The (Sometime) Joys Of No Makeup

Do you find that the more you age, the less inclined you are to wear really heavy makeup? It’s proof that mother nature has a sense of humour – that the older you are, and more comfortable in your own skin, the less inclined you may be to wear a full face of makeup, even though this is when the beauty industry tells us this is when we need their lotions and potions the most!

But instead of splashing out your cash on the latest “anti-ageing miracle cream,” does wearing less make-up actually make us look more youthful? In addition, isn’t there something really beautiful about natural beauty? A woman so comfy in her own skin that she’s OK about showing her true self to the world?

As we age, our faces inevitably reflect the fact that we’ve lived more, cried more, laughed more and endured more. And I find these lived-in faces to be more beautiful and interesting than the alternative – Botox be damned, I say!

And that pretty, natural makeup look continues to be a hit both on and off the catwalks these days. Check out the luminous J-Lo (pictured above) and Taylor Swift (pictured below), who both look amazing both with and without makeup.

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Now, I love makeup, don’t get me wrong – and I’m still fortunate to have crates of Chanel from my former life as a beauty/fashion editor, which both myself and my toddlers absolutely delight in using from time-to-time. Date nights with my husband are my favourite occasion to dabble in these 200 or so shades of eyeliner, eye shadow, lip glosses and lipsticks of old.

But I find the older I get, the less time, energy and inclination I have to spend hours doing my daily makeup – unless I have a special event. And, I believe this is also about having a more positive self-image. Over the years, I’ve learned to accept my dark, under-eye circles, embrace my freckles and my fair “English” skin. Sure, I’ll do my best to make the most of what my mother gave me, but I’ve even shocked myself lately by posting near-makeup-free shots of myself (with my babies) on Instagram.

And while I’ll still never leave the house without first applying concealer, crème blush and lipstick/lip gloss – this is a far cry from the days in my youth when I felt I had to have a perfect face of full make-up before I stepped out the door. Hell, I used to sometimes happily blend five different eye shadow colours before I felt my makeup was perfect enough to brave the world – those were the days, as a time-rich singleton!

My makeup collection and lip gloss/lipstick fetish are both sizeable, but I just don’t feel the need to hide behind my make-up so much anymore.

Popular US author and fashion blogger Leandra Medine, best known for The Man Repeller – a humorous website for serious fashion – recently wrote about this topic herself. I find Leandra to be very beautiful, but she wrote a recent customarily fabulous and feisty post about her penchant for no makeup in response to a male website founder describing her as thus: “She is ugly as fuck tho. Truly a man repeller.” What a horrid human he must be!?

Leandra, who says she also gets lots of haters on her blog admonishing her for her lack of “war paint”, wrote: “I am comfortable with how I look. I don’t hate what I see when I look in the mirror. Even if legions of others don’t agree.” High five, sister!

And high-end retailers are jumping on the no-makeup bandwagon, too. Super chic Sydney shoe/handbag and clothing retailer Sambag urged customers to join charity movement Makeup Free Me: Let’s Lift the Mask on Friday, August 29 to raise awareness of negative self-image. Customers were encouraged to pop into their nearest Sambag boutique; receive 10 per cent off the collection, remove their make-up, enjoy refreshments and shop for a cause.

Sambag then donated 10 per cent of all nationwide sales to The Butterfly Foundation thanks to Melbourne charity @makeupfreeme, which aimed to raise $250,000 for the foundation’s work to combat negative body image and support those affected by eating disorders. Sambag raised a total of $2420 (all donations go directly to The Butterfly Foundation).

What do you think? Do you wear more or less makeup as you age?

Main image via theurbanarchives.com and secondary image via tasteofcountry.com

September 6, 2014

How to have Positive Self Image

Self-image is everything…and we don’t mean an over exaggerated ego either. Have you ever noticed that the most attractive and charismatic woman in the room will have one thing? Healthy self-image is what it is called. It’s like she values herself and is aware of her own power…as if she has found the Goddess side of herself and treats herself accordingly. To get great self-image we have to really believe that we are special and unique. If it is unconditional love you value and look for from another human being, then it is unconditional love you have to start giving yourself. Here we give you the four steps that lead you closer to a strong inner confidence and unconditional love for yourself?no matter what you do.Most of us are our own worst critics. We hear it every day from ourselves: “I should do more exercise”, “I should earn more money” and there’s always “I could have done that better”?and what about, “Why did you have to go and ruin it?” We blame ourselves. We berate ourselves. We give ourselves a more difficult time than anyone else. Well, we are saying stop. We say, let go of all this self-criticism and learn self-love.

It is incredible how much we value other people’s opinion of us. If we were all really honest, we would admit that we do worry about what other people think and a lot of us spend a great deal of time trying to please other people. In fact, some of us spend too much time on this. We want our parents to be proud of us, we want our siblings to feel that they can rely on us and we want our bosses to believe in us. None of these feelings have to come at a push if we have great and healthy self-love.

People will trust that because we love ourselves and have a fantastic attitude to life, they will feel safe to do the same. We live in a time where unrealistic standards have been set by us – for ourselves. Superwoman is the person we are asking ourselves to be – no one else. People who are positive about themselves – even their mistakes (and let’s face it, we all make them) are usually the happiest. They are not worried about pleasing people, because by pleasing themselves and being happy, they are naturally making others happy anyway.

It is very difficult to stop that inner voice telling us negative things, but it is possible. The greatest way towards a good and healthy attitude is to lose the self-pity. The trick is to start to treat yourself as if you are a unique and confidant goddess. It seems that at the end of the day it is all about self-respect and it is the one attribute we cannot compromise on. So much time is spent on the negative. You will find that if you can turn your attitude around, you will turn your life around and you will be the happiest person in the room. Isn’t that what we all want?

October 22, 2002