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Can Music Help You To Heal?

Music does wonderful things for the brain. It’s a quintessential part of a breakup, to give you something to cry to by someone who relates to your pain. It’s a must have for a wedding, to convey your love through the tunes being played as your walk down the aisle or have your first dance. And it gives you thrills and chills in movies, to really set the scene.

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Music plays on our emotions and we know that it can mentally heal someone who is dealing with grief. But recent studies have shown that music can actually help our bodies to heal better after surgery. How amazing is that?

Doctors have recently written a piece for medical journal The Lancet to detail how music improves the recovery time after surgery for patients in hospital. The often ignored, non-drug treatment is said to have many benefits including reducing the activity of our nervous system, thus lowering the pulse and the blood pressure of the patient.

Listening to music before, during and after surgery can affect perceived intensity and unpleasantness of pain, which enables the patient’s sense of pain to be reduced. This also reduces anxiety levels.

So what kind of music is going to help you to recover when you come out from surgery? There’s no right answer for that, it’s about what sounds good for you. As music is a personal choice, your recovery songs are all going to be different, whether you like a bit of Guns ‘n’ Roses or Taylor Swift.

This research was done to help promote non-drug related pain tolerance methods that are often ignored. Doctors are so quick to reach for drugs in order to get things done, when there may be a non-drug related solution that is better for the body.

London-based researchers found that the effect of music was consistent across many different types of surgery and music styles and that patients should feel free to request their favourite songs, as long as there was no interference with medical equipment.

If you happen to be going into surgery soon, good luck to you, for one, and ask to be able to listen to your favourite tunes to assist in your recovery process; it’s much better for your body to have music help you to heal.

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Weekend Wit: Do You Live In Australia’s Horniest Suburb?

Do you think you live in one of Australia’s horniest suburbs?

Recently, Elite Singles asked over 25, 000 random subscribers how strongly they related to the question, “I have a strong desire for sex.” Looking at where these horny buggers resided, they actually came up with a list of Australia’s top 10 “sexiest” suburbs!

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Now, if you’ve always thought that seaside living was somewhat arousing, you’d be right. In fact, 8 of 10 of Australia’s horniest suburbs reside by the sea. Something in the sand, perhaps? In particular, New South Wales’ coastal subscribers proved to be especially horny. Coogee won the honor, Manly landed in second place and Cronulla came in fourth. South Melbourne, Victoria spoiled the NSW trifecta by taking out third place, however.

Here’s a wrap up of the top 10 horniest suburbs in Oz.

  1. Coogee
  2. Manly
  3. South Melbourne
  4. Cronulla
  5. Port Melbourne
  6. Broadbeach
  7. Darlinghurst
  8. St Kilda
  9. Bondi
  10. Brunswick

On the flip side, subscribers who related least to having a strong desire for sex generally lived further inland with Shepparton being the location where sex was least desired. So, ladies, here’s the results of Australia’s least horny suburbs.

  1. Shepparton
  2. Caboolture
  3. Sunbury
  4. Glenroy
  5. Albury

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Marriage And Friendship Help You Live Longer

We’ve all heard that being married can keep us alive longer. So, what about friendship? Research has identified, you can live up to 22 per cent longer just by having good friends. Sounds too simple, right? Ditch your running pants and diet plan for a few minutes to find out just how easy it is.

Marriage and life span

First up, let’s take a look at marriage. It’s been a known fact for quite a while that marriage increases your chances of living longer. Epidemiologists call this correlation the Marriage Protection Hypothesis. It’s not an exact science but they recommend it has something to do with the following:

  • Having a family to live for, reduces risky behaviours; like heavy drinking and driving at excessive speeds
  • A spouse will encourage you to get health concerns looked at by a GP and identify terminal illnesses earlier
  • Married couples focus on staying healthy in smaller ways; like putting on sunscreen and wearing warm clothing
  • Having a partner to talk to reduces daily stress which deters anxiety and depression
  • Intellectual conversations wards of dementia
  • Married couples tend to eat better than singles
  • Being married at an elderly age reduces the risk of depression due to isolation
  • Perhaps, healthy people just attract a mate easier and that’s why they live longer

It’s very difficult to pin point the exact reasons married people live longer. Instead, researchers suggest it is a combination of factors. It should also be stated that the quality of the relationship is a vital determinant of longevity. While couples in healthier marriages live longer, this is untrue for couples in dysfunctional relationships. This may have something to do with friendship and longevity.

Friendship and life span

I don’t know about you but I have a couple of exceptionally good friends. We laugh, we cry and we help each other through those ultra tough times when everyone else seems to abandon us. Research has now identified that friendship is not only good for our social lives, but also incredibly important for our overall wellbeing.

In a review of 148 studies, with a whopping 308,849 subjects, researchers found that isolation and loneliness were equally as harmful to one’s health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, not exercising, alcoholism and double the risks associated with obesity. It make sense then that a Chinese study of 2,230 cancer patients found the number one indicator of survival was social connectedness. It seems friendship is not only important to maintain health, but also helps us heal when we are ill.

Finally, in an Australian Longitudinal study of ageing, friendship was identified as being able to increase longevity by up to 22 per cent. This could be a significant factor as to why the nursing home population is extraneously dominated by widowed, female residents. Although men can have many friendships; few would equal the intimacy, which female friends experience.

So that about wraps it up. Ladies not only have proof they need to tell our partners to go to the doctors but scientific evidence to support chatting on the phone and heading out for that coffee date!

By Kim Chartres

Are Women Wanting More Sex Than Their Partners?

It’s a myth that women’s sex drives don’t equal that of men and, in many cases, actually even exceed it. Centuries of cultural conditioning and suppression has seen to it that the double standard of slut vs stud is still alive and well. To make matters worse, many women support this value. They would be more comfortable labelling other women who openly admit their sexual behaviour, rather than standing up and acknowledging their own.

Not only that, as a result of this widespread disbelief, men can feel emasculated by women with sexual appetites greater than their own. It goes against societal expectations of the submissive female and promiscuous male. Some women assume that men who have partners with equal or greater sexual appetites, would love it. However, for many men, it can be a turn-off when they aren’t the ones who consistently initiate sex.

Women aged in their late-30s to 50s are at greatest risk of being labelled. We’ve all heard the term “cougar” right? Research indicates women in this age group are wanting more sex than at any other time of their lives. The problem is, just when they want more sex, their partners – who are often a similar age – have a sex drive that begins to slide. Women of this age are much more sexually compatible with younger men.

So where did the myth come from?

According to a leader in female sexuality, sexual functioning and gender differences, Associate Professor Meredith Chivers, male and female bodies respond equally to sexual stimuli. Chivers and colleagues, conducted a study to assess the level of arousal in both men and women, while listening to narratives describing conventional sexual activity. Using apparatus, affixed to subjects genitals, levels of arousal were scientifically measured. Results indicated, that biologically both sexes responded similarly.

When asked to self-report their level of arousal, men’s biological reactions matched their self-reports. However, womens self-reports didn’t. The researchers believed this was predominately a result of social conditioning, and not that women weren’t aware they experienced sexual arousal. Self-report “evidence” on women’s sexuality, would therefore be flawed if women neglect to report accurately.

Where to from here

Society would need to do a 180 shift, where women’s sexual experiences are celebrated as much as mens. Lets face it; if women are quick to label other women, we don’t have much hope of that. It’s up to women to initiate the drop in double standards if we want our daughters to get anywhere close to being understood as sexual beings. Until then, no amount of research will convince the masses, that women are sexually similar to men.

By Kim Chartres


Men Choose To Talk But Women Prefer Text

The average male mobile user makes almost 60 per cent more phone calls in a week than the average woman—but she’ll send 10 more text messages, the latest research from Roy Morgan shows. Mobile phone users in Australia made an average of 27 calls and sent 43 text messages per week in 2013, but across all age groups, men out-call women and women out-text men.

The average man makes 12 more mobile calls a week than the average woman (33 to her 21) while she sends 48 texts to his 38. The biggest gap in mean phone call numbers is among mobile users aged 35-49, where men make 18 more than women per week. Meanwhile, the average female aged 14-17 sends 91 texts in a week (an average of 13 a day)—nearly twice as many as a male her age.

Texting is highest among 18-24 year-old women, who average 105 messages a week, or 15 a day. Women out-text men in all other age groups too, although the difference is narrower.

Tim Martin, general manager of media at Roy Morgan Research, says:

“Male and female mobile users are fairly equal with regard to their usage of mobiles for calling and texting overall, with men making a combined 71 calls or texts compared with 69 for women. But while texting is the more common communication method for both sexes, women of all ages display a much stronger preference for just sending a message.

“Around 70 per cent of women’s total mobile communications are by text (48 of the 69 total), compared with 54 per cent of men’s (38 of 71). Men aged 35-49, 50-64 and 65+ are all more likely to make a call than text; among women, only those over 65 are more inclined to ring than just send a message.”

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