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Fifty Shades Of Grey Sex Balls: Fact Vs Fiction

“Trust me?” he asks.

I nod. He holds out his hand, and in his palm are two shiny silver balls linked with a thick black thread.

“These are new,” he says emphatically.

I look questioningly up at him.

“I am going to put these inside of you, and then I’m going to spank you, not for punishment, but for your pleasure and mine.” Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey, sex, Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls, Kegal Balls, Luna Beads, Burmese bells, Orgasm Balls, Geisha Balls: call them what you will, but these small, marble-sized weighted balls now have a centre-stage role thanks to erotic blockbuster Fifty Shades of Grey.

The extract above is from the 2011 E L James bestselling book. It remains to be seen if the sex balls, as I like to call them, will feature as prominently in the highly anticipated film adaptation due out around February 12.

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The first book in the erotic trilogy, about a virginal 21-year-old college gal and the 27-year-old billionaire who love a bit of rough play, Fifty Shades has caused sales of sex toys, bondage and S&M gear to skyrocket both nationally and internationally. And the classic Ben Wa Balls, or various versions of them, have been flying off the shelves too, ever since.

The weighted balls are worn inside the vagina and have long been used to strengthen pelvic floor muscles – but can they, as Fifty Shades of Grey’s female protagonist Anastasia Steele experiences – also bring you to orgasm?

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In the book, Anastasia suddenly turns nympho – “needy for sex” ­– after wearing said balls and almost has an orgasm after infamous male protagonist Christian Grey “jerks them out…suddenly”.

So, can we expect the same, if we wear the balls in real life? Sadly, no.

Leading Australian sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein says do your research before use when it comes to the balls and, importantly, they’re not recommended for young girls. “On a pelvic floor basis, these balls are great,” Dr Goldstein says. “They can strengthen your muscles and aid bladder control.

“They’re also great if you forget to do your pelvic floor exercises (also called Kegel exercises).”

But what about the big O? Surely, Fifty Shades of Greys famous sex scene isn’t a fake?! Dr Goldstein says strong pelvic floor muscles can help you to have more orgasms, and strengthen the intensity of your big Os, but as for the balls themselves, it’s not the usual practice for them to be used for sexual enjoyment. What the hell E L James?!

“For some people, the more weighted ones can put pressure on the vaginal canal and rub on the G-spot,” she says. “And some people also insert them in the vaginal canal during anal sex.

“But I’d be reluctant to tell people to use them exclusively for sexual pleasure.”

Note well, ladies: do not put the sex balls in your anus as there’s a high likelihood the balls will, erm, disappear, according to Dr Goldstein.

Fifty Shades of Grey, sex, Ben Wa Balls

So, what’s the moral of the story here, ladies?

“Do not use Fifty Shades of Grey as a text book on sex!” Dr Goldstein says. “It’s a fantasy novel, not a sex education book.

“But it just goes to show that people are craving information about sex topics.

“My final advice would be definitely do not expect to almost have an orgasm just by using the balls.”

Does spanking by a hot man help?

For more information on Dr Goldstein, visit drnikki.com.au.

What do you think? Have you tried using the sex balls?

Secondary image via fiftyshadesaddicted.com;  book image via www.npr.org and cartoon via www.wheresmyglow.com.

January 27, 2015

Top Sex Toys For Beginners

When you and your partner decide to introduce a sex toy into your relationship it can be daunting to try and choose the best one for you.  There are so many different toys for different things but if you’re just starting out something small and simple could be your best bet.  So, here are some of the top sex toys for beginners.

Dirty dice

Start off slowly and ease yourself into the big wide world of sex toys by starting with these simple dirty dice.  One dice is covered in actions and the other is covered in body parts so just roll the dice and do whatever it tells you to do.  It’s a fairly basic start for beginners but exciting all the same.

Top Sex Toys For Beginners

Cupid’s Itty Bitty Beginner’s Butt Plug

Just the name alone is enough to make some people cringe but this tiny device can provide massive amounts of stimulating pleasure.  For some women anal sex can be a major turn off (possibly due to the fact that their partner once tried to slip it in on the sly), but with a little planning it can be extremely pleasurable.  Cupid’s Itty Bitty Beginner’s Butt Plug is small enough to wear all day if you wanted to, is made from silicone, has a tapered tip for easy insertion and a rounded bulb for maximum pleasure.  The flared base means that the butt plug will stay in place and is easily removed using the finger pull.

Top Sex Toys For Beginners

We Vibe 4 Vibrator

What could be better than a sex toy that enhances both partner’s enjoyment?  The We Vibe 4 does just that with its six vibration modes that provide intense stimulation.  Made from medical grade silicone, the We Vibe vibrator is curved to fit snugly in place and stimulates the clitoris and g-spot while the man slips in underneath and enjoys the same vibrating pleasure.  The We Vibe even has a remote control so you can change the intensity as you please.

Top Sex Toys For Beginners

Blindfold 

If you suffer from self-consciousness in the bedroom then something as simple as a blindfold during sex can spice up your life.  To help alleviate your nerves have your partner wear a blindfold and make sure they can’t sneak a peek.  Wearing a blindfold and knowing that you’re not being judged visually can help you to relax and feel less self-aware and if you feel confident enough after a while, try waring it yourself.  The excrement of the unknown will definitely get your heart racing.

Top Sex Toys For Beginners

Lelo Lily Massager

If you’re just starting out with sex toys then the Lelo Lily massager is a great buy, useful for helping you to figure out which vibration you like the best.  It’s an external sex toy that stimulates the clitoris using powerful vibrations whilst being discreet and petite.  Fitting in the palm of your hand the Lelo Lily massager can easily be carried in your handbag and has five different vibration modes for your pleasure.  It’s fully rechargeable and you can enjoy it on your own or with your partner, the choice is yours.

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September 17, 2014