Picture this: it’s 5pm – what we call “cactus-hour” in our house – and you’re busily trying to baby whisper two unruly toddlers under three into submission. You’re bone tired, you’ve got food stains on your dress and if you have to endure one more toddler dance routine to The Wiggles, you might snap.
You look over at your poor, equally harried husband, and can’t remember the last time you had a proper date night, sans kids, when you could both let your hair down and just enjoy being a couple, rather than proper, responsible parents.
Sound familiar? Date nights, no kids, are incredibly important for your sanity as a couple. They’re good for your marriage, in terms of reconnecting with your loved one, and for you as individuals, to have some time away from the kids in which to let loose and properly enjoy one another. But if you’re not in a family support situation, with say a grandparent or a friend who can regularly take the kids off your hands, you may need to look at investing in a regular babysitter, cost be damned.
So, why are date nights so important? Psychologists say communication has an important role to play in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It can be very difficult for a couple to find the time to talk openly and honestly to each other in the business of everyday life. One way to make the time to talk and keep the romance alive in a relationship is to plan a “date night”.
Some of the other date night benefits include the anticipation, something to look forward to and thrill of getting dressed up and – gasp – leaving the house together.
Date nights are also great for injecting some romance into your everyday life – it might almost seem a bit illicit… You’ve escaped for the night and maybe you’ll feel that excitement you felt when you first fell in love. These nights out are also an opportune time to communicate openly and positively – to tell your loved one how much you care and what you love about them, without the kids screaming in the background.
Another psychologist tip is to keep the conversation positive and happy on your date nights in order to reconnect on a positive level. Leave big problems such as money issues and mother-in-law stresses for another time (but do make a time to talk about these problems later, don’t ignore them or they’ll fester.)
Just try not to lose your heads and get caught up in a thrilling, but dangerous crime, ala the hilarious Tina Fey and Steve Carell in Date Night (pictured above).
How do you keep the romance alive in your marriage?
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