Scents

Unlocking The Secret Of Sexual Scents

If you are always on the look out for new ways to improve your sex life, you really need to be in on the secret of sexual scents. Those in the know have been sniffing their way to great sex for years and it’s about time you joined them! Much like gender specific pheromones which attract the opposite sex, different fragrances, aromas and scents do much the same thing and are well known natural aphrodisiacs.

It’s important to know the basic science behind scent and sexual enhancement to make it work best for you. Particular scents provoke memories. This is because these systems in our brains are interconnected. It’s the memories which can put us in a positive or negative mood. If a woman is in a positive mood, she becomes more receptive to attraction and advances. Simple isn’t it. The same can be said of men, plus some scents promote blood flow which improves sexually physical responses, like erections. Obviously it’s much more involved, but that’s the basics.

Now, before we go into which smells are recommended, please keep in mind that a bulk of the research is out of the USA. This may explain why Pumpkin Pie seems to rate so highly. If studies were confined to Australians smells like the beach maybe more prevalent. That’s why understanding the science can help you tailor particular aromas which work better for different people.

First up we have a gender divided chart created by Dr Alan Hirsch, a neurologist and psychiatrist. He operates the Smell & Taste Research and Treatment Foundation in Chicago and also developed the science of aromachology, which is the study of how odor impacts mood and human behavior.

For women, Hirsch recommends the following scents in order of potency:

Licorice or cucumber

Lavender or pumpkin pie spice

Baby powder and chocolate

Women’s perfume

For men, Hirsch recommends the following scents in order of potency:

Lavender and pumpkin pie spice

Licorice and doughnut

Pumpkin pie spice and doughnut

Orange

Lavender and doughnut

Licorice and cola

Licorice

Doughnut and cola

Buttered popcorn

Cranberry

Now, Hirsch is an American researcher. Notice the items on these lists are related to his culture which may provoke positive memories as well as enhance blood flow? It’s not that his list isn’t valid to Aussies, but be mindful of how scent effects memories, emotion and sex.

Below are more generic scents which can be found world wide. If you are after a particular sexual response like assistance maintaining an erection or making sex last longer, use these specific scents and try them out.

Black pepper

Black Pepper is meant to increase stamina and strength. Great for anyone wanting their man to last longer.

Clary sage

It has a musky, woody, sweet scent which is especially helpful for women with sexual dysfunctions such as low libido, as it reduces anxiety, increases energy and desire. It’s sexual healing properties, are also used for men.

Frankincense

A spicy wood aroma, this scent mimics sex hormones and therefore has powerful aphrodisiac properties. It is also known to relieve anxiety and depression. Often depression can reduce libido, so having this scent around should help.

Ginger and cinnamon

Spices which produce a heat when you eat them, often increase vitality and libido. Plus, a small drop of cinnamon on the genitals can induce sexual stimulation.

Jasmine

Is a strong scent which invokes strong emotions, strength, warmth, lasting affection and connection.

Lavender

In every sense lavender is a winner. It reduced anxiety which can lead to performance anxiety and decreases blood pressure. Like rose, it has properties which produce positivity and it excellent for both men and women.

Lime

Awakens the senses, opens communication channels, eases anxiety, adds a lightness in the air.

Musk

Musk is likened to testosterone, so it’s a winner with the ladies.

Patchouli

Some people liken patchouli to snuggling in the forest or the scent of the sixties. If you are from that era, it might evoke some strong memories of the free sex days to light your fire! It has a deep sweet earthy scent , which will be more popular for the ladies.

Peppermint

Much like the effects of Lime, providing a lightness in the air, but peppermint is so much better! Pure peppermint is essential, because anything else will have little effect.

Rose
The smell of roses makes a person feel positively, soothed, calm and relaxed. Therefore, they are offered as an aphrodisiac. Men have been bringing women freshly picked roses for centuries and now you know why!

Sandalwood

This is more of a man’s scent and has been proven to work wonders with impotence and anxiety. It is also said to induce sexual urges.

Vanilla

For men and women. It is calming, soothing and relaxing, which removes tension and lowers inhibition.

Vetiver

Is similar to patchouli with a hint of lemon. It has a very strong scent which can produce powerful emotional reactions and has properties which can remove the sense of fear. This is excellent for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma.

Ylang ylang

Is a powerful aphrodisiac. It increases libido, energy, attraction, emotion and reduces anxiety.

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November 13, 2014

A Couple’s Guide To Erotic Massage

Did you know some smells increase sexual pleasure and are better to use during an erotic massage? Much like the Ultimate Oral Sex Guide, this isn’t a step-by-step instructional guide to performing an erotic massage. No one can tell you what your partner likes better than your partner. Instead, we want to give you some tips on setting the scene, oil selection and the power of scent, plus a couple of performance tips to make the experience better.

Setting the scene

Now when setting the scene for an erotic massage, there are certain things you need to take care of BEFORE you begin.

Make time – Erotic massage isn’t something you should rush. If you are a busy couple, make a date for it to happen. If you have little kids, who still wake up during the night, send them to grandma’s/aunty’s/a friend’s place or you might have to get an overnight sitter and go to a hotel for the night. Don’t feel guilty about it. An erotic massage is an investment in your relationship so don’t make excuses, just make it happen!

Picking the location – You want the experience to be pleasurable. That can be hard to achieve if you are lying or kneeling on the floor for any length of time, particularly as you get older. If you use protective bedding, like a waterproof mattress protector, draped with high thread count sheets, you will both be much more comfortable. Yes, they will stain, so wash them after and keep them for these occasions. Just make sure you don’t end up having to sleep in a puddle of oils and body fluids later.

Lighting – Dim lighting is best because it induces relaxation and pleasure. Candle lighting is perfect, so aim for that effect.

Technology – Turn it off. That includes mobile phones and TVs. You might want some nice calming music playing quietly in the background but that’s about the only technology you should have around you.

Clothing – None. If you wear expensive lingerie, it will get stained when you are using oils. Plus, the bonus of being naked is knowing you will be free to use every part of your body to massage him. The sensation of skin on skin, especially if you slip and slide around together, will be much better without clothing restraints.

Preparing for the massage

There will be certain things which are needed to perform an erotic massage. Things like towels for cleaning up after and oils you plan to use. You might want to try a blindfold or add some sex toys. Get these ready before you begin. Why, you may ask? Not only will it allow you to concentrate solely on your performance but it can be really dangerous hunting around the house for things covered in oil. You want fun and pleasure, not a trip to the emergency room because you slid over and cracked your skull open! It may sound a bit ridiculous but it does happen. So please, don’t let it happen to you or your partner.

Oil selection and the power of smell

When choosing an oil, please take into consideration the effect smell has on pleasure senses. Erotic massage should be rejuvenating for the mind, body and spirit; so some smells are much better to use than others. For example, the scent of ylang ylang is soothing, a powerful aphrodisiac, increases libido, boosts low energy levels and improves love making. Then there’s cinnamon, which entices heat from within the body, increases sexual appetite and when rubbed sparingly on genitals, produces powerful stimulation.

Now, Lady Sclareol, which has been around since the middle ages, is an essential oil which has been blended using some of nature’s most exotic and aromatic essential oils, including ylang ylang, geranium, rosewood, jasmine, clary sage, sandalwood, and others. Its proprieties are an aphrodisiac for both sexes, claiming to calm, balance, enhance libido and encourage fertility.
Be aware that some essential oils may burn or irritate when they are directly used on the genital skin. If you are unsure, use only edible lubrication rather than an essential oil.  Many come in scented flavors. Keep in mind the scent won’t be as powerful as a pure essential oil, so you may want to use some incense, scented candles or oil in a burner, to improve the experience.

Performance tips

There’s a few things to remember when giving an erotic massage:

  • It’s a marathon, not a sprint and there’s no finish line. If you begin to get tired or sore, swap over with your partner and take turns. Make it last and don’t be consumed by arriving at the happy ending. It’s all about the journey!
  • Use plenty of oil. Don’t be afraid to get messy. The messier the better and that’s why you need to prep BEFORE you begin.
  • Use all of your body to perform the massage. If you do the entire massage with your hands, they will get tired. There’s nothing wrong with adding a heap of oil and laying on top of your partner and moving around. It’s all about the sensation of touch and the power of connection.
  • Don’t forget about their head and face either. Some people start at the head and work their way down for a few reasons. The first is you need to start somewhere. The second: Starting with the head will instantly relax your partner. Thirdly, you won’t be smothered in oil and get it in their eyes. Finally, by the time you reach the lower half of their body, you will be smothered in oil!

We hope you’ve found these tips useful. The power of smell, when it comes to improving sex and sexual performance, is reasonably in-depth and way more than we can cover here. If you want to know more; we have an article coming up in the next few weeks, on How The Power Of Smell Can Improve Your Sex Life, so look out for that one.

If you want to share anything we have or haven’t covered here, speak up, because we’d love to hear from you!

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November 2, 2014

The Fine Art Of Fragrance At Galerie De Parfum

Ever wanted to embark on a sensory journey through the evolution and development of fragrance to find your perfect scent? Rejoice perfume lovers, for just in time for Christmas, Agence de Parfum has opened a flagship Galerie de Parfum boutique within Myer Sydney.

RELATED: Are You Wearing The Right Perfume?

With another Galerie de Parfum in Myer Melbourne city, Agence de Parfum has created a suitably elegant Parisian-inspired space in which to showcase some of the world’s most luxurious and niche fragrances (pictured).

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Inspired by great French perfumeries, Galerie de Parfum houses highly coveted niche fragrance brands with scents from Costume National, Juliette Has A Gun, Keiko Mecheri, L’Artisan Parfumeur, Mark Buxton, Penhaligon’s, Neotantric, Robert Piguet, Lubin and P Frapin & Cie.

The first niche fragrance boutique in Sydney, Galerie de Parfum offers guests the chance to find their perfect scent using a fragrance wheel.

And, in there you find the firm favourites of Marie Antoinette, Princess Diana, Kate Moss, Grace Kelly, Winston Churchill, Edith Piaf, Frank Sinatra and more.

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Fragrance aficionados can also attend Fragrance Master Classes on a brief history of perfume and how to recognise and distinguish between scents of the world’s finest perfume houses. Bridal styling parties and hens’ activities are welcome.

Phone: 02 9238 9126

October 21, 2014

The Ultimate Guide To Perfume

The art of making perfumes can be traced back to Ancient Egypt, where chemists distilled flowers, oils and other scented produce. In times when bathing was rare, perfume was worn by the wealthy to disguise body door, and eventually became a commodity around the 17th century. Today, while most of us shower more often than the Victorians, we still enjoy a spritz of special scent to enhance our natural aroma. However, considering the number of perfumes available, selecting a scent can be a tricky activity. To help you out, here is your ultimate guide to choosing and applying perfume.

Speaking the language

Perfume is categorized according to the concentration of its raw scent. In your average department store, you will see two types of perfume: Eau de Parfum and Eau de toilette. Parfum is more concentrated – and therefore, more expensive – while toilette is lighter.

Choosing your scent

You might be surprised to know there is an official scent chart, which was most recently updated in 2010. According to this chart, there are four perfume families: floral, oriental, woody and fresh. Within these families there are 14 sub-groups, mostly describing the strength or type of this scent. The floral family obviously comprises flower-based scents, while oriental flavors includes spicy, asian-inspired aromas like vanilla and incense. The wood family includes patchouli and sandalwood-type scents, and your fresh smells are mostly fruity.

The best scent for you can depend on a number of factors, including your natural smell, the time of day, and the weather.  Some say a floral, sweet scent is best for day time, while a heavier oriental or spicy scent is more desirable at night. Similarly, stronger scents are better in the cold, lighter scents should be worn in summer.

It is vital to try before you buy, as the very same perfume can smell different depending on the person wearing it. You should spray perfumes on the cards provided in department stores and let it sit with you for a while – giving you time to absorb the different notes. If you still like it after ten minutes, try it on your skin. It is often recommended that you take a sample, try the perfume for a few days, and then make your final decision.

Helpful hint: Many stores provide coffee beans which serve to “cleanse your palette” or refresh your sense of smell. Be sure to sniff these in between samples to give you a clear sense of that perfume.

How to apply

  • It is best to apply your perfume after you shower, as your clean and open pores will better absorb the scent. Avoid using strong-scented shower products or moisturizers that will conflict with or overpower your perfume.
  • It is always best to apply directly to your skin, more specifically to your pulse points which can be located on your neck, behind your ears, on your wrists and in the inner elbows. Applying to the skin will also prevent your perfume from staining your clothes or jewelry.
  • Some people enjoy “spritzing” the perfume into the air and walking through to mist their body. However, this can waste a lot of your perfume, and doesn’t stay on your body for long.
  • Don’t rub your wrists together – the heat caused by the friction can actually change the scent!
September 3, 2014

Must-Have Spring/Summer Fragrances

Luxury fragrances are like shoes – you can never have too many. Here are Shesaid.com’s top picks of chic and highly covetable spring/summer scents – both new to counter and classics which never date. After all, you’re never fully dressed without perfume… 

Flower power: This new beauty from fragrance house L’Artisan Parfumeur is part of the Les Explosions d’Emotions collection by master perfumer Bertrand Duchaufour. Opulent and feminine, the fresh gardenia of the Rappelle-Toi Eau De Parfum, (125ml), $249, is invigorated by the fresh top notes of Sichuan pepper and gin and enhanced by musk, sandalwood and honey accents. Summer time, here we come! Find it at Libertine Parfumerie. Myer Melbourne’s Galerie de Parfum, David Jones Sydney, and other niche perfumeries in Australia and New Zealand.

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Packing heat: Parfumeur Romano Ricci has gone back to basics with Juliette Has A Gun Anyway Eau de Parfum, (100ml), $186. The latest unisex addition to the fashion-forward fragrance house Juliette Has a Gun, this sumptuous scent is an intoxicating blend of musks, woods and citrus. I adore the packaging in itself: a crisp, white bottle showcased in a grosgrain paper box, perfectly bound with a satin bow. The trick will be keeping it from your partner! Find it at Libertine Parfumerie, select David Jones and Myer department stores and other niche perfumeries in Australia and New Zealand.

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Summer lovin’: Clair Obscur Eau de Parfum, (75ml), $219, the enchanting, new fragrance from visionary Japanese artist Keiko Mecheri, has been described as being reminiscent of a sun-washed field of jasmine on a summer morning in Provence. A celebration of one of the world’s best loved flowers, Clair Obscur is a light, ethereal fragrance just perfect for long, languid spring/summer days by the sea. Find it at Libertine Parfumerie, select Myer department stores and other niche perfumeries in Australia and New Zealand.

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Roman goddess: Inspired by the Roman Empire and ancient Egyptian era, all-natural beauty line In Fiore has reintroduced a beautiful, traditional concept through its Patchouli Royal Parfum Solide, $99. Crafted with organic ingredients using only rare floral oils and highly concentrated absolutes, Patchouli Royal is packaged in a beautiful, brass compact. I love how it so easily slots into your make-up case! The stunning fragrance is dark and rooty, with a light, amber sweetness and a rich, woody base to balance the depth. Find it at Bathing Beauty Organic Apothecary.

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Heaven scent: Italian fashion house CoSTUME NATIONAL has launched its limited-edition fruity bouquet fragrance, Scent Gloss Eau De Toilette, (50ml), $110, part of its trilogy Scent collection. Comprised of Scent, Scent Sheer and Scent Intense, the trilogy is a sensual fragrance combination that’s both modern and timeless. Scent Gloss is a perfect spring/summer scent; it’s beautiful, light and sexy, with notes of purple orchid and fresh musk. Find it at Libertine Parfumerie, select David Jones stores and other niche perfumeries in Australia and New Zealand.

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Love at first sight: The new Fleurs de Gardenia, (75ml), $299, from celebrated French perfume house Creed is a scent created in the image of the first bloom of love. Master perfumer Olivier Creed, together with his son Erwin, blended the whimsical scent of first love gardenias, which only grow in pairs, to create a feminine, delicate fragrance perfect for the warmer weather months. There’s the divine scent of double blush roses, lavender peonies and other floral bouquets. Heaven! Royals such as Napoléon III, Empress Elizabeth of Austria-Hungary and Queen Maria Christina of Spain were among Creed’s exclusive clientele. Find it at Libertine Parfumerie, select David Jones stores and other niche perfumeries in Australia and New Zealand.

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August 4, 2014