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Ditch New Year Resolution & Create A Happy Year

For a FREE one-to-one lifecoaching session at Sarah’s practice, coach2balance, see details at the end of the article.New Year’s resolutions. I’m over them! Who has ever made a New Year’s Resolution and actually stuck to it? I know there are a few of you out there who can prove me wrong and good on you. But for most of us, New Year’s Resolutions fall by the wayside before we’ve even reached February 1. It’s the whole concept that worries me. Why set major tasks on an evening when most of us are swaying to and fro under the influence of copious amounts of champagne? The world seems rosier and challenges seem a breeze. So why not ditch the New Year’s Resolutions and focus instead on the great things you achieved last year. Focus on what you did accomplish rather than on what you didn’t. By doing this you can identify the things you were doing right. Now let’s see if we can apply them to other areas of your life.The plan of attack:

This year can be different. I remember reading once that the definition of insanity is “doing things the same way and expecting a different outcome.” This rings very true for me and many of those people I coach. Why do it that way? I often get asked and my response is often “why not, has it ever worked the way you have been doing things previously?”

So I propose this New Years Resolution is TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY. Create a year of new beginnings in all areas of your life.

ACTION ONE:

Based on this let’s look at what you did in the year 2000. List all of your accomplishments. Put them somewhere as a reminder of what you do create.

ACTION TWO:

Identify what you do not want in your life. Distinguish those things that must go. This could be a new attitude, new job, better relationships, your home, and debts. Get clear on those things that are clogging your path.

November 1, 2000

Ditch New Year Resolution & Create A Happy Year- (Contd)

ACTION THREE:

Now look at what you keep doing in those areas. Take yourself out of the equation and distinguish what actions you keep doing and why everything stays the same.For example, this may be something like listening to your mum prattle on and hoping one day she will see the light. Hope is exactly that, HOPE. In this example it may mean you have to say NO to the stories and in being truthful she may then get an insight into her behaviour and change. She also may not but hey, you won’t have to listen to it anymore, which means you’ll have lots more energy to put into other areas of your life. Think of all the time you spend whinging to friends about how annoying she is. That energy could be used in a more constructive manner to add value to your life.

ACTION FOUR:

Now look at what you can do to create a new reality. List at least 30 things you would like to do/be in 2001. How can you do these or be this? Next to each one write down how this could happen but doing it differently

For example:

Get a dog Go to the pound, start dog walking in the evenings.

Lose 5 kg’s Say no to diets and create a healthy eating plan, don’t exercise if you hate it. Start slowly doing something you love.

Save $25,000 See a wealth coach, go to investment seminars, open a savings account, pay all your debts.

Keep a clean home Get a cleaning lady; write out an easy daily schedule so it isn’t a weekly burden.

ACTION FIVE:

Make it easy. Focus on what you are good at and do these things first. Say no as often as you can and make yourself your number one priority. Get clear on what you want your life to look like, clear out all the crap and set up a plan of attack. Remember WE CREATE OUR OWN REALITY and by doing things differently we are increasing the possibility that our life will start to look how we want it to look.

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November 1, 2000