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Ultimate Tips For A Kick-Ass Dating Profile

Everyone wants a kick-ass dating profile, right? Well, apart from having an awesome pic with your smiling mug on it, you really need to focus on your wording. Despite us all being highly visual creatures who predominately look first, people who are serious about wanting a relationship will take the time to read about the person in front of them.

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Unfortunately, this is where the battle of the sexes reignites yet again. The opposite sex don’t always agree with what the other assume is a positive trait. Why? There are heaps of English words with multiple meanings. For example, when single ladies describe themselves using words such as strong, they assume it’s telling a prospective date that they’re independent, self-reliant and resilient.

While other women are often in awe of ladies who confidently describe themselves as strong, this little adjective can be a major turn-off for men. In fact, some men claim that when they spot words such as strong on a dating profile, they can’t click away fast enough. To them, this word – and words with similar meanings – are simply code for pushy, demanding and domineering.

So how do you get across who you are without scaring away prospective partners? Luckily, I’ve got some tips for you on how to produce a kick-ass dating profile. Just follow these simple guidelines and it should help you present yourself better and give you options to describe who you are in more accurate detail.

Tip 1: Be honest

There’s nothing worse than a liar in the game of love. So if you’re serious about finding that special someone then you need to be completely honest. Start by using an image of yourself and keep the editing to a minimal. Don’t Photoshop yourself down to a large breasted skeleton or buff yourself up to be a body builder if your not. Instead use an image which accentuates your best assets and you can’t go wrong.

The same principal applies to the wording. For example, if you don’t earn a six figure salary or model swimwear don’t claim to. Why? The key thing to remember is that good solid relationships are based upon trust and respect. So if you lie about yourself from the get-go you’ll basically be screwing up any potential for a long-term relationship.

Tip 2: Choose the right image

If you really want a serious relationship, you need to put some effort into it. Ideally make sure your profile picture is the very best image you have. Think about what you want your image to say about you. Don’t just upload a selfie quickly snapped in front of your screen. Go that one step further and put some thought into what you want your first impression to say about you.

Tip 3: Carefully select your wording

Although it might be tempting to describe yourself using a few generalized words such as masculine or independent it’s much better to give these words some thought before you commit to using them. To do this I’d recommend reviewing each one using a Thesaurus. Yeah I know this may sound tedious. Yet by doing this you’ll be able to describe yourself much more accurately plus leave less scope for misinterpretation.

I’ll give you an example using the word independent. Below are some synonyms (words with similar meaning) directly from thesaurus.com.

  • autonomous
  • self-reliant
  • self-sufficient
  • individualistic
  • on one’s own
  • self-determining
  • self-governing
  • self-ruling
  • self-supporting
  • separated
  • unconnected
  • unconstrained
  • uncontrolled

Additionally, thesaurus.com provide a list of related words:

  • alone
  • aloof
  • disconnected
  • distant
  • divorced
  • separated
  • special

Notice that there are multiple meanings of this word and some of them aren’t exactly complimentary? Instead I’d recommend selecting more appropriate and specific words from the list. For example if want to use the word independent to describe that you’re self-reliant or self-sufficient use the more accurate words because they are far more descriptive about who you are.

Additionally where possible provide more detail along with the adjectives you use to describe yourself. Take the word enthusiastic for example. What are you enthusiastic about? A serial killer could be enthusiastic to seek his next victim but if your enthusiasm is more akin to gardening then adding this additional information will help you find a more suitable partner.

As the wording is so important here’s a couple of resources – www.thesaurus.com and Positive Personality Adjectives.

Well that’s about it. If you’re completely honest, choose the right image and carefully select your wording you’ll create yourself a kick-ass dating profile and be well on your way to meeting that special someone!

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August 24, 2015

7 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

Who hasn’t joined Tinder at one point or another? Whether it’s been to check-up on the ex (don’t lie), have a laugh with friends, or to get that big ego-boost when you instantly match with someone. Regardless of your motivation, below are a few tried and tested dating tips from yours truly – so, relax and have fun!

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Location, location, location

Proximity counts. Who wants to be matched to a good-looking, (eligible) bachelor who lives more than 40km away? Did you just waste all that banter for nothing? Make sure to bring down the location to at least 10-20km – something which actually seems plausible.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

We matched… Now what?

 Have you ever matched with someone on Tinder only to be let down by the lack of conversation? Start it yourself, girl! Most users will actually swipe right to multiple women at the one time, then come back to the drawing board afterwards. If you like what you see, start a casual conversation. You’ve got nothing to lose and who cares if he doesn’t reply? *Unmatched*

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

Solo pictures

It’s good to have a bit of variety in your pictures on Tinder. Isn’t it annoying finally finding someone who only has one photo of themselves – which doesn’t even show their face? Post pictures of yourself, but don’t over-do it with an in-flux of images with your friends. How will they know who you are? Oh the frustration!

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

About me

Don’t over-do it in the description section. Keep it short and sweet without offending people in the process. Tinder now has a new function which allows you to link your Instagram account into the game of love – that is, if you want random strangers lurking at your profile.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

Fake profiles

Whether we want to believe it or not, there are hundreds of fake profiles circulating around Tinder for a multitude of different reasons. Use your discretion and never reveal too much personal information about yourself to someone you’re unsure about.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

Check to see if you have common friends and interests – this will usually be a great indication as to who the person is you’re speaking to.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

So… You’ve matched with a friend?

We’ve all done it before… Re-connected with an old friend from high school on Tinder. This scenario is easy enough to avoid, especially if you’re both working with a similar sense of humour. Otherwise, you have no option but to pretend it never happened. Ever.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

TMI

Also known as too much information, this type of thing will happen a lot on Tinder. It goes without saying sometimes. If you don’t want to talk, the Unmatch button is simply just one click away. Tinder is only as serious as you make it out to be.

10 Tips For Sensible Tinder Dating

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May 27, 2015

5 People To Avoid While Online Dating

Dating apps such as Tinder and Grouper (if you’re scared to go at it alone) are making it that much easier to find a partner without actually stepping foot outside your house – or anywhere that has free WiFi in fact. Whether you’re looking for a long-term partner or just a summer fling, here are five personalities that should have you running for the hills. Or simply just un-match them instead, whatever option better fits into your exercise routine.

The Clinger

You meet online, then you chat for a few days (perhaps a week), before taking the plunge and meeting face-to-face for the first time. While the first date is mediocre, the clinger will still continue to text, call or even FaceTime you more than ever. Just a little tip here – if you’re definitely not interested in the clinger, let them down early on. This may save you being deleted or possibly blocked from Facebook down the line.

The Serial Texter

You can always expect a text waiting for you when you wake up, leave your phone unattended for five minutes, or even multiple texts at a time. The serial texter loves nothing more than to ask an unlimited amount of questions (most of which are repetitive in nature). Some common examples include but are not limited to ‘How are you?’, ‘What are you doing’, ‘What are you eating?’ Although are these people speaking to you because they’re interested in what you have to say, or are they merely just passing the time? Is that another question?

The Serial Non-Texter

The complete opposite to the serial texter. This personality contacts you once in a blue moon, and usually stops replying – even though they initiated the conversation in the first place.

The One Who Won’t Take No For An Answer

Never exchange your mobile number with this personality – that’s unless you don’t want a few hundred calls to your number at all hours. The one who won’t take no for an answer is under the disguise of a well-dressed, nicely spoken character who is essentially harmless. If they pick up a scent that you’re interested, this will result in an unlimited amount of texts, calls, Facebook messages, and Instagram requests (I’m assuming you’re already on private). But once you agree to a date – they lose interest altogether.

The Great Banter

Anyone who loves a bit of a laugh will tell you that good banter is hard to find – in person and online. Just like a needle in the haystack! So why is there a problem exactly? Great banter is exactly what it says it is – banter. Although you might be quick-witted, hilarious, and have exchanged a few ‘lol’ and ‘haha’ with each other during your two-week texting rendezvous, this personality will almost never meet up with you for a drink, let alone dinner.

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September 19, 2014

The Single Girl’s Guide To Online Dating

Online dating can be difficult enough without the prospect of catfish, scammers and everyone else in between. It is possible to land the partner of your dreams by just logging-in, but it is more important to make wise decisions and never give out your personal information to strangers. If you’re new to the online dating scene, take these few tips into consideration the next time you’re online.

Don’t over-disclose

Don’t go overboard with your online dating profile. Try and convey the best version of yourself into an online profile without disclosing a heap of personal information. Rather, as you begin to chat, this will be a natural part of the friendship or future relationship.

Friendship, or..

Start off by creating a solid foundation for a possible relationship by first becoming friends. This doesn’t mean that the cheeky or flirtatious banter will be non-existent, but try and get to know each other, and see how the friendship progresses with time.

Know your audience

Before creating your online profile, do some research on the site and make sure that you are happy with the kind of attention you may likely receive. There are a bunch of personalised dating apps and sites which take career, location and even religion into consideration when looking for a partner.

What do you want?

One of the most important factors when online dating (or simply dating in general), is to know what you want. This will make it so much easier to eliminate people who don’t match your criteria. For example kids, marriage and other serious life-alternating changes could prove to be a deal breaker in the future.

Get to it!

Don’t babble on and on in your online profile. Although in a face-to-face scenario this could come across as cute or endearing, sometimes humour just doesn’t translate on print.

Market yourself

No, we’re not suggesting you create an exaggerated online persona of yourself! But adapt your dating profile, text and images to each site or application that you’re using. This will make it easier to grab the attention of people that you want, instead of others who could simply just be wasting your time, energy (and possibly internet data).

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August 6, 2014

Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating

The Christmas and New Year period is the peak time of year for ditching a dud date and finding a new fling. So it’s the perfect  time to revamp your online dating profile and get back in the dating game!

Online dating guru and Oasis.com CEO Dave Heysen shares his insider tips to make your profile work hard for you this party season.

DO refresh your profile
The way your profile is written can depend heavily on the mood you were in on the day you wrote it. If it’s been a few weeks since you last edited your profile, why not revisit what you wrote. Maybe there is something new to share about yourself or a part of the profile you feel like changing. And always spell-check! Spelling might not be important for you, but for some it’s a deal breaker.

DON’T follow the crowd
Nowadays, the online dating pond is more like a vast ocean. Don’t let yourself get lost in the sea of dates. Remember to be yourself, be original and don’t get caught up in the idea of what others expect you to be and say. If you are witty, then your profile should be witty. If you are more serious, it’s okay for your profile to be a little more serious. As long as your tone is friendly and positive, people will enjoy hearing what you have to say.

DO upload new photos
You can tell a lot about someone within seconds of looking at their profile picture, so it’s no surprise that photos are the single most important part of any online dating profile for both men and women. Make sure your profile is full of great quality, recent photos of yourself looking great – and that means smiling and having a good time. That might be a photo of you out with friends, with your family or relaxing a home  – whatever you enjoy doing most. The more happy, confident and relaxed you look, the more likely you are to have success.

DON’T forget who you’re trying to impress
While photos can be a huge help, a bad photo can also be a real hindrance. Women tend to avoid guys that upload photos of themselves in big groups of mates, holding beer cans or flexing their muscles in the bathroom. While these macho displays might impress their mates, they’re unlikely to win points in the dating scene. In the same way, women tend to upload their own awkward selfies, pulling ‘duck face’, wearing large sunglasses and too much make up – all things that frustrate men who just want to see what the woman really looks like!

DO act now!
Don’t put off dating until the new year. Start now by using online dating search functions and apps to help you find potential dates in your local area. Once you locate the singles in your area, you can narrow your search by preferences and start chatting. No excuses!

While these few rules are aimed to help you navigate your way through summer, remember that online dating is supposed to be fun. So be yourself, keep your profile fresh and get involved!

December 17, 2013

5 Online Dating Secrets You Need To Know Now

Thinking of online dating? Oasis Active’s relationship blogger Emma-Kate Dobbin shares some insider tips on how to date online and how to tell whether it could lead to love.

Expectations are the death of dating!

Great expectations only make your love-life great, if it featured in a Jane Austen novel…and even then, most of the people remain tortured by unrequited love…or love that didn’t get it quite right.

Stop focusing on ‘the one’

If you have a ‘type’ or you get so involved in chat that you let your mind wonder into fantasyland, often the people you meet in reality don’t stack up. Drop your ideas on what meeting ‘the one’ should look or feel like, and you will find you open your heart and life to have way more room for who could actually be right in front of you – and be much better suited to you.

Don’t lead with the “wooden leg”

I have a friend with a ‘wooden leg’. She had lots of dates and boyfriends and is now married. When she went on her first dates or even up to her third date, she didn’t reveal her deepest, darkest feelings and the whole story on how that had happened. She waited to get to know her suitors a bit, and get a feeling if she felt they were worthy of her going into ‘deeper’ waters with.

Often though, the amount of people who would metaphorically ‘lead with the wooden leg’ would surprise her. Spilling every single detail about every little thing you have done – from bad relationships to personal insecurities – within a few minutes or hours of meeting – is something to avoid at all cost.

Put your best attributes forward

There is nothing wrong with bonding over the positive rather than things that are more intense, early on. As she says: “Put your best foot forward. Literally.”

It’s a numbers game

Let me let you in on a secret. On the road to ‘the one’ you quickly realise that your ‘one’ is actually one of many people who could suit you. Who you actually commit to is a different story based on timing.

Don’t trap yourself into thinking you don’t need to get out there or that there is anything wrong with making an effort to meet people. The more people you meet, the more relaxed and chilled out you are when you do meet or date people.

The saying, ‘it will happen when you least expect it’, is more likely when you are meeting a lot of people…not sitting at home, only selecting someone if you are certain.

Just because you haven’t met them yet, you fancy someone and they don’t fancy you, you had a bad experience, you went out with a clown, you are frustrated…It doesn’t mean that it’s not funny or a good story that is bringing you closer to the person you will end up with.

Have you tried internet dating? What are your experiences with meeting people online?

February 29, 2012