Mums

Mums Are Appreciated: Fact Or Fiction?

Making sure that your family thrives is not an easy job and it’s one that doesn’t come with bells and whistles. Mums don’t get paid for their hard work and they don’t get nominated for awards, but are they at least being appreciated by their families?

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Australia Post has just released its Mother’s Day Survey results and nearly 80 per cent of Australians say that mums are the most appreciated member of the family. However, almost 40 per cent have forgotten to buy a Mother’s Day gift at least once, with 9.1 per cent admitting that they forget to buy a gift every year. So much for showing appreciation!

Australians are just as likely to forget to buy a Mother’s Day card, also – 42.6 per cent of all respondents have forgotten to buy a card at least once and 10.5 per cent forget every year. Those who remember to buy gifts often don’t put a lot of effort into it, either, with 43.9 per cent admitting that they’ve bought a gift voucher instead of a thoughtful gift, while 23.4 per cent say they’ve sent the mum in their life to buy her own gift. Some people (5.4 per cent!) admitted to buying a washing basket – that would have to go on the worst ever Mother’s Day gifts list.

Are these numbers making you depressed? Here are some better ways to show your appreciations to the mum in your life:

  • Put some effort into figuring out what she’d like and shop early.
  • Tell her how much you love her and what you appreciate about her. If you have young kids, ask them to list the things they love about Mum and turn their answers into a card, artwork or a video.
  • Spend time with her on Mother’s Day, but also give her some time to herself.

Showing mums how much we appreciate them doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. It just takes some thought and a loving heart.

May 10, 2015

Weekend Wit: Let’s Hear It For Single Mums

Today’s topic is single mums. They really are an incredible, almost unbreakable species. Many have capabilities that take womanhood to a whole new level. Yes, there are some who would be very comfortable in a place suited for the Bogan Hunters, but it’s the successful storm-trooper type I’m talking about. Carer, kids, home and they seem to have it all under control, plus have time to join the PTA! Seriously, hats off to you ladies, you really make other women look pretty bloody ordinary.

Regardless of what you might think, single mums do differ from partnered ones. If you’ve ever had a time in your life when you’ve been a single mum, you’ll understand why I say this. Think about it. There’s no one to vent to at the end of a long hard day or discuss how you’re going to move forward into the future. They can’t turn to a partner at 3am and say “Can you get that?” when the kids have woken up for a feed or with a nightmare or a wet bed. Nope, they are on-call 24/7.

Now being a single mum isn’t something most women aspire to be when they are young. Can you imagine that pretty little picture? I want 3 kids under the age of 7 by the time I’m 35, try my heart out in a relationship which is doomed to fail and would then prefer their dad to nick off so I can raise these kids on my own! Mmmm. Not exactly a goal for an easy life!

Sure, some women do opt to be single mums, but that is generally before they are in the thick of it. Like many other things in life, the only way to fully comprehend a situation is to experience it. The reality of life as a single mum is tough, hard work, an absolute endurance, exhausting and all those other adjectives which describe a situation when the work of an entire village is taken on by one woman.

Ironically, married or partnered women tend to stay as far away from this single mum crew as possible. Have you ever wondered why? I’ve thought about it and it actually became pretty obvious. It’s possible that partnered women view single mums as a threat or they see their future and seriously want to avoid looking in that direction.

So let’s look at the first scenario. The single mum as the threat. A threat to what you might ask? Well, everything! Single mums are SINGLE. Strike one. Only confident, trusting or should we say naive women will introduce these types of single mums to their partner.

Not only to they support themselves, dress their kids in designer clothing and footwear, have homes which resemble a photo opportunity in House and Garden, but they are usually quite lovely people and to top it off, many are outstandingly gorgeous. Keeping everything afloat, they manage to stay fit and healthy and radiate confidence, independence and all the other attributes men find irri-bloody-sistable!

For many, the only reason they are single is out of misfortune and bad luck. Partnered women are aware of this and in their quest to retain their lives, they avoid introducing Ms Perfect to their partner. Not that she would go for most of them anyway, but partnered women won’t take that chance. They have grown accustomed to their lives and intent to keep it.

That brings us to threat number two. The single mum can be a vision of the future for many women in unhappy, soul-destroying relationships. If they choose to ditch their partner, this is the type of single mum many of these ladies will need to become. Looking this harsh reality in the face can be daunting and scary. How on earth will they manage to do it?

The reality is many women they know they can’t and hence remain with their partner. These women would rather remain in their crappy relationship than opt to be a single mum. Granted, most know very little about their lives because they avoid them at all costs, bag them for their life choices, ostracize them in the school yard and other family involved functions, yet when it comes to actually  being one, they strategically opt out.

So being a single mum is not for the faint hearted; partnered women will avoid you, men look your way and ogle, plus you are responsible for the kids 24/7. Still, many seem to pull it off with the grace and charm of a princess. What can I say but well done ladies, keep up the good work!

December 15, 2014

Throwback Thursday: 20 Best Celebrity Mums

July 2, 2009

We asked you to choose which celebrity Mums you looked up to and boy did we get some surprises. Check out the list below:

Gwen Stefani because she often has her hubby and children with her all looking happy and fantastic!

Goldie Hawn has done such a wonderful job raising a great family in the limelight and I respect her so much for keeping them grounded.

I think Brooke Shields is an excellent celebrity mum. Like a lot of “normal” mums, she basically gave up her career to raise her kids.

Jenny McCarthy because she’s constantly raising Autism awareness and look after her autistic son! I have Autistic teenagers and appreciate what she’s doing!

Angelina Jolie. She is using her wealth to take care of children who would otherwise go without (and doesn’t make a big deal of it like Madonna!)

Jessica Rowe because she was open and honest regarding her feelings during her post natal depression. She made it real.

Julia Roberts is someone who could have continued to work and earn enormous amounts of money, but who has chosen her children over her ego.

Cate Blanchett because she’s elegant and refined but real. She has a conscience and can see she genuinely loves motherhood!

Funnily enough, Nicole Ritchie looks really down to earth and has embraced motherhood and cleaned up her act. I respect her for that.

I look up to Michelle Williams. Going through everything that she’s had to in the public eye whilst raising her daughter is a job well done.

Reese Witherspoon. She is so in love with her children and the fact that the most she will ever be away from her kids is two nights is really admirable.

I think Terri Irwin is doing a fantastic job as a single Mother raising two young children and managing Australia Zoo. What an exceptional and inspirational Australian!

Heidi Klum because of her incredible bungee stomach. After every child it just snaps back!

Does Rebecca Gibney’s character on ‘Packed to the Rafters’ count? Only a super mum would let all those kids back in the house!

Sarah Murdoch is a mum and a business woman and she remains grounded and gorgeous!

Kris Kardashian. The way she handles all those daughters of hers (and Rob) definitely creates good entertainment! She deserves a big pat on the back!

Michelle Obama. She’s always so stylish and is such an amazing role model for the world. I love how she is so grounded and family orientated.

I look up to Johanna Griggs. She demonstrates strength and humour in a down to earth, easy to like package.

Olivia Newton-John. She had so much to overcome with cancer and her daughter suffering from an eating disorder, but she still keeps smiling.

Sharon Osborne because she’s survived her famous faulty family AND survived cancer as well, that deserves recognition.

So do you agree? Let us know what you think now.

December 11, 2014