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December 19, 2015

Sex And The Single Girl: How To Survive A Dry Spell

Sex is like fine wine and chocolate; the more wondrous, delicious and satisfying it is, the more you want. And yet sex droughts are all too common, whether they strike due to illness, stress and/or a man ban by choice. Sometimes, you can even settle into the groove of a dry spell – so much so, that it’s some time before you realise you’ve gone months without a sexual partner.

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You might simply be so busy and content as a singleton, you plain just don’t have time and/or inclination for a partner right now. And – let’s face it – sex droughts won’t kill you, even if it feels like it at the time. What’s more, it’s vitally important as a singleton that you learn how to have a satisfying love affair with the one who matters most – yourself.

Sydney sexologist, Dr Michelle Mars (pictured), who specialises in the sociology of sex gender and sexual well-being, concurs: she says sexual dry spells, while increasingly common, need not be unfulfilling.

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“If we define a ‘sex drought’ as wanting more sex than we’re getting, then sex droughts are likely to be a feature of people’s lives at some point,” Dr Mars says. “If it’s a short-term sex drought, there is really no excuse. Like any relationship, we can cultivate a fulfilling one with ourselves and although this might get a little boring after a year or two, there are a myriad of things we can try to spice up sex for one.

“The added benefit of this is that once you have worked out what you really like you are more likely to also have better partner sex. I guess I tend to see sex as an opportunity for self-development, so if you’re having a sex drought and you don’t see a way out of it, and then channel some of that positive energy into other aspects of yourself. Do something new, take an interest in sport or art or start going for early-morning walks.”

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So, there you have it: the good sex doctor’s advice on how to survive that sex drought. Here are my top tips too, for good measure. For, as a single lass, I had my share of sexual dry spells when I was too career-focused to care and/or hunting for the right partner with whom to share all my goodies with.

Top 5 sexual drought survival tips:

  1. Keep busy: Work hard and play hard and you’ll train your mind and body to forget all about that itch you’ve really got to scratch – at least for a while.
  2. Just breathe: I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, yoga and mindful meditation can cure a host of ills; give it a go. It’s all about mind over matter.
  3. Shop for one: Treat yourself to a new buzzy friend – vibrators can help keep your solo sex life fun and interesting. And while nothing can replace the joys of the flesh, this is a good short-term fix. Buy yourself some hot heels, while you’re at it.
  4. Exercise like a demon: I took about boxing, kickboxing and hired a personal trainer when a busy singleton. I got super-fit, healthy and svelte and had never felt sexier – then I met my husband at the peak of my singleton powers. Coincidence? I don’t think so.
  5. Read all about it: Find out what blows your hair back: is it good quality erotica and/or porn? Treat yourself to the entire works of brilliant French-born novelist and passionate eroticist Anaïs Nin and/or Australia’s top sex writer Krissy Kneen – trust me, you won’t be disappointed. Hello, orgasm town!

 Images via womenshealthmag.com, puckermob.com

July 28, 2015

(Better) Sex and the Single Girl

Let’s face it, just because you’re single does not mean your sex life should be on hiatus. This is the time to get in tune with your body, learn some new tricks and what turns you on. Better sex is right around the corner!

1. Treat yourself to a new toy
The best way to improve your sex life as a solo lady is to invest in a collection of trusted sex toys. Look at some of our favourite new sex toys, including the Leaf. The unique design of this toy is conveniently curved, evoking a strong sensation that will really rock your world. Plus, it’s environmentally-friendly!

Your solo sessions are time to explore what kind of stimulation you like best: soft and slow, hard and fast…Some women go gaga over clitoral stimulation, while others prefer pressure on the G-spot – or both sensations!

2. Watch something frisky
Porn for women is becoming more and more popular. Many women are also becoming more concerned with ethics in pornography, turning to options that avoid exploiting women for the benefit of men. In truth, there are many videos on the market that showcase healthy sexuality.

3. Fall in love with yourself
As cheesy as it may sound, learning to love your own body is your ticket to sexual freedom. Stop targeting your problem areas and focus on all the beauty your body possesses. Put an end to those inhibitions that keep you from truly enjoying yourself during sex – and watch your general confidence bloom.

4. Tighten up
Did you know that there are exercises you can do to improve your sex life? You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises, which support the bladder and uterus, but also tighten the walls of the vagina. The tighter the walls of the vagina, the deeper they can contract. This leads to deeply-satisfying orgasms.

You can do Kegel exercises anywhere, just by tightening and holding for 10 seconds, then releasing and repeating. Or you can try it while doing plies. To perform this exercise, simply stand with your feet wide apart, toes pointed outwards. Bend your knees wide, tighten, and push back to starting position.General strength training has its own benefits. Lifting weights increases testosterone, a hormone responsible for your sex drive.

5. Learn some new moves
Let’s be honest – one-night stands are a great opportunity to practice a few new moves geared towards improving your orgasm. The standard moves – missionary and doggy style – can only do so much.One of the best ways to get that intense G-spot sensation is to rest your ankles on your partner’s shoulders. The deep penetration is ideal for female orgasm, especially if you encourage your partner to play with your other erogenous zones.

Fess up: what is your secret single behaviour? Tell us in the comments!

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