Shy? 4 Easy Ways to Be More Confident

Shy? You’re not alone! Most people admit to being introverts than extroverts, but there are ways you can improve your confidence whether you’re going to a job interview or want to speak up more in your relationship. Here are some easy techniques to help overcome shyness.


We always think new clothes or makeup can make you feel better about yourself. Yet, we tend to overlook the one thing that can make a difference in how confident you feel no matter what you wear. That is your posture. People who stand and sit up straight are seen by others as being more confident and in control. Start by consciously sitting and standing with better posture, lifting your shoulders down and back, keeping your eyes focused on the horizon ahead of you, and soon good posture will become second nature.


Learn how to calm yourself down by focusing on your breath. Slow down the rate of your breathing, becoming conscious of each in breath and out breath, and you will feel your overall mood calm down. That’s because by slowing your rate of breathing you are also giving yourself some time and space to absorb your surroundings in a non-threatening way. It’s a means of forcing you to relax. Before you walk into a job interview, take several slow in breaths and out breaths. Confidence and calmness go together, so practice using your breathing.

Just smile

The best way to improve your attitude is to smile! That may seem like corny advice, but it’s a tried-and-true meditation technique that works. No matter what you’re doing right now, smile softly, and it will instantly lift your mood and make the people around you happier. People who have blank expressions on their face, or worse, look angry, will keep people away from you, while confident people are quick to smile, and makes you look more approachable.

Be complementary

Try this easy technique: say something nice to the next person you talk to. It might be complimenting their shoes, their haircut, or the dinner they just cooked for you. Many shy people complain that they just don’t know what to say in social situations. When in doubt of what to say, find something to praise. You’ll usually hear something nice in return, which is a great confidence booster.

The key to overcoming shyness is practice. By practicing good posture, smiling, calm breathing exercises and complementing others, you will find your shyness stops defining you, and you’ll feel more confident in your day-to-day situations.

What techniques have helped you overcome your shyness?

March 13, 2014

How to Overcome Shyness?

Everyone has felt shy at some stage in their lives and the best way to work out when you get shy is remembering situations where you have clamped up. Was it when someone said something about your physical appearance? Was it when you were asked to stand up and state your opinion?Whatever it was, one has to remember that there’s an underlying reason for how you react in situations. A psychologist once said to me that you have to act as if you’re not shy. Even when you are on your own you have to behave as if you’re oozing confidence. You do this by holding your chin up, sticking your chest out, even add a swagger to your walk not too much though.

Speak firmly and clearly. This will give the appearance of being really confident. All right, it might seem ridiculous but I can assure you, this will definitely see results when you’re out in public. Another friend of mine, who always gets jobs and boyfriends, says you should practice making eye contact and smiling in your interaction with others.

Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events. I suggest you always look your best and one way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit the way you are self-critical. Don’t stand in front of the mirror and tug at your stomach and thighs.

Another important point to remember is to lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone and they are rude or ignore you, just walk away. Absolutely everyone has been rejected at some point but no one has to dwell on it for very long. Look and learn. Watch friends or strangers who aren’t shy and learn their tips first hand. Finally learn to feel positive about yourself. Don’t’ get frustrated and remember the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

February 1, 2000