Marriage-issues

Can A Celebrity Crush Sex Up Your Marriage?

Do celebrity crushes perform an important role as a marital and/or sex aid in our lives, or are they a dangerous precursor to a jail sentence for stalking? I jest, of course, with the latter, for celebrity crushes have long been a driving force in teenage, and even adult, lives for generations.

In grade three, I was so besotted with Michael Jackson, I lovingly adorned all my school folders with glorious images of the late King of Pop. Then, Thriller happened and I had to dump Michael’s arse, for those iconic posters were far too scary for the likes of mini-me. Poor, late MJ.

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Next up, I’ve had the longest love affair of my life – albeit a frustratingly unrequited one, from afar – with U2 frontman Bono (main image), who replaced MJ in my heart when, as a teenager, I discovered the band’s iconic hit album, The Joshua Tree. That voice; his passion for social justice; and his long, dark hair and Celtic good looks had me captivated. Indeed, I still find the aging rock star somewhat swoon-worthy despite his band’s recent Apple album-sharing debacle.

Today, my modern muse – or celebrity crush of the moment – is actor Rupert Friend’s broody, elite CIA black-ops agent character Peter Quinn (pictured below), in Homeland. He’s like James Bond, but with a soul. Swoon.

And I swear I am singlehandedly carrying the Homeland fan base here in Australia and my husband dutifully downloads (legally) episodes for me to watch well after the shows have aired, given they’re now shown ridiculously late on TV, too late for an exhausted mum of two toddlers, seemingly due to aforementioned lack of popularity.

I can’t get enough of Quinn’s amazing cheekbones, which could cut glass; his unrequited feelings for Carrie, the show’s female lead; and his dashing, man-of-action modern-day spy with a conscience.

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So, do you have a pretend boyfriend, too? Who takes your fancy? And is a celebrity crush a good fantasy tool in a long-term relationship, or does it spell disaster for you and your significant other?

Relationship experts say celebrity crushes are common and should not be kept secret from your partner. Instead, you can actually boost your sex life by talking to your beloved about who floats your boat, erm aside from them, that is.

It’s all part of using fantasy role playing to sex up our love lives, so long as you don’t alienate your partner, experts insist. So, how do you do that? Keep it light, safe and fun by sharing the fantasy of someone unattainable with your partner – chances are, for example, I’m not going to bump into super-sexy Quinn any time soon (bugger).

And my husband, who has a cute crush on a certain very attractive celebrity (whom we’ve both met) isn’t likely to be socialising with her again anytime soon, phew (or this lifetime, I hope).

And here’s the all-important bit – relationship experts say you don’t want to be telling your significant other your sexy daydreams about the personal trainer you’re seeing twice weekly. Now, that’d be both stupid and dangerous. It’s got to be someone so ridiculously famous you’d actually probably drop dead from shock/excitement if you met them in real life.

What do you think? Do you have a celebrity crush?

Main image via www.cerveaux.dk; MJ image via www.ebay.com and Quinn image via www.sho.com.

November 6, 2014

Did you know….

The results of our recent SheSaid reader poll: Have you ever had a lesbian relationship? Yes – 27%

No – 46%

I’ve thought about it – 27%

Did you know that the current percentage of Australian marriages ending in divorce is 43%?

July 2, 2000

10 Things Men Fear About Marriage

A lot of men think long-term commitment can cease any definition of FUN, well read on and find out the 10 Reasons why he is acting a bit weird about marriage.

  1. The Life Sentence no more freedom.
  2. Giving up that dream of numerous women, numerous flirtatious evenings and numerous drunken flings.
  3. The ‘what if’ I meet someone else battle.
  4. Divorce the bitter battle until the end.
  5. Replicating his parents failed marriage or too happy marriage.
  6. A life of stable, organised boredom. Watching TV, cooking and vacuuming on a Saturday morning.
  7. Compromising.
  8. Giving up wild nights with the boys.
  9. The Cost and Time the wedding will take.
  10. Having to grow up and be an adult, save, take a mortgage.
March 1, 2000