The seizures erased my memories, but unexpectedly bought me the greatest gift I could have ever hoped to receive.
Whether you’re finding it hard to get out and exercise, drag yourself to work or you’ve been procrastinating about completing that assignment that should have been finished long ago, we’ve all been there. Sometimes it’s hard to find motivation if you lose sight of what it is you’re striving for, so here are some simple tips that should help you to find your motivation again and reach that goal.
- Set a goal of what you want to accomplish in the end and visualise it in your mind in complete detail. If you want to lose ten kilos then visualise yourself weighing less and looking great or if you want to finish writing that book, visualise it sitting on the shelf at the bookstore, your name written on the cover. Having a clear view of what you want to achieve will help you to stay motivated.
- Make a list of the reasons why you want to achieve you goal. Is it for money? For health reasons or for your own personal satisfaction? Having a goal is all well and good but if you don’t know why you’re working towards that goal, then it’s kind of pointless. You must be doing it for a reason.
- When you’ve decided what your end goal is, break it down into smaller targets so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming. Chipping away at your goal over time and taking realistic steps towards it will keep you more motivated than if you were just aiming for the end goal. If you’re losing weight, aim for losing 1 kilo a week or if you’re writing a book, aim to write a chapter a week. Reaching those smaller milestones will inspire you to keep going and don’t forget to reward yourself when you reach them.
- Have a flexible plan of how you’re going to achieve your goal. You should have a general idea of how you’re going to work towards your goal, but if things don’t go to plan, don’t give up – simply try another tactic. You need to be prepared for speed bumps along the way and then have the determination to overcome them.
- Tell people about your goal who can support you along the way, so if you find that you’re struggling to reach those smaller milestones you’ll have people around you who can encourage to keep going. Having someone else to remind you why you’re working towards your goal can be much more satisfying than hearing it from yourself. Also if you’ve announced to your friends that you’re planning on achieving something, it’s more likely that you’ll try your hardest to make it happen, almost for fear of failing.
- If you find your motivation is lagging perhaps try and think about role models that have succeeded in the past, but not without hard work. Compare what they had to endure to your situation and sometimes this can make yours seems so much more achievable. People who have fought in a war or those who have fought serious illnesses are an inspiration to most, so consider their hard fight to yours.
And if those tips weren’t enough, read these inspirational quotes that are sure to keep you heading on your path to success.
“I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney
“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others have thrown at him.” – David Brinkley
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill
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Have you ever monitored your daily bitching?
I recently tried a bitch-free month where I was forbidden to speak or write in negative terms about anyone. Oh, how virtuous and high horsey of you, I hear you groan. Perhaps my motivations began being slightly high horsey, but what I discovered about the power behind trash talk was bigger than I thought.
Let me say, it was an extremely challenging mission and took colossal amounts of will and determination to curb my relentless enthusiasm for negative natter. Initially I thought that eliminating my trash talk about other people would be as simple as just stopping the behaviour, but then it dawned on me that some relationships I had with certain people were based on trash talk. It didn’t seem like bitching and if we stretched the truth we could certainly say we were just ‘bouncing ideas about other people off each other’.
Yet the truth of it was, it was negative and served no one, especially not us. It was a petty waste of time born from some shameful attempt at trying to make us feel better about ourselves by judging other people.
Beyond the obvious sentiments that bitching is no good for anyone, and that women will never gain equality until we stop talking about each other behind each other’s backs; I discovered much more.
After attempting to stop engaging in any negative speak about people, I began to censor all of my communication. “Does this sound negative?”…“could that be construed as bitching?” It wasn’t just people I had to stop talking about, I realised it was everything: events, work situations, family matters and even my depressing view of current politics. Analysing the tone and content of my texts, emails and phone calls was a very sobering exercise. Even when I was not speaking negative about anyone, a hint of complaint, blame and judgment was lurking and wanting to nuzzle into conversations. This was huge.
The ‘aha’ moment came to me when after just a few days of not speaking negatively about things; my attitude began to change about my life in current time. My world became a nicer place.
I am not one who believes that we should only have positive thoughts. An ability to judge the world around us is a survival skill that no one should abandon. However, there comes a point when our addiction to negativity could potentially be the cause of us not getting what we truly want.
“If we fall into the habit of bitching and whinging, we start to believe our own spin, this then shapes our brain so we then process all of the input into our brain through a negative bitching lens,” says psychologist Jodi Nilsson.
So, it’s by no means some mystical energetic realm that by positive thoughts bring positive outcomes, but something more simplistic. We do create our own reality via our own thoughts.
If you find yourself judging, bitching or complaining, just stop for a while and see what happens.
Do you think society bitches and complains too much?
Deanna Coleman is the founder of eco news and sustainable food website Cook My Way.
For most people, Christmas is a happy time of year. But for some it can be a very sad and lonely time, even a time of crisis. Lifeline speaks to 1,400 people a day over the festive period. Chris Wagner from Lifeline shares 8 tips for relieving stress and staying calm over the holidays.
1. Stress is common
Understand that it is common for people to feel stressed at this time of year.
2. Limit your expectations
Try not to expect too much – aiming for the “perfect” Christmas or assuming that everyone will be on their best behaviour may not be realistic.
3. Watch your alcohol intake
Limit alcohol – there can be a temptation to drink too much at Christmas, but alcohol can fuel arguments and cause unwanted behaviour.
4. Reach out
If you are feeling in crisis, tell someone, e.g. a trusted friend or family member, or talk to your GP, a counsellor, or call a helpline like Lifeline on 13 11 14.
5. Stay healthy
Look after yourself physically. If you look after your body your mind will feel better too.
Where possible plan ahead to deal with stressful situations.
7. Know your limits
Know your limits and listen to your emotions. If you need to calm down, take a walk or find a quiet place.
8. Have a Christmas that’s within your limits
If times are tough financially or for other reasons, make time to sit down as a family and plan a Christmas that is reasonable.
Remember, if you need support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit www.lifeline.org.au.