Sex Vs Exercise: Which One Is Better For You?

Few of life’s unanswered questions are as vitally important as this: Is sex better for you than exercise? Does it stimulate you more, mind/body and soul?

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And, in the life of a super-busy woman, if you have to choose just one, which one should you pick? I know which one I’d prefer every time, circumstances permitting – sex. I’d much rather spend time getting busy with my beloved husband than being bossed around and worked to the bone by my ex-army commando PT and/or pounding the heinous treadmill at the gym. But what’s better for me?

So many questions… For answers, I turned to the good doctor, well the sex doc that is: Sydney sexologist, Dr Michelle Mars (pictured), who specialises in the sociology of sex gender and sexual well-being.

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There’s good news and bad news, ladies: a red-hot, sweaty sex session will blow your hair back way more than an equally messy gym session – yay! But unfortunately, you’d better not give up the gym workouts and PT sessions just yet – sad face.

“We know sex can be great exercise, it gets our hearts racing, makes our knees go weak, leaves us with aching muscles, gives us that healthy glow and even occasions sudden cardiac death in some circumstances,” Dr Mars says.

“Great sex is going to stimulate you more and make you feel better than a gym session ever could. But does that mean we should forgo the gym for a shag? Probably not, but nonetheless I’d take the sex myself.

“Which is better for you? The units of exercise required to minimise the risk of obesity, heart disease, cancer, and osteoporosis and so have been measured in units per day or per week. But we haven’t subjected sexual activity to the rigours of evidence-based medicine so we don’t know which is healthier.”

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So, can you burn more calories during a good sex session than on the treadmill? “Sex that makes you weak at the knees is going to get your heart racing one way or another. If your knees are weak from a good shagging then you’ve probably worked harder and expended more energy than you would have done at the gym,” Dr Mars quips.

“Does an orgasm give you more benefits than a personal training session? It definitely stimulates your cardiovascular system and holds the potential for more pleasure and a meditative or even spiritual experience.

“Sexual meditation is a technique that can be learned – all the benefits of meditation combined with the pleasures of sex. How can that not be beneficial?”

However, ladies, if you find yourself actually preferring gym to sex, because it buys you some much-needed time to yourself, that’s normal and natural too, says Dr Mars. “We know that stress, weight gain and lack of exercise don’t enhance our sexual performance, and if we are stressed out, time-pressured and the kids are about to start banging on the door then the gym probably presents itself as an urban sanctuary,” she says.

“But if you have the space and time, and you can exercise at another moment in the day, then sex – even if you don’t at first feel like it – is an incredibly healthy way to start the day.”

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However, if the sex gods aren’t playing along, and you do opt for the treadmill as an escape from your needy kids/husband/dog/goldfish – you can make it work for you, Dr Mars says. It’s all about exercising for sex; you can still make it count toward sexual satisfaction.

“There is a big muscle in humans called the psoas muscle (pronounced “so-az”). In beef, it’s the tenderloin and in humans it is also quite large, around 12 inches,” Dr Mars says. “The psoas muscle starts around the bottom of the spine and winds down and right around inserting into the top of the leg. It’s the source of a lot of back pain and keeping it strong and flexible is really important for good sex.

“If you can’t decide between sex and exercise, then put on some sexy music and have a little dance. Make a motion like you are hula hooping or hula dancing. You can also try moving your hips in a figure of 8. Make sure that your tail bone is tucked under and your bottom isn’t sticking out.”

So, there you have it, ladies. Sex and exercise perfectly complement each other, like wine and cheese. Both serve an important purpose, but if at the end of the day you only have time for one, grab your partner and have some fun – the naked kind!

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20 Interesting Sex Facts

1. So you haven’t experienced an orgasm through intercourse? You’re not alone. Only 30 per cent of women have orgasms from intercourse. Studies have shown that women are more likely to reach orgasm through manual or oral stimulation.

2. Lubrication during sexual excitement varies greatly among women and can depend on many factors, such as state of health, age, mood, or partner. Many women find that using additional lubricant increases sexual pleasure.

3. Who would have that woman’s best friend, her trusty vibrator, was originally invented in the 19th century to reduce ‘hysteria’? Enough said.

4. We-Vibe Australia has discovered that 44 per cent of women are open to the idea of bringing a vibrator with them when travelling. Love the idea of a holiday fling?

5. Ever heard of ‘Sexercise’? For each 30 minute romp you are looking at a burn of 200 calories. What would you rather: Doing the deed or pounding that treadmill?

6. The BIG question – does size matter? 85 per cent of women were satisfied with their partner’s penis size, but only 55 per cent of men were satisfied. Notice anything? It’s how one uses it that counts.

7. If we didn’t already have enough reasons to jump into bed, here’s another… orgasms lower a woman’s risk of heart disease, stroke, breast cancer and even depression. Get jiggy with it ladies, it’s good for you!

8. Get talking. People who are more open to talking about sex are likely to experience a better sexual experience.

9. Looking for a way to accentuate your assets? We’ve got a solution for you. It’s as simple as getting turned on! Your boobs can swell up to 25 per cent when you’re aroused.

10. Not feeling great? Too tired to have sex? Think again. Sex can be an instant headache reliever. It releases the tension, which restricts blood vessels in the brain.

11. Did you know for both men and women the heart rate averages 140 beats per minute at the point of orgasm?

12. Appreciate what you bring to the bedroom. Studies have shown that women who accept their bodies have better and more open sex lives.

13. The average amount of time you spend locking lips with someone in your lifetime is 20,160 minutes. That’s 336 hours, 14 days or 2 weeks.

14. Great news ladies! The clitoris is the only organ in the human body with just one purpose: Pleasure.

15. Men can have multiple orgasms, but ladies still come out on top! The average female orgasm lasts 20 seconds – 14 seconds longer than the male’s 6-second O.

16. Forget post sex cuddling! 36 per cent of people under the age of 35 check their Facebook and Twitter accounts after doing the deed.

17. A Doctor Oz sex survey showed that 58 per cent of woman owned a vibrator. The result? An increased sexual desire and arousal, better natural lubrication and enhanced ease of orgasm during sex overall, compared with those who said they had never used a vibrator.

18. There are approximately 100 million acts of sexual intercourse each day.

19. At any given time, 25 per cent of people are daydreaming about sex. In fact, you’re probably reading this daydreaming of last night right now.

20. Risky business! Men take more risks when they know hot women are looking.

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