were direct competitors, so it took some months for us to acknowledge one another. It takes so much energy to hold your life together, just to handle the day to day things, there seemed little time to get to know someone new.
As time went by the struggle for happiness for both of us was too much to cope with. Our worlds collapsed. I had dreams of living an unconventional life. After working in recruitment for a year I began studying to become a Naturopath. I read every spiritual book I could get my hands on and went to endless seminars and workshops.
Kyrstie finally came to the realisation that being stoic and hard-nosed was not in her character. The city drove her nuts, literally, so she traded her corporate career to sell flowers and work in a video shop whilst pursuing her own personal development journey.
We hung together at the beach and coffee shops, swapped psycho- babble books and cried and cried. After 6 months we were running low on money, so we took the plunge and enrolled in courses. We knew our skills, identified our strengths and created the job of our dreams. Rather than pursuing what our parents, partners and friends expected, we listened to ourselves. Taking time out helped us both find some clarity about what we really wanted, which was to achieve happiness and balance.
After endless self- analysis there came a time for action. Coaching provided the solution. We both have experienced being coached and undertook training to become coaches ourselves, prior to developing our own methodology.
Our spin on coaching is:
Your life is your choice, make it happen the way you want it.
Coaching is about being the BEST you can be and being happy and balanced whilst achieving it.
No More Excuses
We all make excuses for not taking action about something we are unhappy, for not moving forward. One of our primary excuses was our emotional state. It’s at the top of the REASONS agenda. I’m either exhausted, tired, sad or angry, I can’t possibly go out or complete the work I set out to finish today. Understanding how powerful this is in our lives, and how it prevents us from achieving what we want, is magical.
A new way of thinking
Acknowledged your beliefs and learn to control your negative thoughts. If you change your thoughts, your feelings also change and your reality will take on a new focus. This may seems difficult, but it is really very simple. Committing to new positive beliefs is the key to changing your world. This means throwing away everything that hasn’t worked for you previously, and being brave enough to tackle life from a new angle. If you do focus your energy on a particular outcome, you really can create what you want.
Stop dwelling on your unhappiness
The is a big one- we love telling our ‘poor me’ stories. Think of how much time you spend talking to family, partners and friends about what’s not working out. We all need to get things off our chest, but sometimes, this constant whining about what’s wrong with our lives can become a self- fulfilling prophecy. If you keep talking about it, it’s not going to change, no matter how much sympathy you get.
“Do one thing everyday that scares you” and you will live the life you’ve imagined.
For further information on life coaching or to book a session contact Kyrstie Dunn on (02) 9362 5182 & email@example.com, or Sarah McIntyre on (02) 9362 1242 & firstname.lastname@example.org.