Sexual-fantasy

Can A Celebrity Crush Sex Up Your Marriage?

Do celebrity crushes perform an important role as a marital and/or sex aid in our lives, or are they a dangerous precursor to a jail sentence for stalking? I jest, of course, with the latter, for celebrity crushes have long been a driving force in teenage, and even adult, lives for generations.

In grade three, I was so besotted with Michael Jackson, I lovingly adorned all my school folders with glorious images of the late King of Pop. Then, Thriller happened and I had to dump Michael’s arse, for those iconic posters were far too scary for the likes of mini-me. Poor, late MJ.

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Next up, I’ve had the longest love affair of my life – albeit a frustratingly unrequited one, from afar – with U2 frontman Bono (main image), who replaced MJ in my heart when, as a teenager, I discovered the band’s iconic hit album, The Joshua Tree. That voice; his passion for social justice; and his long, dark hair and Celtic good looks had me captivated. Indeed, I still find the aging rock star somewhat swoon-worthy despite his band’s recent Apple album-sharing debacle.

Today, my modern muse – or celebrity crush of the moment – is actor Rupert Friend’s broody, elite CIA black-ops agent character Peter Quinn (pictured below), in Homeland. He’s like James Bond, but with a soul. Swoon.

And I swear I am singlehandedly carrying the Homeland fan base here in Australia and my husband dutifully downloads (legally) episodes for me to watch well after the shows have aired, given they’re now shown ridiculously late on TV, too late for an exhausted mum of two toddlers, seemingly due to aforementioned lack of popularity.

I can’t get enough of Quinn’s amazing cheekbones, which could cut glass; his unrequited feelings for Carrie, the show’s female lead; and his dashing, man-of-action modern-day spy with a conscience.

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So, do you have a pretend boyfriend, too? Who takes your fancy? And is a celebrity crush a good fantasy tool in a long-term relationship, or does it spell disaster for you and your significant other?

Relationship experts say celebrity crushes are common and should not be kept secret from your partner. Instead, you can actually boost your sex life by talking to your beloved about who floats your boat, erm aside from them, that is.

It’s all part of using fantasy role playing to sex up our love lives, so long as you don’t alienate your partner, experts insist. So, how do you do that? Keep it light, safe and fun by sharing the fantasy of someone unattainable with your partner – chances are, for example, I’m not going to bump into super-sexy Quinn any time soon (bugger).

And my husband, who has a cute crush on a certain very attractive celebrity (whom we’ve both met) isn’t likely to be socialising with her again anytime soon, phew (or this lifetime, I hope).

And here’s the all-important bit – relationship experts say you don’t want to be telling your significant other your sexy daydreams about the personal trainer you’re seeing twice weekly. Now, that’d be both stupid and dangerous. It’s got to be someone so ridiculously famous you’d actually probably drop dead from shock/excitement if you met them in real life.

What do you think? Do you have a celebrity crush?

Main image via www.cerveaux.dk; MJ image via www.ebay.com and Quinn image via www.sho.com.

November 6, 2014

How to have phone sex



The most important thing about phone sex is imagination and fun. It is not meant to be like homework, something you sweat over, although sweating is good if you can manage it! You and your partner will need to be able to enter the world of make-believe together. At first, this can feel silly and even confusing. How do you strike up a sexual conversation without feeling dumb? How do you know what to say next? Probably, the easiest thing to do is to ask your partner what their sexual fantasies are. Then on the telephone you can act them out.

Maybe pretending to have him kidnap you from your home and making you his sex slave. This could mean talking out your last sexual encounter that the two of you had together, or want to have together. Also, try directing the other person to touch him/herself. You can alter the speed, location or stroke of their touch. Let them be your hands and simply let them tell ‘your hands’ what to do when. Talk the other person through a complete sexual fantasy. If you still have no idea of what to do, try using the teacher-student relationship fantasy. The role of the student is to ask the teacher for help in learning an assignment. The teacher’s role is to teach the student and of course correct his or her work.

What are you waiting for? Pick up the phone right now!

January 2, 2000